So she's catholic...

If she really cares about you, then she wont care about what religion you are. Her parents probably will, but well cross that bridge when we get there.
 
Okay so update.

I ran into the girl at the library today. We ended up talking for like 45 minutes in the library stacks, then moved to the cafe for another hour. We got into some really deep stuff about our families and lives, and basically I'm even more enamored, and am convinced that she's the greatest girl I've ever met.

The discussion got to how I wanted to move to South Africa (true), and she raised the whole issue of apartheid. I asked how that was any different than Israel, which certainly has a divided society. She said she didn't really know either way, not knowing anything about it, and I responded that I had been there and that it was a beautiful place, and to embrace beauty you have to accept its flaws. So she asked me if I was Jewish, and I responded yes.

She wasn't phased, eventually asking me a few questions about my observance. I answered that I had come from a fairly conservatively Jewish family, but was questioning organized religion.

So she hit me with: "Do you believe in God?"

I answered: "Albert Einstein once said that 'Something deeply hidden must be behind things.'"

She seemed to like that answer, and eventually we moved off the topic. I'm a little dissapointed that I couldn't deal with it on my own terms, but then again she seemed accepting enough. So all-in-all I'd say it was something of a non-issue. There is no doubt that she embraces Catholic doctrine a fair bit, but it didn't get in the way of at least having a really animated conversation. Which ultimately is the most important aspect of a relationship, actually enjoying the other intellectually.

So we're not "official" or anything, but I think that staying to talk with me in the library cafe until 2:40, nearly an hour past the actual library's closing (its a 24-hour cafe), means something. I understand how most of yall are interested in hooking up and getting tail-I was there too-but this is so much better. I guess you'll have to take my word for it.

Thanks a ton for your well-intended help, and I'll be sure to hit yall up with an update if something comes up.
 
congrats man! and you're right, the fact that you can enjoy each others company and have deep conversation is the most important part
 
It means quote for truth.

Although I always used to think it was quit fucking talking. Needless to say I was always backwards.
 
if you get to the point where she'll make you a sandwich without being asked(forced), then you've got a keeper. you must test her
 
I'm sorry man...

My girlfriend is catholic and I stab her guts at least 3 times a week.

I think you should branch out a little more.

Variety is the spice of life.
 
To put it simply, there was a hitch. There wasn't another guy, and she has very clearly demonstrated that she trusts me/is comfortable with me. We're sort of in this limbo where I asked her out on a formal date, "X" happened, and now there is this weird thing hanging in the air where she doesn't want to get involved with me but still likes being around me. Its kind of awkward, but in an unusual way. I can't really describe it here, but the upshot is that I'm disappointed, but I understand. Right now I'm sort of putting a relationship on the back burner, and am just trying to be something of a friend...a friend who doesn't know any of her friends and hangs out with her alone...but a friend nonetheless.

Suffice it to say that I'm still hung up on her, I can't have her, but she still likes spending time with me.

Sucks.
 
ummm. if she's super religious, you either have no chance, or she's date you to spite her family, if she's the naughty kind... but yeah. if my super virgin 26 year old guy friend that i've had a crush on since i was 14, is telling me the truth, he didn't date me because i don't like jesus, nor his religion. and it depends on a level, how religious you are too, and things do get complicated with the families. my boyfriends family is catholic, and they don't let me sleep over, i'm 24, and until we get married, if we do, i might one day gain that ounce of respect they can shell out. my brother on the other hand, his first girlfriend was jewish, and they dated for almost two years i think, but his parents didn't want him because he wasn't jewish. you know, there's so many lines in religion, that it's hard to say exactly what will go down.
 
thats the worst bro. maybe you could force her hand? tell her that its hard for you to hang out with her and not be going out with her and see how she reacts.
 
Catholics and Jews are the most compatable actually because on the religious level she believes every thing you do. So I say go for it, I'm catholic and I've dated a few Jewish girls.
 
Yeah she will either accept you or break up with you on the spot.

Might as well get it out before you get too involved
 
you shouldve told her you killed her god and are responsible for all the worlds wars. that wouldve gotten you laid
 
Forcing her hand is out of the question; for reasons I won't discuss, it would be totally unfair of me and probably harmful to her.
 
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