My kids are very thankful I stopped drinking. Alcoholism is considered a family "disease" because it affects every member of the family whether they realize it or not. It can, and does tear families a part. Everyone suffers! So yes they are very grateful I'm sober. They don't have to live in fear that mom isn't all there, if you know what I mean. There used to be conflict between me and their dad over my drinking, so this had to be very stressful on them, hearing us fight. Poor kids. But I can't look back and dwell on the damage. Thank God I got healthy and still have the love of my family.
So YES, they can depend on me now completely. And I'm definitely a better parent. I have my self esteem and integrity  back. I feel good about myself. I don't live in regret, remorse, shame, guilt, fear, anxiety and everything else that goes along with addiction. I'm not preoccupied on drinking, putting the bottle before everything else. Now my family IS 1st.  I'm far from perfect, but they can always rely on me for guidance and help with their own struggles.