Sex and highschool

well u are arguing against having sex in hs which i understand but ive had both types of sex. casual sex and w/e u wana call the sex when ur in a good relationship and it isnt just for shallow reasons. im 16 and ive had sex with 4 girls. i dont regret having sex with any of them. the girls that i had casual sex with (2 of the 4) knew it was casual sex and must have been a part of ur "70%". the other 2 girls i was in a long relationship with before sex happened. the problem with that is both of them were first timers. and a lot of the time when a girl gets in a long relationship and then losses her virginity to the guy, she usually becomes even more attached to the guy. i had to break up with both of them at one point and it wasnt pretty. so there are ups and downs to both types of sex. soo really u need to have sex before u complain about it
 
thank you

"What about the other 30%?

The people who don't really give a fuck about sex? These are the people who think that a relationship between two individuals should be focused on one thing: Love. To us, a loving relationship isn't measured by bases or "how far we have gone." We are becoming quite rare, I only know very few people who have openly said that they wouldn't care if they waited to have sex until after high school, college or even marriage."

my problem with this part is people in high school dont know shit about relationships and what they want in one, because theyre in fucking high school. and almost never does a "relationship" last past high school.

 
I dont know what to say other than I'm not in the 70% or the 30%. That is a stereotype. Sex and highschool have no correlation. Sure there are people who are simply followers, they cannot decide for themself and always need a nudge in the "right" direction. They could have low self confidence. Then there are the leaders who simply send their peers in the direction they seek. Whether it is an invite to a party, getting drunk, playin a cool drinking game, smokin herb, tellin them what they think is cool, whos a slut, whos a whore, whos a bitch. People can actually gain confidence in themself by performing an act of anything. Even if the act is talking about another soul. It makes them feel good!!

Sex is a HUGE confidence booster though. Without a doubt.
 
i disagree. yes social values have changed, but not only in regards to sex. the average age of marriage has gone WAY up, and people have realized this. it is unrealistic to think that the majority of kids are going to wait for that when theyre hitting theyre sexual peak at 17 or 18. it's not being impatient, its biological. i dont believe that humans have been wired to only have sex for reproduction. i think most teenagers have more sense than you give them credit for.

also, i disagree that high school students are as obsessed with sex as you say. yes, individually, of course everyone thinks about it, and superficially its everywhere. but noone at my old highschool was classified by who was a virgin and who wasnt. personally, ive been in several types of relationships, long term with lots of sex, long term with no sex, short term with and without sex. and i know many other people who have been in the same position. interestinly, i dont classify those relationships by how much sex we had. it was just something that happened in th relationship and it was no big deal.

while some may argue this is immoral, i tink it shows the decrease of obsession with sex. its no longer a big deal, and thats fine with me.
 
I agree with pretty much everthing he said. That is one reason I really hate public school was because of all of the shallowness. People werent real, they were just being what they thought others thought they should be. Or what was thought to be "cool". I also think that the actual precentage would be higher. I think that it is possible for high schoolers to have a mature relationship, but not very common. I have a gf and we have been going out for 2 years, and have not had sex. Im going into my senior year, and will be 18 in 4 days. I dont know if Im going to marry her yet, but thats why you should date. To find someone to marry, not to find out what kind of sex you like best. And just because something is in your nature doesnt make it right. If I get really really mad at someone it is in my nature to want to hurt them physically (like kill them). But that deffinatly NOT make it right!
 
ok firstly i wasnt saying u cannot have an opinion (even tho i know i wrote it but it came out completely wrong) yes you can have an opinion but you won't have anything to back up the opinion if uve never tried it. thats like saying i hate the taste of cherry if uve never tried a cherry.
 
thats exactly how i am, but ive had girlfriends lol....

im not into the 3 day relationships...my shortest relationship was like 4 moths...
 
okay i didnt bother ready all the responses to this could already have been said, but realisitically the only reason people in past generations have been able to wait until marriage is that people got married so much younger. Since we are now expected to get married at ages more like the late twenties/early thirties it is just ludicrous to expect people to wait...in earlier generations people were getting married at ages much more like late teens to early twenties which is a much more realistic amount of time to wait to have sex
 
i dunno....i think when people are getting married younger, there more likely to devorce...but thats what i thnk//
 
divorced or not...it makes it a hell of a lot easier to wait untill marriage, divorce just happened to be looked upon really badly before and is way too common these days, i think if it hadnt been 'so bad' people from earlier generations would have divorced too
 
i dont no man divorce rates ar pretty high at the momement, then where will u be, 40 years old only screwed one chick who in turn screwed u for kids an money
 
what's the difference between sex in a relationship and a marriage? the only reasons I can see to wait are religious, and that's just plain stupid. Back in the day when u didn't have condoms and the likes, I could see how it would be sensible to wait, because u could end up having kids with the girl. now however it doesn't really matter.
 
wow that sounded like he knew what he was talking about, had some good references i think because he made a good point
 
word man, i'm 16, i just had sex like a week or two ago. i've been going out with her for a year and a half or something like that. let me tell you, its good stuff, but i totally agree when you say that it brings you closer. when you have been going out for that long you dont think you can get closer, but then you do. anyway i do agree that its fucked up how early its happening but i guess thats just how it is..
 
Man, I agree with most of the stuff you're saying, about how our society has been so overloaded with the media promoting sex. For sure people who choose to wait until marriage get ragged on, but props to them for standing up for something that they believe in. That is my plan, which I have for several reasons, the most important being my own values and my religion. (A lot of the people who choose to wait are Christian, and people should respect what they do because to them there are benefits to waiting, and there can be consequences to not waiting - stds, emotional pain/baggage after the breakup, etc.)

that's just my opinion
 
You took the words from my fingertips. I think what your friend blogged about is not deep or anything, but he is actually very oblivious to the facts that face him. Hormones are in all high-school students, and especially in early high school or late middle school, and all that built up sexual frustration from wanting to fuck a girl but feeling insecure about the size of your dick or whatever it is, comes out in high school, usually second half, when people finally realize "Holy shit, this is one of the last times I WILL be able to go to a party, fuck a girl, and not give a shit the next morning!" I mean I see how you're talking abou the whole love thing, but come on, were 16 years old, you're telling uys we should get married? What, are you coming from the Renaissance or something? I know people who have tried to have a meaningful relationship, were together for a year, then had sex, and two weeks later, they had broken up. Having sex brings that realtionship to a different level, whatever that happens to be. So even though you say you talked to all your cousins and stuff (which I am not saying is a lie or anything,) just take a few seconds and think, hey, why did I masturbate for all those years? (and still today I'm sure)Oh yeah! it's because I wanted to have sex! You're trying to act too mature for your age. Wait until your late twenties to think about "love" and stuff, and about getting into a real relationship with somebody else. Until then, make all the whoopee you want.

Theres my counter-rant.
 
yea good post buuut... if im gonna go out with a girl, thats not the most important thing... i dont have to go out with a girl to have sex with her or have any type of relationship, if im gonna go out with a girl im gonna care about her not just want to fuck her
 
Listen to Sex by Kyprios, good song

I agree that a relationg ship based on sex is messed up but you gotta realize that sex is very natural. I dont think that sex in a highschool relationship is wrong so long as the relationship is not based on sex and that it is not just hard fucking but real love making sex.

 
To whoever wrote this: I agree with most of what you said, however first, I think you were rather pessimistic with your percentiles. I don’t think that 70% of people are in the category you placed them in, at least not 70% of the people I know. And secondly I think your final rant about Planned Parenthood was very immature and ill founded. If you really knew anything about planned parenthood you would know that they promote abstinence as they best birth control method, however, they have accepted the fact that not all people are going to practice abstinence so they have decided to set up a help center for those who need it. Kids are going to have sex, so why not teach them how to be safe about it. Planned Parenthood is a great organization and they have helped many kids who had no other options. Also, it wasn’t our generation that applied the baseball analogy physical contact, and it wasn’t our parents’ generation either. That has been around for a long time.
 
Hey for all you kids who say "I'm waiting for marriage" what if the girl u marry has an std and all those times u were trying not to get 1 by masterbating and not fucking. Then u fuck ur wife, std. That would be ironic wouldnt it. ahahahah.
 
i will make a comment on the last two paragraphs.

the reason that committee was established was because whether you like it or not, teens are gona fuck anyay. if you tell them not to, hell that will only make them fuck more. think about how a 14 year olds mind works: they believe being a badass is the cool thing to do and they get street cred from stupid shit like j-walking or stealing a candy bar from a convenience store. or even better, drinking. these kids are underage and drinking is illegal for them. hell, thats where all the fun is at. if drinking was legal for all ages it wouldnt be half the stink as it currently is.

trust me i see this all the time. i work at a pool and when im lifeguarding i see 14 year old kids breaking little rules all the time and hollering at eachother for it. they fuckin race on the slippery pooldeck (its indoors so it is very slippery). also, they do stupid shit like throw footballs at other people swimming laps and calling them fags. and when we go and try and do something about it, the little shits talk right back to us thinkin there so big and tough shit. well i got news for your little prepubescent asses: your just making yourself look like a tool. your too young to realise it, and if you could see through my eyes you would be extremely embaressed.

sorry for the rant but i was pretty steamed that day and wanted to get that out.
 
hmm... all of this sounds really familiar, maby that is because you are just repeating everything that i said and then adding I think or We think infront of it, maby that is because you are a poser who should make up your own ideas instead of re-quoting other ppl's ideas.

ps. why do you say that your name is "nate b." MATT
 
1) true - i have refused

2) true - i could have sex whenever i want

3) true - you are lieing about your name and are a poser emo kid

 
ooooo, so you want to copy more stuff that you didn't make up yourself, you fucking tard, why don't you get a brain and use it, all you know how to do is copy and paste
 
its true that some highschool relationships can be shallow, but i know some people in high school acctually think they love each other. so does that make it ok?
 
YOU MORON, now you are really making stuff up now,

i turned down head, retard. i think that it is gross, sticking my dick in somebody's mouth, that is NOT where it belongs.

i then turned down sex when it was offered as an alternative.

matt you should do your self a favor and stop lieing about your name and then start getting a life and not copying other ppl's stuff.

go stick your hand in a blender and then hot glue your nipples to a freight train.
 
you are a fucking dumbass, i am the real writer of that shit up there, and fyi i spent about half an hour on it and really don't care much about whats in it, my fag "friend" posted it w/o telling me and i found it b/c random ppl on myspace started talking to me.

i am not emo, i have a girlfriend who wants sex (but i turned her down b/c i don't) i am only 15 years old, and you know what i actually truely don't care wheather i have sex or not in highschool or college, so you are wrong. if you dissagree with me i don't care.

you are complaing about me writing this stupid blog, when you probably wasted 5 minutes reading it, you are the one who needs to get a life, fag
 


i am the guy who actually wrote this blog, my idiot friend who calls himself gun_it posted it without my permission.-

you are right, there are alot of ppl who don't care, i have a few friends like you, but why do you think that sex is a huge confidence booster?

because it is considered to be cool by the 70%, and all of the media (mtv for example) glorify sex.
 
hey this is the actual writer of the blog, my friend posted it without my permission because he is a poser fag.

you are right, but i have a question, how old are you and why the fuck did you just waste your time reading what a niave 15 yearold wrote, you need to get a life.
 
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