If you love skiing do not date a skier.

Danny.Loughery

Danny.Loughery

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I'm writing this to help people avoid what I am going through as well as hoping writing this down will help me feel better. I met a girl back in January and I thought that we hit it off pretty quickly. I learned that she was a skier with a lot of knowledge about the industry which instantly got my interest. Although we lived a good distance away from each other we would ski every weekend as well as travel around Colorado together. After about 6 months of being together I thought that everything was going good and I was really starting to get feelings for her. Then a couple weeks ago she took a trip west to mount hood with her girl friend. Talking to her on the phone almost every day I thought nothing of it when she told me about a dude she was skiing with that I had heard about before. After a week and a half out west she came back and I went to visit her excited to see a girl I started caring a lot about. Not too long into hanging out with her I saw him blowing up her phone and it later got revealed she hooked up with him and slept with him. Almost instantly I saw the interest she showed for me disappear. I have never been so devastated in my life. It would be one thing if it was just a normal girl but this cut me deep. She left my ass and as far as I know they are together now. Mount hood is one of my favorite places on earth and now every time I see a picture or video from there it makes me sick. It has ruined something that makes me happier than anything. So to all of you wishing for a skier girl friend, from my personal experience it is a bad idea. Keep skiing and your love life separated. Believe me it fucking sucks.

**This thread was edited on Jun 18th 2018 at 4:16:49pm
 
Skiing made me realize that I don’t need a girlfriend lol.

Girls:

Slutty, bitchy, dishonest, unfaithful, hurtful, etc.

Skiing:

Fun, stress relief, never gets old, always there for you.

No brainer fellas.

OP I feel you, just remember that shit people like her don’t deserve (id imagine) good people like you. Keep your head up my guy.
 
You need to reconcile w/ Mt. Hood. I vote you take a trip to Hood and have fun for yourself. Forget about the chick. You just met in January and she is the loser that went to Hood without you.

Let me know if you want to shred when you come out.
 
If this is exactly how the story went, sounds like a busch league move by her OP. And like another poster said, you deserve better if shes fucking around like that. As with anything else, breakups take time, and soon enough you will rekindle your love for skiing and Mount Hood. A summer of skating and biking can help ease the mind before the skiing comes back too. Keep your head up bud shes not worth it
 
Counter point

I was working in a shop 12 years ago when I met this not so chill chick. She was a rad skier and was the manager of the softgoods department. I was the new guy running the shop and hardgoods side of things so we had to work together most day. In the beginning, she was a hard ass chick. Didn't put up with shit. The shop crew road together most nights and partied after. Soon I was hoping for the slow ass 2 seat chair just to get some alone time together. Fast forward 12 years..... We are married, have a kid and still is one of my favorite riding buddies.

Sorry for your heartache.

You can teach someone how to ski

You can't teach someone how not to be a bitch.

Pick the right person and the rest will fall into place
 
Sucks man but you just got to seperate the thought of skiing and her . The reality is it’s got nothing to do with skiing the fact that some women will do things like this . I mean next time you meet a woman it might be through some other sport you do . If that goes sour will you say not to mix those two things as well ? It was her and only her
 
That is definitely a bummer of a situation, OP. As some others have said, I think this may have more to do with the particular person you got involved with. Anytime you find someone with similarly intense passion for something, it can make you blind to personality traits that may have been red flags otherwise. Some have called it "Booty Blind". Despite all this and the generally shitty nature of life and relationships on and off the hill, I have a feeling deep within my loins that you will find a fem shredbot that makes the aforementioned floozy little more than a skid mark on your epic ass (School of Rock reference).

Also, is she on NS? Let's get her involved.
 
Im really sorry man. Heartbreak is the worst. I hope you get through it to the other side. But I dont think you can say that the actions of a specific girl should deter someone from dating girls who ski. Ive exchanged body fluids with plenty of girls who ski. Some of them were awesome, loyal, inspiring, beautiful girls. Others were braindead sluts. Just like every other group of people, theres great girls who ski and shitty ones. Either way, I hope you find someone who is compassionate and treats you well.
 
13928272:snowpocalypse said:
Counter point

I was working in a shop 12 years ago when I met this not so chill chick. She was a rad skier and was the manager of the softgoods department. I was the new guy running the shop and hardgoods side of things so we had to work together most day. In the beginning, she was a hard ass chick. Didn't put up with shit. The shop crew road together most nights and partied after. Soon I was hoping for the slow ass 2 seat chair just to get some alone time together. Fast forward 12 years..... We are married, have a kid and still is one of my favorite riding buddies.

Sorry for your heartache.

You can teach someone how to ski

You can't teach someone how not to be a bitch.

Pick the right person and the rest will fall into place
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I feel all warm and cuddly reading this.
 
Wait a minute....were you guys even together? It doesn’t really sound like you guys were anything other than friends. Unless you left out a lot of details about your relationship
 
i never really like girls that have the same interests as me as interesting. it seems so stale and boring, since you then can't challenge each other. my ex was not into either skiing or skating, not even the same music. but that was kind of what i thought was fun about it. she tried skating and i went to social events and tried sushi. it ended bc we where more like friends. and we still are. tbh i'm just proud that i converted her from a beliber to listening to lil peep and xxxtentacion. Wu tang next.
 
Dont let her ruin your favorite place. Time will pass and your heart will heal. Not all skiing relationships suck . I have a bf that taught me alot about skiing and encourages and pushes me to try new things
 
13928272:snowpocalypse said:
Counter point

I was working in a shop 12 years ago when I met this not so chill chick. She was a rad skier and was the manager of the softgoods department. I was the new guy running the shop and hardgoods side of things so we had to work together most day. In the beginning, she was a hard ass chick. Didn't put up with shit. The shop crew road together most nights and partied after. Soon I was hoping for the slow ass 2 seat chair just to get some alone time together. Fast forward 12 years..... We are married, have a kid and still is one of my favorite riding buddies.

Sorry for your heartache.

You can teach someone how to ski

You can't teach someone how not to be a bitch.

Pick the right person and the rest will fall into place
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“You can teach someone how to ski

You can't teach someone how not to be a bitch.“

L E G E N D A R Y quote
 
This scenario has played out so many times. This could happen to anyone; skier or non skier.

Being cheated honestly feels like being stabbed in your abdomen and having an existential crisis at the same time.
 
Sounds like a shitty person who probably wants to date the best skier she can fuck, I know plenty of girls back home who are super chill skiers that have held relationships for a while. Seriously sucks though OP, I'm in slc and would love a skier chick honestly, as long as she ain't a bitch.
 
13928290:casual said:
Wait a minute....were you guys even together? It doesn’t really sound like you guys were anything other than friends. Unless you left out a lot of details about your relationship
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this

did you agree to an exclusive relationship with her or even tell her your feelings?

if not then she has no obligation to you and this is more your problem then hers
 
13928332:lmmcc said:
I think that’s called getting friend zoned
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A lot of chicks, especially bad ass independent ones, don’t go for the nice guy who takes six months to make a move. This will frustrate you until you either find your balls or meet the one.
 
13928265:OregonDead said:
You need to reconcile w/ Mt. Hood. I vote you take a trip to Hood and have fun for yourself. Forget about the chick. You just met in January and she is the loser that went to Hood without you.

Let me know if you want to shred when you come out.
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I second this!!!!!! I needed it in a similar situation. When you go there just be yourself. Hang with your friends. If your feeling a little down let them know and they will help support you. The beautiful thing is skiing is bigger, no one can take it away from you unless you let them.
 
OP how old are you and this girl?

ive had so much trouble making long lasting relationships in mountain towns. Everyone is young, transient, and mostly only care about themselves.

age helps a little bit, but you’ve got to find someone that cares about themselves enough to care about you
 
Dude this has nothing to do with dating a skier, but rather don't get cheated on. This title is almost click bait for fuck sakes.

Isn't mount hood where people go camp and ski all summer? You didn't find it awkward or concerning your gf was there by herself to begin with and talking all about some dude? That is too obvious.

Don't say the mountain is ruined for you. That's like saying I live in Boston. My girlfriend cheated on me here. I hate Boston now. Eventually you'll forget about this unfortunate situation and get back to skiing. Don't associate the two bro. They're not connected.
 
associating things with a bad memory an happen any time. Don’t let this bitch get the win and let her ruin the snow. Grab some friends and send it
 
*only girl thus far to speak up*be nice*

yo, what she did if you guys were committed is fucked. Even if she’s just your friend, still pretty inconsiderate.

I get where you’re coming from, but to write off all shred babes because of some girl who obvi doesn’t have your best interest at heart is to really just punish yourself.

You’ll miss a whole lot of color if you think in such black n white terms; sometimes you gotta know the lows to know the highs. Insert another cliche here, but there’s wisdom in these sayings I think... but what do I know, since supposedly I’m job st some ‘slutty, bitchy, backstabber ?’ (Some of the guys on this thread.... sheesh, I bet I don’t hafta guess which ones are single ?)

We’re out there, you just gotta keep looking. Don’t let her have the power to take hood away from you. Plus, karma will probably get her somewhere, sometime. As the saying goes; your vibe attracts your tribe.
 
13928315:Titus69 said:
Sounds like a shitty person who probably wants to date the best skier she can fuck, I know plenty of girls back home who are super chill skiers that have held relationships for a while. Seriously sucks though OP, I'm in slc and would love a skier chick honestly, as long as she ain't a bitch.
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'Date the best skier she can fuck'

Come on man, OP is already feeling down, dont go in on his skiing too.
 
13928407:BigPurpleSkiSuit said:
'Date the best skier she can fuck'

Come on man, OP is already feeling down, dont go in on his skiing too.
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Never meant to bash his skiing, considering everyone else is saying "what PRO snatched your girl?"

Also its not like many girls date guys cause they're Good at something or anything...
 
13928410:Titus69 said:
Never meant to bash his skiing, considering everyone else is saying "what PRO snatched your girl?"

Also its not like many girls date guys cause they're Good at something or anything...
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If a girl is dating you just because you're particularly good at something, you're in the wrong kind of relationship, that said, being good at stuff doesn't hurt. I pointed at you cause you were the first one to do so, unintentionally, however.
 
13928324:Lonely said:
Ming what the fuck
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Quality.

For real though, OP I’m really sorry to hear. As said before this is more a shitty person issue than a skier girl/boy issue. Don’t let a shitty person ruin good things for you (I.e Mt. Hood, skiing, etc)

I’ve been cheated on before and the worst thing I’ve ever done is blame myself. Which ultimately lead to me throwing out everything I’ve ever known about myself to change into someone 100% different. Pick your head up and keep doing you. Keep skiing and get back out to Hood. Never give anyone that kind of power over you.
 
13928264:voy10 said:
Skiing made me realize that I don’t need a girlfriend lol.

Girls:

Slutty, bitchy, dishonest, unfaithful, hurtful, etc.

Skiing:

Fun, stress relief, never gets old, always there for you.

No brainer fellas.

OP I feel you, just remember that shit people like her don’t deserve (id imagine) good people like you. Keep your head up my guy.
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Are you an Incel ?
 
Question, were you two exclusive? If so that’s fucked. If not, then it still sucks but don’t allow this to ruin Hood/skier girls for you.

I’ve dated plenty of skier who ended up being jerks. (Though it wasn’t always their fault.) Had i sworn off men who ski i would never have met my partner, never gotten our dog, and never have the relationship im in. Take a trip to hood, let yourself reconnect to skiing and don’t date jerks.

You’ve got this. Heartbreak sucks but you can’t let one person ruin everything for you. Besides, nothing beats an epic day skiing with your best friend.
 
Considering the hypergamous nature of females.. i’m guessing the guy she hooked up with was either

1- A better skier than you

2- Has more money than you

3- Is able to provide more for her

hypergamy sucks but it’s just the reality for many females.. there are some good ones though, usually those who were rich before

did you know a male’s natural instinct is to spread his genetic lineage with as many females as possible? On another not a female’s instinct is to find one mate who is able to provice for her and potential offspring, It’s all in the genetics..

money today was meat in primitive days. I’m sorry you went through some shit but when you are young it’s best to take some time to work kn You, and forget all that relationship nonsense.. I’m certain you’ll find a good girl (or guy, if you are into that) at some point
 
13928291:lil.Boye said:
i never really like girls that have the same interests as me as interesting. it seems so stale and boring, since you then can't challenge each other. my ex was not into either skiing or skating, not even the same music. but that was kind of what i thought was fun about it. she tried skating and i went to social events and tried sushi. it ended bc we where more like friends. and we still are. tbh i'm just proud that i converted her from a beliber to listening to lil peep and xxxtentacion. Wu tang next.
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Whoa, nice job putting a security deposit on her, just imagine what some other guy is going to think when she wants to bump some Lil fucking Peep.. she ain’t finding another mans, she only wants mort and lil peep
 
13928374:IsitWinterYet17 said:
You didn't find it awkward or concerning your gf was there by herself to begin with and talking all about some dude?
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You have to be real insecure to think anything strange or wrong of your partner taking a trip by themselves or talking to other dudes/girls.
 
13928552:VinnieF said:
You have to be real insecure to think anything strange or wrong of your partner taking a trip by themselves or talking to other dudes/girls.
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No I'm saying the way he makes it sound is like his gf was over the moon talking about this guy she just met and has been hanging out with a lot. To any normal sane person, that's odd and deserves a reasonable about of skepticism.

Not the same as a chick having guy friends.
 
Thanks for the good vibes everyone it was nice to get everyone take on it. Even though it hurts I refuse to let a girl ruin skiing for me.
 
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