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n0gga

n0gga

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Me and my gf have been together for like 3 years now almost, and we have had our arguments and whatnot. I feel I have had her pretty much where I wanted the first two years and I could pretty much do the things I wanted within some boundries as go out and hang with my friends alot etc. Lately I have lost abit of the "controll" I had, and I felt like I was loosing her if you know what I mean... And all of a sudden I started getting jealous which I never had been before and wanted to know where she was at all time and such. She began to go out saturday nights more than before and I was not to comfortable with it although she has delt with me doing that from the very start. Anyway, she works with this guy at a restaurant, this little kid a few yaers younger than me (I also happen to know him pretty well). The sendt eachother sms's ocationally, nothing much. She told me it was nothing. Weeks past and my gf went out of town for a Gwen Stefani concert, and when she had returned I was at her place and she was in the shower and all of a sudden her phone rings, and its this little piece of crap she works with, who wants to know if she came safetly home from the airport cuz it had been snowing and she had summertires on the car. which just toped the whole thing. So first saturday night out I track him down and give him a real pounding telling him to stay the fuck away. Next day my gf freaks out telling me their work relationship is now ruined and she is embarassed to even say hello and such to him. They had been working together for like half a year and known eachother since comprehensive shcool. I kinda know there was nothing going on but I was so pissed off with the way he just tried to approach her.

So what would you guys have done in such a situation? Was what I did wrong?

Id like to hear some girls opinions on her freaking out because of this guy taking a beating from your bf. I dont think there is any reason to freak out because of it.

Fuck!

 
if you want my honest opinion....

you just gotta trust her.

if you said youve been together for 3+ years than you should be able to trust her when she says nothins goin on.

same goes for you. dont lie to her bout what youve been doin and then she wont have any reason to question you and vise versa.

 
no girl is worth beating someones ass over... if shes true to you then it wont matter how other guys approach her... if shes going to mess around on you, then shes going to mess around on you theres nothing u can do to stop it... and in that case you dont need her anyway....

do not fight over girls it does nothing except make the situation worse...
 
Maybe the guy was just her friend....he has known her longer than you have. I see no reason why you beat the shit out of the kid because he was worrying about a friend
 
haha, you beat up some dude she talked to? you feel like you are losing 'control' of her? if you were good enough for her she wouldnt go looking for new dicks.
 
Yeah I know, its probably cause I have to deal with this kind of shit now after 2 years, and not before. I know she is true, but its the way this guy acts infront of her and everybody else. She has told him to not write and call her, and it kinda stoped, until this one call that tipped my fucking jar.

Im not blaming her, eventhough she tells me its her to blame cause she had been responsive just to be nice to this guy.

As of today, me and her are back where things was and the puzzle is coming together again, so I guess I dont need to worry. Although this pisses me so much off I just want to twist his little neck.
 
i know right!!!

dude i just made a thread called i have an anger problem.

worrying about what a gf is doin was number 1 on my anger this for a long freakin time but im tellin you....you stressin out over it will only make things worse. trust me iv been there

just trust that she's tellin you the truth and if she cheats on you then you know she's not a girl you should be wit in the first place....
 
you made a bad choice to use force. your relationship will most likely go down hill for some time.
 
Yep, every guys feels jealous at some point, its natural. Its also natural for a girl to have close friends that are other guys. Its also ok for those close friends to send messages concerning her well being. Its unnecessary however to beat this dude up without any evidence or proof; in fact it was greasy and a horrible call. You beat up your girlfriend's friend over jealosy. Please think about that for two seconds.

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Did you consider Talking to her?
 
i'd just like to reinforce what everyone else is getting at. you're dumb (based on how you handled that situation at least).
 
yeah but what kind of dude calls up a friend and asks if they got home because they were concerned that they were driving with "summertires".
 
Dude, ok look I get real jealous and its terrible, it kind of killed my last relationship. So jealousy is bad and you HAVE to trust each other. Now, why did you beat him up!? Dude save a beating for when you find out he did something, especially if he hurt her. Beating him for calling, not a good idea. Now you look like the jerk while he looks innocent, but yeah talk to her and i really hope it works out!
 
I'd be pissed if I were her too. Some jealousy is okay, but you can't just go beating her friends for caring. You just have to trust your girlfriend to do the right thing, she has so far, right?
 
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