Im sorry, but i need your help (and try to avoid the flaming)

skidemon22

skidemon22

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ok, so here goes (its gonna be sorta long):

im a junoir (16) and i have/had a gf (freshman, 14)since about the first week of december. weve had fun and i was really starting to like her (more than i did to begin with) and we go out to the movies and such. anyway, over the past week, she has given allusions to potential "stuff" that she has done while we were going out. now, at first i tried to get her to tell me, but she said nothing and i let it go. but than on friday i go to the movies with my friends and she wen tto the movies with one of her friends (which was alright since we wanted to just hangout) my movie ended at like, 9:00 and she (for some reason left her movie about 5 mins later and we se each other out side and im like holding her and we are making out and such. anyway she goes to her movie and i gert picked up. then on saturday, im over house and we dont even make out. so im just thinkin that she thought that it was wierd since her parents were there or w/e. we talk on the phone and she doesnt mention anything. then last night, were talkin on the phone, and she asks "this has nothing to do with anything, but would you break up with me if i cheated on you?" The second i heeard that i was like , fuck. then i have to go do some dishes and she says to call her back. so when i call her back she says "i need to tell you somthing..." And she tells me about how after her movie her and an old boyfriend (also freshman) hook up. she says that she was stupid and retarded and stuff like that. and at this point im shaking with anger (and im not one to get angry, trust me). i dont know what to say or do. i didnt want to break up with her since i was reallly starting to like her, but she cheated on me and my fiends say that i should just end, eveen if i do, im dtill gonna have to deal with the kid that she hooked up with. i cant afford another fight (i already have 1 from my freshman year) in school, and if its out of school there is a good cance cops will get involved. anyway ive resorted to NS to for help just cause there some are some good people here and i was just wonderin how i should deal with the present situation. thanks.

dont give me shit for being a loser since i have to ask Newschoolers, please, its been a bad weekend as is. peace.

 
this could be a record for the number of girlfriend help threads posted in a week

....in the history of message boards
 
Find someone better. If it wasn't really in your best interest to break up, and what you really wanted to do, then you wouldn't even be asking yourself this question. The fact that you're questioning it so much means it'll likely just end soon enough due to this event or another of similar nature... well, that's what I get from it anyways...
 
just stop talking to her break off all communication, that will make her go nuts, assuming that she accaully liked you, and you should fight the kid just for the hell of it, i mean like damn hes a freshman too, fuck him up
 
Fuck it. Drop her. I promise. If you let her do it once it will happen again. Do not let her do that to you. Mark my words.
 
dont beat up the dude its not his fucking fault she cheated on you. she made up her own mind. beat her up.
 
tell her its ok, have make up sex, and then break up. That will show the bitch to not cheat on you. If sex won't happen, just jizz in her eye
 
beat him to death with a wiffleball bat. he's a freshman, you're a junior, break his nose or something
 
dont end it with her but cheat on her with as many people as you can and get aids or a std and then do it with her so she get some crazy diseas
 
you tell everyone you know about it and then you break up with her. then girls feel reallly bad for you and theyll be all over you. if you play it right, ull have someone to screw by the end of the week.
 
well if your gonna have to deal with him whether you break up or not then dont break up. And your a junior and hes a frosh, you could take him, probably
 
invite the other guy over, the freshman. when he comes over serve him a cocktail. but for about 2 days before this get as much skeet from your body as you can. then put the skeet in his eye so it burns and then stab him.

or just keep it real and say "who cares" and go out with different girls
 
dude.. seriosuly break up with her and dont give it a second thought.. and as some1 said above stop all communication with her and it will make her go nuts.. and she will be wanting u back sooo bad.. but dont go back out with her.. just use her as a random hook up
 
stay with her, throw it in her, then break up with her. pretend you dont care then slam it back to her and call her a whore after you bone her. haha yess
 
i'll go against the grain and say give her another chance. everyone fucks up. i have, ^he has, ^^he has, and i'm sure ^^^^he has. if you like her enough to give it another go then do it. maybe she learned from her mistake
 
its obivous she cheated on you fuckin dump her. and that other guy id say knock his ass out. make him unable to make out with the bitch anymore
 
i just got off the phone with her an d she says that she really likes me and that she really still wants to go out with me and that she is sooooo retarded and that she will never do it again. as of right now were on an indefite break. i do belive in second chances and they only kissed (i believe that she is telling the truth about this one) and that she reouldnt do anything else. and i kinda want to give her a second chance only cause i was REALLY starting to like her and i saw a future. so, Mrkguru12*

i agree with you but im not sure that i can be seen as a bitch and go back to her. i could probably have another gf but i really like her and i think that maybe we can still be together.

keep in mind "To err is human, to forgive divine."

even still, ill have to deal with this bitch (the dude) tommorrow. my boys will prob. give him shit and push him into lockers and such . but im not sure.

thanks for listening.
 
sorry but i already talked to her, but that does seem to be a decent plan. thanks. i used this before and it does work wonders. not bad.
 
i think that if she cheated once already with him early in your relationship she will most likely do it again, so unless you want your heartbroken, you might wanna move on no matter how much you are starting to like her. There are better girls out there.
 
Man no offense, but drop all the poetic shit. You are a junior in high school dating a freshman. Take a step back and realize you are 16 or 17 years old, in high school, adn you are dating a 14 year old. I guarentee you in 3 years you will not still be going out with her, and she will probably never cross your mind again. Just go with the flow and forget all the stupid hihg school drama shit.
 
Serious Answer.

Man I have gone through closly the same thing, it's such a hard descision, when my Gf cheated on me, I didn't want to break up with her, but I did because there was too much drama. I a pretty well known at my school, and absolutly everyone hated her, and I felt really bad, cause I'm a nice guy. So I told her I forgave her, and I still hangout with, she's unfortuantly obssesed with me, and I'd like to go out with her again, but can't get what she did out of my head.

Honestly your situation was not as bad as mine, for certain reasons. But maybe a week of space just too cool off and really think about things. Maybe she desereves a second chance, I don't know its up to you.

And for the guy, just scare him for now. He tries anything again, fuck him up.
 
be the better person. forgive her and stay with her. you'll seem like such an awesome person to her, and you'll have so much power over her. and she'll always remember you for your grace and forgiveness.
 
dude, this is the best answer i have heard.

this is pretty much what im thinkin' but i havent decide yet on whether or not to break up with her. but i am a REALLY well known person at my school ( i had a day named after me during spirit week, that was sick). alot of people would be on my side. but i too would feel bad and thats partly why i cant decide to break up with her or not.

and the guy, im gonna scare him but
 
i guess go with your intuition on this one, but it seems to me it would be hard to have a good relationship after she's cheated on you, like you might not trust her completely and that could ruin your relationship.
 
i think im going to make fun of you for asking for relationship help on the internet.

yup i found a loophole FLAMER
 
he's got it right, break up with her, then start telling girls how much you loved her and how you wished it worked because you guys really had a future. basically make yourself seem like a really romantic guy who's now... eligible. i have a friend who pulled that and wow... yeah it worked for him.

oh and even if you don't take the rest of that advice, definitely dump her. if she did it once, odds are really good she'll do it again.
 
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