It's all preference and budget man. See if you can find a lax store near you (Laxworld is awesome) and go try on pads and see what is the most comfortable. Or you could check out a play it again sports or something for used gear to save a few dolla bills.
Stick wise, warrior is where it's at IMO, I played D and have used numerous warrior revolution heads, they are the shit. Go play with some shafts and see what feels the best in your hands. It's all about what feels good to you. Cascade helmets are awesome. The teams I have been on have used mainly brine gloves, they break in super nice and are durable. Hope this helps, have fun man.