Okay...another girl help story

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worstnightmare69

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okay i am a senior in high school, there is this girl that i really like who has a boyfriend who is in college which is 10 hours away, she sees him every once in a while. i am pretty sure she has feelings for me too but she wont hang out with me because she doesnt want to hurt her boyfriend. we talk a lot in school, and hang out a lot at school sporting events, but never outside of that. i dont know what to do.....

haha, wow that was gay
 
next time your at a sporting event, remind her that boyfriends are like goalies, a good shot can still score.
 
im not sure

A) why this is in this forum

B) Why you made this at all

C) Why YOU care

AND Why you think that we care
 
forget it, would you want some faggot picking up on your girl when she is trying to be good when your away in college? out yourself in his position,. your the kind of guy who is gonna get his ass kicked.
 
erm, just keep being yourself and charming her until her feelings for you build and she leaves him for you
 
honestly dont push it. she may not have the same feelings. you can never be sure. let her make the first move. thats the best advice.
 
i was pushing it at first, but that was before i knew about the boyfriend thing. i slowed down after that, and just acting like i normally do around her
 
ok first you have to realize that girls DO NOT know what they want...actually in this senario i believe it helps you. you need to use this to your advantage. be a really nice guy and she will grow to like you, even if she doesn't have feelings for you now(unless you're a dog). Second...you definitely need to hang out with her outside of school a few times before you make a move...otherwise it's very likely she'll get spooked.

finally, make sure that nothin is goin on between her and her boyfriend if you are going to make a move...it's the most respectful thing to do for him, and for her.

Don't take too long though...time is working against you. call her up tonight and be like i just rented a movie and i thought you might wanna come watch it with me...one foot in the door right there buddy
 
heres the point- she wont hang out with you. that means shes still attached at some level to him. she'll ask you to do something, like even if its something for school, like to study or something afterschool at the school if shes interested
 
haha, thats not what i meant, what i meant is i just cant stop liking someone, its one of those those girls where you like so much you dont even care about getting in her pants yet, you just like being around her and talkign with her, cause you respect her.
 
If he is 10 hours away...just wait for it. Unless he moves there or some crazy shit the distance will get to them eventually. But don't wait around, there are lots of fish in the sea!
 
a representative (me) already gave my opinion. i dont think hes in it...maybe he can post this in there and get a few more responses on it...but i cant invite.
 
yeah dude i say just murder the boyfriend. that basically solves your problems and its a good story that you can tell your grandkids
 
its all about the group thing. be like "hey a bunch of us are going to __________, dont know if your doing anything but its gonna be awesome and you should come". no pressure and she will not think of it anymore then hanging out with friends. she just doesnt want to think of herself as being with another guy when she has a boyfriend. dont fool around with her when she still has a boyfriend, and dont become a "good" friend. show her a good time and she'll forget about the other guy and you'll be the winner.
 
I think I might be able to help you because it seems that every girl I have ever liked has had a boyfriend. And well it makes sense, because the good ones are always taken, and if they're not, they get picked up really fast.

This is what you need to do. Keep this girl on the back burner. Become good friends with her, and go out looking for other girls. While you're being friends with her, make sure you show her some kind of trust and she'll show you trust back. Like have personal conversations with her, and let her tell you all of her problems. example: shit her boyfriend does to piss her off. I know it sucks, but you gotta stuff your balls inside your chest cavity, and be a good listener. Now you'll be able to learn from these personal conversations. Never say anything to put her boyfriend down though. Here say stuff like "awwww, yeah" and "why would he do that?" -- those lines are golden. Learn ways to make her happy, and soon enough she'll wake up and say "wow, you're such a nicer guy than my boyfriend"... and will be screaming your name like a gambler at the dog track.

Also remember to take other girls out on dates, and then you'll have something to talk about. "I just don't know why stuff never works out with anybody I date". Normally she'll follow that up with an "AAAWWWWW, but you're so sweet."

Trust me bro, highschool girls melt like butter at this shit. As long as you have patience, it should work. Worked for me.
 
if u think she is actually diggin u, then stop being so close to her, hang around other girls, and see how she reacts,if she likes u she will be pissed and want u, works every time
 
My advice is to just keep everything really chill and mellow, don't push anything on here. Id go with inviting her to group things (already been suggested). But the main thing is that she already has a boyfriend, so you don't want to do anything to piss him off... Maybe talk to her about that realationship, see how things are going... If its good, then I would say just let things be, but if she thinks things aren't so hot, then take a chance or whatever. But just take it slow since she has a boyfriend and everything.
 
its ok everyone!!! calm down! becky is here!! jeez way to take soo long everyone was flippin cause there was no one to give advice for problems with girls!!
 
Bro you can't like "try" this. It just gradually happens over time. I mean especially not in one day obviously. Give her time and just work on her. Keep in constant contact with her and become her friend first. Don't rush it. I've always found it better not to "try", and let things "just happen".

Do you have her phone number and screen name yet??? Well thats number one priority right now. By no means does that mean ask her for it tomorrow. But just keep playing the game, and work up your relationship to asking her for that stuff. See her in the hall? say hi to her and ask her how her day is. If you don't see her on the way to class or something, stop briefly at her locker. Just play it cool. It's the little things that count man.
 
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