Yeah you're right naftel, Reedy doesn't give a shit about skiing, he doesn't have the "love" in his heart. That must be it.
If it's someone you actually want to marry then he must be a bit more important to you than picking up and slumming it in some westcoast burg. If you're 21, it's pretty fucked up that you're even making these decisions much less asking for advice about them on this of all sites, but hey, I don't know you. And your fiancee sounds like a dick, but hey I don't know him either.
Simply put: if you're actually worried about "resenting" your husband for tying you down, then why the fuck are you getting married at 21.