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Bodhisattva_

Bodhisattva_

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So my brother just got kicked out of my house. He's 18, been smoking too much pot, my dad is tired of it and he kicked him out. He's only a year and a half older than me and we've always been super close so this is going to be weird. if anybody has any positive vibes or ideas to make myself not feel like shit it would be appreciated.
 
Where is he going to live? Let's be realistic, in this day and age not many 18-year-olds can support themselves just like that.

If he's got a place to live, go and visit him and just hang out and play video games or something like once a week.
 
Tell your brother to man the fuck up and quit being such a child. It's just weed, and his livelyhood is at stake. Don't throw away your life for a stupid high.
 
oh and go help your brother find a job/place to live. then you have a brand new hang out spot where YOU can smoke and not get caughPr
 
Are you kidding? You just implied that weed is more important than the kid's relationship with his parents. What the fuck man.
 
Idk how long it's going to last, he has a job and is staying with is girlfriend as of right now. My dad isn't super religious or anything but this has been going on for years and I guess my dad just got tired of trying to change him. Hopefully he can straighten out but idk. To me I wish he would just quit smoking and not be a dumbass because he is supposed to leave to WSU in like 4 months then he will be able to do whatever he wants.
 
No,

You should always have your brothers back no matter what happens in life. when you need backup, in any way whether it be a barfight or financially, your brother should and will be there for you--always. anyways, sounds like his parents fucking blow. They just caused years of psychological issues right then and there. If you are there for your brother to him out, everything will be fine.

Any parents who actually kick their kids out of the house can seriously fuck off. thats a real douchebag move. If he really cared, he would have never thrown his kid out of the house, and would try to help him on his way out to the "real world" regardless of belief differences on substance. now he deserves the guilt he's going to feel in time.

Not to mention if he helps his brother out, his parents might get stoked and try to get him back in the house.
 
word. maybe he was just horrible at hiding his shit. tell him to never have it in the house and if he does have it in a medicine bottle inside of a ziploc.
 
The kid says it's been going on for years. I don't know about you, but I couldn't handle a stoner kid for 2-3 years living under my roof. He says the brother is unresponsive, and, as it sounds from his nonchalance about being kicked out, is one of those rare people that probably depend on the stuff. This guy should not be out on his own, should not be cutting off connections with parents, and should not be attempting to navigate university alone. Idgaf if you think it's a douchebag move by the parents. Everyone has their breaking limit, and i can sympathize with having to deal with a brother who was stoned all the time for 3-4 years. It sucks and a perfectly good reason to kick someone out. The real douchebag move would be to not let him back if he were apologetic. Let's not put any fantasies in this kid's head like an 18 year old is able to handle himself. They're not. You are terribly young at that age.
 
...or you could try contributing something to the topic at hand, instead of insulting other members for their choice of cartoon. Also, you don't deserve that icon. You are not PPP.
 
Hopefully not. I advocate responsible weed use; that is, use in moderation, and don't use that amount which affects your ability to function after the fact or comes between you and your priorities. It is recreational, not mandatory.
 
im 18 and i decided that i want getting enough out of college to be worth 26g a semester. i took the second semester off and moved to utah alone. i bought my plane ticket, found a place to stay, found a job, and now im completely independent of my parents, besides health insurance. i can confidently say that the last month that ive been out here have been so much more constructive than staying at college would have been. all across the board my life has improved so much. im more social, ive started eating way better (aided by the fact that i make my own food), started working out, always keep my room neat as a pin, have never been less than 10 minutes early for work, always do my laundry when i need to, etc. in one month ive gone from feeling like an insecure child to a totally responsible adult, and im really proud of myself.

so basically getting kicked out might be really constructive for your brother. he just needs to quit being a pothead (its an expensive habit, i gave it up after college) and take advantage of what the world has to offer. it isnt easy, but if you commit to it its not hard either.
 
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Wait we are still talking about weed right? You sound like this is about a cocaine or heroin addict. Get a grip on reality, marijuana is really not a very big deal more people smoke it in high school than don't. We are talking about an 18 year old kid smoking marijuana its a very normal thing I know you most likely are from the south or just old and ignorant to new age thinking or maybe you are just very sheltered but please keep your ignorance to yourself. No one besides you cares.
 
if someone is smoking enough and is unwilling to stop enough that hes getting kicked out by his own loving parents, its a bit more of a problem than your average high school weekend toker.
 
Is this really that fucking hard? Wow, I wish all of my problems were this easy to solve. Okay so here's what you do... You go to the adult store, you buy a Jenna Jameson blow up doll, you bring it home and proceed to fuck it in your brothers old room which you've made into your porn dungeon - and you completely forget about your fucked up sad excuse for a brother that won't give up, literally, the easiest 'drug' to quit.
 
He is 18 years old and about to go away to college, the kids not the problem. I would not condone smoking under your parents household if they don't want you to. But I think him smoking is perfectly fine just not around his parents.
 
its fine if you can do it responsibly, which it doesnt sound like in this case. but dont turn this into a pot shitstorm please, its not worth it
 
You're speaking outside of your knowledge. If a kid becomes a stoner at 15-16 years old, that's on the parents. Kicking him out at 18 doesn't solve anything, though he'll probably be better off not living with people who punish him for their lack of parenting skills. What you're saying is just classic family propaganda; It's always the child's fault. Original sin as a concept is still rampant in our society,even though people don't call it that any more. But if you're knowledgeable about the psychology of these situations, you wouldn't be sympathizing with the parents.
 
You just saved me a bunch of time typing.

Maybe the kid graduated top of his class in D.A.R.E haha?
 
That is no way at all if a kid becomes a stoner at 15-16. I mean it could be but probably isn't. The kid probably hangs out with the wrong crowd his whole life, never played sports, and now loves weed. At this point in his life I can guarentee hes way to ignorant to even think that weed is the problem and there is nothing wrong with it. This kid needs his ass kicked out because it sounds like hes just a mega druggie. There is no way to help this kid maybe rehab because he only hangs out with fucked up kids i could assume.

OP get your bro to rehab and get him off drugs.
 
that's parents for you. some are a little more harsh than others, but sometimes people need a real boot in the rear end to get the message. that's why you gotta love your parents. they do shit for you that not even you will do for you. anyone else would say "fuck that guy, let him ruin his life. what do i care?" but your parents will fight to do what's best for you while you hate them for it, and then later on you'll be thanking them.
 
That's where I am at right now. Fuck I'm only 16 and I realized getting high isn't worth this shit. I smoked nearly as much as my brother until last night. My dad smelled me and freaked out on me and now I've come to realize that getting high isn't worth fucking up my family. It hasn't changed my opinion on weed but I've come to realize I will never change my parents opinion on it either (My mom thinks it rearranges brain cells and my dad told me I will be a worthless POS all my life if I'm a consistent smoker). I know I won't turn out like a worthless asshole (well at least I hope not..) but I see where my parents are coming from seeing as they think it will ruin my life.

And thanks to the few who actually posted some helpful advice since this is sort of a tough spot.
 
Dude tell your brother I'll see him at WSU!

Anyway, just help him get a job, tell him he can quit for the next four months or so, and then he can get blazed on the reg. at WSU.
 
He was an all-state football player before he robbed a drug dealer and got kicked off the team..

But yeah the rest of your analysis is spot on. All our "friends" in my shithole of a town do drugs and all there is to do is get fucked up. Like there are very few opportunities to hang out with the kids we've known since like 1st grade without getting fucked up and getting stoned. But IMHO rehab wouldn't help, I've already had 3 of my friends go to inpatient rehab for weed and it didn't do shit because it isn't a chemical dependency.
 
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