Sex and highschool

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this is totally copied from a friend's blog (leif) but I fully agree with it:

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"For the last few weeks I have been thinking about the inner workings of

the social structure of most high schools. I have talked to all of my

closest friends, my siblings, and a few cousins. We are all in complete

agreement on how school works and that it is pretty messed up. Please

think about what I have to say and give me some feedback when you

finish, especially if you think I am a dumbass. The thing is that it

usually takes about two or three hours of talking to really go in depth

with the problems at school, so writing a blog about it is almost

impossible. It is also almost impossible to write a blog about what I

think of school and not sound like a stuck up parent or bitchy emo kid

or something (which I hope to god I am not), so here I go.

SEX

(that got your attention didn't it)

This

is the soul purpose for a relationship to most high school students.

Everyone in high school obsesses over it and if they don't then they

are called a nerd, a retard, a pussy, or a gay fag. Meaningful

relationships have lost SO much value over the last 10 or so years. The

average age that men and women lose their virginity is around 15 and 16

or sometime in sophomore year

The definition of a meaningful

relationship in high school has changed from understanding and loving

someone to fucking them. Example: The bases system. it glorifies sex as

a home run, because the only way to show affection these days is by

sticking your cock into a girl. Think about it, what is one of the

first questions you are asked when you tell your friend about your new

boy/girlfriend? "How far have you gone" It is like all we care about

anymore is the physical side to a relationship and I think that's

fucked up. I mean sure sex has gotta be hella fun, but is it the most

important thing you can take out of a relationship? Is lying on a

sweaty bed sticking your dick into a girl really the best way of saying

"i love you"? Relationships based on sex just seem really shallow to

me, and if that is all you want, you might as well just bang some

hooker.

I would bet that about 70% of high school girls and guys

think that the most important part of a relationship is sex and would

be willing to be in a relationship for the soul purpose of sex. I'll

call this group of people the 70s (for blogging's sake). Most of the

"70%" girls say they want a sweet guy. They actually want a hot guy who

will buy them shit and fuck on command. Most of the "70%" guys want a

hot sexy girl who is stupid and will fuck on command. Most of the 70s

relationships are hookups, not long lasting relationships. Hookups

usually happen at parties or events with a lot of teens and are just a

guy "hooking up" with a girl (or sometimes other combinations of

genders), meaning that they make out, feel each other up, and if lucky,

fuck each other... What the hell is up with that? I mean what have they

accomplished by that, honestly. You have gotten a nice sexual high

which you probably won't remember because you were too fucking drunk,

what else? I don't really care what you people do once in college and

out of high school, because most of us will be mature enough to make

our own decisions, but I really think that it is retarded to start

Fucking around in high school.(because I said this I will probably be

called a stuck up pussy, but I think it takes more balls to say

something you think is right when you know that 70% of your peers will

completely disagree with you)

What about the other 30%?

The

people who don't really give a fuck about sex? These are the people who

think that a relationship between two individuals should be focused on

one thing: Love. To us, a loving relationship isn't measured by bases

or "how far we have gone." We are becoming quite rare, I only know very

few people who have openly said that they wouldn't care if they waited

to have sex until after high school, college or even marriage.

In

reality the percents look more like 90% - 10%. This is because about

20% of the 30% are pressured into acting like the 70%, when they really

want to be in a loving relationship. This usually happens when a

goodlooking 30% person goes out with a 70% person who wants action. The

pressure on the 30% is huge and they usually end up having sex or

sometimes breaking up. If they have sex or act like they want it and

actually don't they become part of the 20% who act like the 70%.

Another

common perception in high schoolers is that guys are the people in

relationships that force sex or get into relationships for the soul

purpose of sex. That is complete bullshit. (70%) Girls are just as

horny as (70%) guys if not more, they always bitch about how they want

a nice guy(or 30% guy) who understands them and cares for them. But

when they actually get one they get bored of him after a week and cheat

on him. Then his heart is broken (yes, guys do have hearts), so he

often becomes a 20% and tries to fit in as the stereotyped guy or 70%

guy who only care about hitting it home.

Why do people only care so much about sex in the first place other than the personal pleasure?

The

main reason that sex is such a HUGE thing for us teens is media. Mainly

the music industry and MTV (which started glorifying sex in the 1980).

The three main influences our lives are our parents, our peers, and the

media. Two of those influences are telling us that we are losers if we

don't have sex a lot. Don't believe me? How many rap songs can you

think about right now off the top of your head that glorify either sex,

a woman's body, or some other sexual reference. Virtually all new songs

are in some way related to sex. there are a few R&B songs which are

actually about love, but they aren't nearly as common or popular as

those about sex. If you still don't believe me just attend any high

school dance for 10 minutes and listen to the lyrics of the songs there.

Another

influence that usually goes unnamed is Planned Parenthood. what the

fuck is up with them, they bitch about how sex is perfectly normal for

highschoolers and then teach us how to put on rubbers. Well I ask

Planned Parenthood one thing: WHY THF FUCK DO YOU THINK IT IS NORMAL

FOR HIGHSCHOOLERS TO HAVE SEX???..........BECAUSE YOU TOLD US THAT IT

IS NORMAL AND NOT A BIG DEAL. DON'T BLAME OUR HORNYNESS, BLAME YOUR

SHITTY JOB, YOU SHOULD JUST TELL US THAT WE ARE TOO IMATURE TO FUCK

EACHOTHER ALL THE TIME. Yes most everyone our age is really horny, but

that doesn't mean that you should give us the ok to start fucking

eachother. What are you guys trieng to be our personal coachs for sex

or something? Retards.

Please know that I am NOT against

sex, I just don't think that it is not as important as most people do,

at least while I am in high school. Everything that I have just said I

believe is true, but I could be wrong. Please correct me, comment on

me, question me, or bitch at me in any way that you can."

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I totally agree with this.

This is a wake-up call to you fucking assholes who live for sex (AKA fake-ass "gansta-fo shiz" rappers and horny high schoolers who dont give a damn about girls except for them giving head)

I am giving this as a gift to NS and have you realize what dipshits some people are.

 
i gotta say...its a legit post..i dont agree with everything but he makes a good point that we live in an extremely shallow society
 
god why did i read that much?

well since i did i can agree that i'm with the "30%." i'll openly admit i'm going to be a junior, and i haven't had sex. i seriously haven't really had a girlfriend. i'm not just looking for a girl to have for a few weeks to fuck and then break up, i'm just too nice of a guy. seriously, i wouldn't like having spent a lot of time with a girl and then have to break up. most high school relationships go no further than that, and i don't wanna spend my whole high school "career" with one girl. i'd rather be like best friends with a lot of girls and be able to hang out with whoever i want, than be boyfriend with some slut i just wanna fuck. that's not how i role.
 
i agree partially with this post... i didn't wanna just start fucking for the sake of fucking until i was completely fucked over.
 
this guy knows what he's talking about

I've heard it from him personally and I learn much from him.

I can give you more rants from him if you like.
 
true, if you want that kind of relationship then wait till you are like 30 when the biological clock starts ticking and relationships begin to matter. but fuck that bullshit, then you are doomed to one vagina.

 
bravo dude... im with you guys 100 percent on that... it seems to me like no one is waiting for marriage anymore, which sucks. personally, i happen to be waiting and it has proven to be a very difficult task because of the reasons you have stated... and it gets harder to find girls that are waiting in college or as you get older
 
Very good post, im in the 30 percent also. Im a senior now in high school and i really dont give a shit about having sex or being in a relationship that is based around that. I have so much more fun skiing, longboarding, smoking, chilling with friends. Im not gona waste my money on some girl i just want to get in the sack that will last for me not even 5 minutes. People may call me a fag or a pussy, but i really dont care. Ive had one relationship in highschool and it was just what i wanted. She was a skier and lover of the outdoors. We would ski together all day and just go home and watch a movie. There was no sexual tension going on in the begining like my friends have talked about in the begining of their relationships. She liked me for my personality not my balls. Sure i go to parties and ive fooled around with girls, but whenever i do in the morning i feel like shit for doing what i did.

Summary: I'm a virgin and could care less whenever if lose my v-card, but when i do its going to be epic.....Like travis pastrana double backflip epic.

 
it definitly is tough man; I've said no to sex a few times, things got realllly awkward. Being in college with a bunch of sleezy guys doesn't help either. I get so much shit for it, and alot of the time it isn't fun 'let's make fun of sam' kinda harassment either.
 
you've got a touch of the wrong idea...about the planned parenthood, they're not retards in my opinion...they can help better a life while keepin another intact, if anybody gets that...probably not...
 
I disagree.

Sexual relationships should only happen when one is truly in love with another.

Do you realize why people used to dishonor sex before marriage?

It was because sex was used to reproduce and not for orgasms.

Loving is not about sticking your dick into another person.

Sex is also symbolic of a holy commitment to stick with one another forever. So basically you're saying that you will stay with them forever but then leave the next day.

I'll go on with this later I gotta run

Say as much as you want about this, it'll be interesting to hear about in the morning.
 
wow...i didn't know there was anyone else like this on ns. i don't have a problem with people knowing that i plan on saving sex for marriage, but i have to say, it has gotten a lot more difficult in college than it was in high school.

on a related side note (and this might seem obvious) getting involved with someone who treats sex...let's say more "casually"...can be the most painful thing in the world. avoid that.
 
Definately some words of wisdom... but I don't agree with you on a few things like that the 1980's generation and up of teens these days is obssesed with sex and all the generations before weren't. I think this shit isn't any different from before. And I think your dead wrong that that 30% group is in "LOVE" because real realllll love doesn't happend that fuckin early in life it just doesn't. Overall I think the whole argument is just a little to analytical and passionate about something that really isn't that big of a deal. I don't think sex is that hugggeee of a thing it's just human nature unless you think eating and sleeping are a big issue too... it's just a part of life bro.
 
dude, youv got balls to post something like tht. it looks u kno ur shit tho. dude u should post this somewhere else where tons more people see it, itd definetly prove a point. I think it all depends on the highschool. In my highschool tht 30% would probably jacked up to 75% because i go to a small school. The downside is tht the 75% all r usually friends and not a lot of anything happens. We pretty much have to go out with chicks frm other schools.

But seriously thts some deep shit and u should shout tht out outside of this website, i dont kno how, but u should. Plus i bet thr'll be plenty action in college. in the end i totally agree w/ u. Thts why thrs Jacking Off. yea
 
solid post, i think allot of people have sex before they are ready however

Humans despite how we glorify it we have two reasons to live

1. Survival

2. Reproduction (long term survival)

No matter how much humans achieve we're animals same basic drive.
 
I totally disagree with that. You think sex is the big thing in highschool??? Jesus Christ dude, wait til you get to college. We skip the whole relationship thing. He talks about how "putting you cock in a girl" is the only way to show your affection. We don't put out cock in there to show affection... we do it to blow a load. Freshman year, my buddies and I have fucked girls that I couldn't even tell you their name now.

Highschool I think is towards the opposite end of the spectrum. I was talking to my little brother the other day (who is going to be a junior in highschool) and I asked him about his new girlfriend. He told me he started going out with her a week after she was dumped by her old boyfriend. A lot of people in highschool are insecure. Whether they show it or not. There are a lot of people that have boyfriends or girlfriends that have them... "just to have a boyfriend/girlfriend". I think people in highschool are looking more for the relationship thing. You'd be surprised how much college opens your eyes. Relationships really suck, that is unless you really do meet that special someone. I'm defintely not about to get into one, unless she is everything i look for in a girl and more.

You have to remember: young people are sexual. It's as plain as that. There are hormones in our bodies right now, that make us absolutely infatuated with the oposite sex.

I do agree though that society is extremely shallow. But relax though dude. Society goes through cycles. Society was EXTREMELY shallow during the victorian era in the 1800's. Read Oscar Wilde's "The Importance of Being Ernest" sometime. I believe a good portion of society is moving towards conservative fundamentalism. I mean it's been a while (if ever) that a president has been elected into the whitehouse mostly on his religious and ethical convictions. I think that in the next 10 years you're going to see a shift to something like the 1950's by a large part of the population.

 
i agree...i was part of the 30%...and because of the pressure, decided to fuck it, and loose my v before college...and i did. and thoroughly regret it....i'll probably go for the couple of random freshman hookups this fall, but i'll keep it at that, and hopefully find someone i really like, maybe grow to love.
 
I don't think the percentages are quite that drastic. I think people

generally have a tendency to be more mature in relationships than they

let on. That said, I agree with the rest completely.
 
well put.

have you seen 40 year old virgin? 'you're putting that pussy on a pedistool'

im not saying it's healthy to go out and fuck random girls. in fact it's rather dangerous. but when you find a girl you like, you treat her completely different. it's not about the sex, it's about her. you go crazy for her man. however, you don't wanna loose her to some terrible sex. that's when the random fucks come in hand, you're intoxicated so you don't really have much feeling. it's more of a practice, in which you try different shit out. stick your finger in her ass, you'll never see her again. spank her, call her dirty names, try new techniques. all these things are benefits to random fuck buddies. and that my virgin friend is why we do it. sure the first couple times having sex it's 'awesome' and it feels 'great', but seriously you get over that. when you're in a relationship making your girl friend shake and shiver from your dick is so entertaining. afterward going and getting a bite to eat, you feel like you two just connected and appreciate what you do for each other. sex is a huge part of a relationship and if you can't acknowledge that, you're in for a divorce or unhealthy marriage.

i jsut want you to know not all pussies are shaped the same to, same as cocks. when a girl has a gross pussy, it is a terrible turn off and sometimes it might just be you. another guy may love her pussy, thats what he likes. all im saying is that we're all built with different tools in our pants and some guys have phillips head screw drivers and others have flat heads. you gotta find the right screw, and trying to do the job without eyes is a terrible way to get the job done efficently.

have sex with a girl you want to have sex with. it's shallow to do otherwise. don't base it off of looks, you do have to look at the individual. the v-card is the most important one, in my eyes. and i've talking to plenty of guys that fucked their v-cards over (mine was on girls gone wild. what a mistake). don't hold out though, if its someone you like, let it flow. sex is natural and you shouldn't put the shit on a pedistool.
 
haha. i was just thinking about that. in high school i wasn't sure if i was recieving the right signs and what not. so much thought went into getting a kiss. in high school it was always who is perfect for who.

in college you have some drinks say something to the girl that probably makes no sense because your shitty and you go for the kiss. if she accepts, you're probably getting laid, worst case blow job. if not, you move to the next girl. rejection is accepted not feared. when a girl dislikes me, it means i rubbed her the wrong way. so you try to rub a different one the right way and tell your buddy to try with the girl you jsut fucked up with. it's amazing how using your own drunken friend as an enemy can bond you and a girl.

just the other night there we 4 guys and one girl at the end of the night. it was about time to call it a night and she had no place to sleep. she openly was like 'so who's bed am i sleeping in'. first one to say something got a blow job for offering.

fall is gonna be too much fun.
 
Listen up.

The guy makes some legit arguments. I respect that. I ask that you take into my views with respect too though.

View #1. Why wait 'til you're married?

I mean, hell, it seems like a stupid idea. Have sex with one woman for the rest of your life? That sounds like buy one CD and playing it for the rest of your life huh? I've heard this argument used and all I have to say about it is "it isn't like buying one CD, it's like buying an instrument. If you are dedicated, and want to master that instrument....boredom never becomes an issue.

View #2 Shallow relationships/meaningful relationships

This argument is opinion based, so I already know that people have completely different views as me. That said.

Hooking up for the soul purpose of having sex. Doesn't seem like a bad idea. Yeah, there's that argument about STD, and things like that...but that doesn't really stop many people because....it's easy to lie in the heat of passion. I know this will sound weird, but 90% of people say they believe there is a God. That guy was using 70% as a base, so I'll go with that. If you believe there is a God (I'm not even saying any sort of devotion what so ever), trying praying to that god with your girl before you have sex. Write me off if you will.

There you have it, my 2 cents
 
i never understood the whole "wait till marriage thing," but then again i dont have any religious background. Regardless, I dont see how somebody could so passionately reject having it before marriage. Not having it is ok, but to be like 13 years old and tell yourself everyday doesnt make sense for me. I mean it is by no means integral in a relationship, but it can certainly add a powerful (and sometimes catastrophic) element to a relationship. Sex in a relationship adds certain baggage that can change the dynamic a lot. but whatever.

I'll agree that too many, far too many people, associate sex with love, when they, at least the way I've seen and dealt with, are not the same. And because people do link so boldly sex and love, they don't last and it creates all these whack relationships based on terrible aspects and shit. They are usually flings (there are some fucked made up stats in that blog thing). The mainstream media shit is like a plague, but it always has been. This isn't the only era where sex is in front of us. It is just more blatent (and less creative).

I agree, but to disagree.

And that little attack towards planned parenthood at the end? This isn't some super potent catholic world where sex out of marriage is like doom. It happens. Being so naive, or so out of the loop to think it wouldn't happen without such an organization, is probably more devastating than having an organization such as planned parenthood around saying what they do. Those imbiciles who are opposed to that HPV shot are generally those who hate planned parenthood as well, because they believe it will only advocate sex to youngins. They seem so blind to some of the obvious benefits (in the case of the HPV shot, the very potential life saving benefits), but thats just my opinion.
 
well put arguments! I do agree on how shallow our society has become, educationally thats why our asses our gettin kicked by the japs, fuckin mtv. i really wish people could mature a little faster or at least take a step back and look at their life from a different perspective.
 
it's human nature to wanna fuck. it's built into our heads from the begining of our creation as a species. might as well fuck different clean girls now then wait till your older and theyre diseased and blown out. this doesnt mean you still cant have a meaningful monagomous relationship somewhere inbetween, but you only live once. my penis would be very upset with me if it only chilled in 1 or 2 vaginas in my lifetime.
 
sound like SOMEONE couldn't find a gf...

jk, he made a legit point, but it's human nature to wanna do it, it's only us and the dolphins that do it just for pleasure, and u know why? cause we can!
 
"...mean sure sex has gotta be hella fun..."

BAHAHAHHA YOU VIRGIN! YOU FUCKING PUSSY! FAG FACE!!!

Actually, I've never heard someone get harassed for being a virgin, nor has anyone actually complained about it.
 
I agree with most everything. I gonna wait till marriage cause I willing to sacrifice all that shit for my future wife cause i love her.
 
word. the ranter has some valid points but hes jumping to conclusions. the reason for "planned parenthood" is b/c no matter how many times you tell kids not to have sex, they still will. planned parenthood's motive is prevention. theyre not sayin sex is ok, theyre sayin be safe and smart if ur gonna fuck.you shouldnt call them retards because its a solution to a very challenging problem, much better solution than simply sayin "dont have sex". come on have a more open perspective.

also, it sounds like you want a long term relationship. dont assume everyone has the same train of thought/rationale as you. it may not be "right", but alot of people are just lookin for a good time, which for alot involves sex.kids get horny, and it sure as hell beats fuckin rosy palm. dont grow up too fast buddy, you'll regret it.
 
I don't think I found one truthful statistic in that whole rant. Decent opinion, but horrible factual basis.
 
ya i agree with some of that but he seems to be makng up a lot of it lke the statistics and stuff its just a little too cynical for me
 
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