like i said there are exceptions, but for me not too many. and i am actually a nice guy for the most part. but to be honest, i am pleasent to everyone, at times i know it's bullshit, and i am not intrested in ackowledging that person's exisistence. i am strictly speaking from my life's expereience of how i've acted, and observed those around me. I am not a socially strong person, i have a lot of flaws in the way i think. I have a lot of friends, but few close ones, i travel a lot and most of my friends are seasonal. I have female friends that i don't think about undressing everytime i see them, but it's usually out of respect for thier boyfriend or husband. I know it's not an ideal way to live, but i am in places for only a few months at a time, i just don't have time for that overweight girl to be around be enough for her to grow on me. This is somewhat proof of my situation, I recently moved to ludlow vermont (okemo) you may be familiar with the area, but there is a negative female population here in my age demographic. I have not made one female friend here, the reasons being perhaps i am not in the right social circles, haven't met any locals that are worth wanting to get in bed with, what ever it be, i know if i was in an area with lots of beautiful girls, i would have a lot more 'friends'. So now i am stuck in limbo , hooking up with rich girls from CT and NY, that i will never see again. I am not an atractive guy, in the pretty brad pitt sense, more obnoxious looking like stiffler. I know this way of life will leave me alone and sad in a few years, but that's just me.