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I'm in love with a girl who's Jehova's Witness. I'm so freaking fuckking badly shitty hurtfully in love and so is she, but she won't take it any further because it's against her religion to be with someone who is not JW.

And it's not about feelings, I'm sure about that. It's just that ¤%&/&%¤ religion. Don't get me wrong, I respect her beliefs, but really?!

This is love, dudes! Some religion should not stand in the way for it to happen.

Any ideas about how I can get this to work? And a secret affair is not an option, I do not want her to her parents and friends because of me.

PLEASE HELP
 
family friend, it was kinda the opposite, the guy was a jw and the girl was christian, basically it didnt end up so well, the guy was hated by his family for going against the religion, and they got married in secret whole fiasco, guy is basically banished
 
I babysat for a lady who was a JW and her husband was raised Catholic. They are normal people and she never brought up anything about her beliefs or whatever around me or anyone else. They have 2 kids who are adorable, but I guess with JW they dont believe in celebrating birthdays and holidays and such? They've been married for a while now and seem happy and everything so it just shows that it is possible for it to work. I mean they are alot older than you are now but still, it can happen.
 
But seriously, there has to be a way this can actually work. There has to be some kind of way. And her mother, OH LAWD; she is the one who is totally freakin against this, and she is actually married to a guy who is not even christian. WHAT THE F IS THAT? XDDD

You can't deny your daughter to be in love with someone who is not JW, when you are married to one yourself? Why are this people so parochial?!
 
girl... not a man haha

but that is for you two to figure out ! how old are you? probably not too old. and religion can be a touchy subject, sometimes make or break a relationship. but just let her know that you love HER no matter what she believes or follows or w/e and that you are not trying to change that or make her forget. you know ?
 
Ahh, I'm sorry! xD

I am 17, and she is 17. And yeah, I told her that, but it's just ain't enough. I even said I can come to here meetings, and study the bible with here, and I've started reading Watchtower and the other magazines JW is publishing, cause I'm trying to understand what she believe. I don't think that's the problem. But yeah, I will tell her again. And again. And again. Until she gets how much I care about her. :)

But this is really hard. I'm so afraid she is going to say "I don't want to see you anymore, we should end this". oh lawd so frustrating XD
 
Yes, of course. I think that would make her happy and satidfied in every way, I even think that peeing her in the butt will make her accept me into her life a 100% . Thanks for the advice. Love you, man
 
when i was in grade 7/8 one of my friends was jw. her parents were not happy we were friends since i wasn't jw. It depends on how hardcore she and her family are about it though .
 
Her mother is super hardcore about it. I mean like, if a normal, religious parent is Celine Dion, I can compare her mother with like Evil Activities (listen to the song)

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well um yeah she'll likely be hated by her family and feeling the separation from her family she will come back to them and dump you
 
Do what every other guy JW did...convert. Settle down, marry her, do nothing fun for the rest of your life, then convert others!
 
Dude you'll never get birthday BJ's, JW's don't celebrate bdays. But in all seriousness that sounds like it sucks.
 
I know they don't celebrate christmas, bdays, or any other holy day except what we call easter. I'm cool with that, no need for expensive christmas presents, and only time for "super-sweet-random-presents". Girl gets more happy by random presents :D
 
It's really a shame that her religion comes in the way, but on the other hand, she might not be the same person you love without being raised in that way. Hopefully everything gets resolved in some way.
 
Indeed, her religion is a great part of her. And she is so charming and sweet with her values and her polite behavior.

I really hope we'll figure it out! As my mom said to me the other day:

"If it's real, you'll find a way"
 
But I don't want her to leave her family :S

The JW community and her family means so much to her, why would I want her to leave that for me? I just want her to be happy, but I would love it if she would be happy with me, that's why I ask for advice!
 
JW is tough road dude. I know, I've been driving down it for 9 years.

Yeah, you won't get a birthday BJ, but I haven't had to buy a Valentines Day present present for her either. The hardest thing for her to deal with will be her parents and the pressure they will put on her from the Hall. Everybody is concerned with how their actions will be perceived by other members of the Hall. It gets easier for her to deal with her family after she leaves home for school. You don't want to get into discussions about religeon with her unless you truly wish to know about her beliefs.

Honestly, the holiday thing is no big deal. Ask her about her opinions on blood transfusions, organ transplants, and vaccines. If you truly want to be with her, this is the shit that matters.Can you deal with watching the girl you love die in a hospital after a car accident because she would allow a blood transfusion?

Vibes dude, you're in a rough spot.
 
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