Personality question for NS

*monsterskier*

*monsterskier*

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so, I just finished training for a job as a hostess at a restaurant. and naturally I want to get a long with co-workers (whom are all very nice) and be more people friendly. so this is the problem:

I'm really introverted and shy. I don't talk much, not because I don't like to but more....I like to (I guess) keep it inside? and whenever I'm in a place with people I don't know, I tend to sort of "close up" and withdraw. I try to be more outgoing and social but it's hard. and my facial expression is the hardest to change. I tend to always have an indifferent/blank/mean?/bored/tired look. I'm sure you know what that looks like.

so basically I'm wondering if you guys have any tips for me to become more outgoing?

I already read some articles about talking more, smiling more, mentally preparing and all that but I'd like some more input please!

thanks!
 
I am extremely introverted, smile, listen to waht they say, and if you're like me you hate eye contact so look right between their eyes at the bridge of their nose and it'll help you feel more comfortable
 
i worked in restaurants my whole life, you'll be family in no time. every cook will hit on you!
 
get drunk before work every night

just kidding. itl be awkward at first but the more you interact with your coworkers/make smalltalk/talk about work related shit... you are bound to find someone who is similar to you and work from their in building a friendship with him or her.
 
Then they'll bang you doggy style over the stove.......

Why is it that the majority of NS'ers seem to be quite the group on loners?
 
Shut up evan. Both the statement in your posts are bloody stupid.

And OP, just talk to everyone, be open, go out of your comfort zone. what the worst that could happen from being friendly, or rhetorical question but still be talkative.
 
I wouldn't say I'm not naturally outgoing, so I'm not sure how much I can help.. but sometimes I get comfortable just either being by myself or with the people I already know and I kind of close off everyone else, not because I don't like them but just because I'm comfortable how I am and don't feel an urgent need to be super duper nice and talk to everyone.

But sometimes I find that if I want to be outgoing, I just think to myself, okay I'm going to be outgoing. (I just read that sentence and it sounds retarded, but really it's just like the mental switch) Or if you seriously just aren't outgoing at all, lie to your self in your head and convince yourself you are outgoing. Fake it till you make it kind of thing.

One last thing, confidence. Blah blah everyone talks about confidence, but seriously if you are just confident in who you are when you are interacting with anyone else, I guarantee they will like you better.
 
I am like this too. I'm pretty quiet and not-outgoing around people I don't know.

I don't know how to deal with it really... I just deal with it and get to know people slower.
 
No you didn't, no fucking way. You seriously just said bloody stupid, you've stepped to a new level of hipster.
 
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is that you?
 
hehe, you might be joking, but this is the story of my life, i have a pretty bad case of stage fright/stuttering if i have to talk in front of groups of people i don't know.

I still carry a flask around whenever i need to give a presentation/speak before a group of people or even when i'm on my first day giving a ski-camp, it helps break the ice for me alot and once that's happened i feel comfortable to be myself :)
 
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