NS, I need some advice

[Byron_tha_gr8]

I had a relationship like this, that went on off and on for over 5 years. Great sex, endless mind games and bizarre improbable events made me feel like God was using her to punish me.

Long and the short of it is that she is married, and I am married. Our lives went in different directions. Now I am very relieved that we didn't stay together, because it would have been a train wreck.

This girl is testing you in her little way. The fact that you guys have been together for 3 years and she is testing you is not a good sign. This is classic chick shit. She wants you to take a test, without giving you the questions. You have a better chance of winning the lottery than passing this test. Best solution is not to take the test.

Why not just ask what the questions are.

 

[ptbsbll12]

I had a relationship like this, that went on off and on for over 5 years. Great sex, endless mind games and bizarre improbable events made me feel like God was using her to punish me.

Long and the short of it is that she is married, and I am married. Our lives went in different directions. Now I am very relieved that we didn't stay together, because it would have been a train wreck.

This girl is testing you in her little way. The fact that you guys have been together for 3 years and she is testing you is not a good sign. This is classic chick shit. She wants you to take a test, without giving you the questions. You have a better chance of winning the lottery than passing this test. Best solution is not to take the test.

In what way is she trying to test me?

 

[ptbsbll12]

So she obviously wants you to some degree. Question is how much, and how much do you want her?

I'm not really sure how much I do. I have been talking to other girls but it's never the same. I'm trying to not show much interest or bring up relationship stuff but I don't want to just be friends either

 

[Byron_tha_gr8]

I'm not really sure how much I do. I have been talking to other girls but it's never the same. I'm trying to not show much interest or bring up relationship stuff but I don't want to just be friends either

Yeah tell her that, in person.

 

[Mr.Huck]

Why not just ask what the questions are.

From my experience, she won't tell you the questions. That's the point.

In what way is she trying to test me?

You're asking me to get into her head and I can't do that. I still don't know what questions my Ex was testing me on; I only know she was because it was pretty obvious and she admitted that she was. Not trying to make you paranoid, but like the questions she was asking you about creeping on your friend's facebook, you probably already sense it when she throws something out at you like that, and then waits to see how you react. It's different than a normal conversation.

You should watch the movie "Singles". It's old school, but good. Bridget Fonda and Matt Dillon are on again off again. She comes to the conclusion that the way that she is going to determine if a guy really cares about her is if he says bless you when she sneezes.

 

[deleted5]

From my experience, she won't tell you the questions. That's the point.

You're asking me to get into her head and I can't do that. I still don't know what questions my Ex was testing me on; I only know she was because it was pretty obvious and she admitted that she was. Not trying to make you paranoid, but like the questions she was asking you about creeping on your friend's facebook, you probably already sense it when she throws something out at you like that, and then waits to see how you react. It's different than a normal conversation.

You should watch the movie "Singles". It's old school, but good. Bridget Fonda and Matt Dillon are on again off again. She comes to the conclusion that the way that she is going to determine if a guy really cares about her is if he says bless you when she sneezes.

we don't agree on a lot of things, but we can always agree on woman. These questions are called shit tests, and within the first night that you mean a girl they will always do a few of them, fail them and your not going home with her. However, if its three years later, and she still playing these stupid games you should walk away.

 

[ptbsbll12]

From my experience, she won't tell you the questions. That's the point.

You're asking me to get into her head and I can't do that. I still don't know what questions my Ex was testing me on; I only know she was because it was pretty obvious and she admitted that she was. Not trying to make you paranoid, but like the questions she was asking you about creeping on your friend's facebook, you probably already sense it when she throws something out at you like that, and then waits to see how you react. It's different than a normal conversation.

You should watch the movie "Singles". It's old school, but good. Bridget Fonda and Matt Dillon are on again off again. She comes to the conclusion that the way that she is going to determine if a guy really cares about her is if he says bless you when she sneezes.

Basically it just sounds like there's nothing I can do. I'm not going to try and contact her, she can make the effort.

It just baffles me that she wants to know everything that is going on in my life with girls and creeps on people but acts like it's doesn't mean anything to her, which I find hard to believe.

 

[ptbsbll12]

Yeah tell her that, in person.

I think I may see what happens in the next week and then decide what to do.

 

[deleted5]

Basically it just sounds like there's nothing I can do. I'm not going to try and contact her, she can make the effort.

It just baffles me that she wants to know everything that is going on in my life with girls and creeps on people but acts like it's doesn't mean anything to her, which I find hard to believe.

You must be new to women. A solid 40% percent of my time on Facebook, is creeping on people I hate and looking at shitty their lives have become.

 

[ptbsbll12]

You must be new to women. A solid 40% percent of my time on Facebook, is creeping on people I hate and looking at shitty their lives have become.

New to the single life and dealing with their crap. She's been the only serious girlfriend I've had so the whole post breakup thing is new territory to me.

 

[Mingg]

She wants you to take a test, without giving you the questions. You have a better chance of winning the lottery than passing this test. Best solution is not to take the test.

this. Girls do this a lot. It's our way of manipulating guys into telling us more about them without asking them. An example is like if a guy asked me if I wanted something and I said no but I actually wanted it. Pass the test by getting it for me, fail by doing what I said and not getting it for me. It's all very confusing but the fact that she's doing this now after years is just kinda weird. I do that to guys if I think they like me or I like them to see if they're actually worth dating. After writing this, I now realize how awful it is but yeah. We do this shit. Don't put up with it.

 

[ptbsbll12]

this. Girls do this a lot. It's our way of manipulating guys into telling us more about them without asking them. An example is like if a guy asked me if I wanted something and I said no but I actually wanted it. Pass the test by getting it for me, fail by doing what I said and not getting it for me. It's all very confusing but the fact that she's doing this now after years is just kinda weird. I do that to guys if I think they like me or I like them to see if they're actually worth dating. After writing this, I now realize how awful it is but yeah. We do this shit. Don't put up with it.

Girl's are just a pain that I don't feel like dealing with. My one friend said she thinks that my ex is crazy and does things that is even crazy for girls so....

 

[cornholio]

Girl's are just a pain that I don't feel like dealing with. My one friend said she thinks that my ex is crazy and does things that is even crazy for girls so....

start banging dudes OP, its your most reasonable option