Girls either dont come around fast enough, or never. Its not a fault, its just the way that you are wired. No girl wants to settle. A guy that patiently waits for a love interest and never fights for her or, conversely, never makes the woman fight for him, will seem like a loser that the girl is settling for. Meaning she WONT settle, and move on to another guy, leaving the nice, patient guy in the friendzone.