My Girlfriend is going to kill herself, HELP
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Slush
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13648321:McNoche said:
Wow, thanks genius. I would have never come to that conclusion. Of course I've fucking thought of that, and I've know my girl long enough to know that this is serious, and she's not going to be "whoring around." Sorry you date sluts and have had bad experiences that force you to come to rediculous conclusions. If your going to be a dick, go do it in the trump thread or something, not where we're talking about someone's life or death decision
While yes this is serious, it is NS. People are douchers and since it is the internet, no personal ties with the involved means no sympathy/help so terrible replies. This works with everything man. Imo just ignore them.
Past that, pay someone to drive you out there. After she gets a day or two or whatever space she wants, drive out using a taxi, rent a car, payed friend, send it in your junker, etc. Man if I how serious her past problems have been but if it's still affecting her then she hasnt fully recovered which means she isn't thinking right. From personal experience, I can tell you that she doesn't know what she needs. She knows what she wants, but as sappy and lame as it sounds, having someone that you love to be there for you is what helps the most.
Depending on your girl, don't make a point to explicitly point out the problem and get a smile on that girls face my friend. Happiness kills depression so a little smile or laugh may literally save a life, if only for a short time. Good luck homie.
Past that, pay someone to drive you out there. After she gets a day or two or whatever space she wants, drive out using a taxi, rent a car, payed friend, send it in your junker, etc. Man if I how serious her past problems have been but if it's still affecting her then she hasnt fully recovered which means she isn't thinking right. From personal experience, I can tell you that she doesn't know what she needs. She knows what she wants, but as sappy and lame as it sounds, having someone that you love to be there for you is what helps the most.
Depending on your girl, don't make a point to explicitly point out the problem and get a smile on that girls face my friend. Happiness kills depression so a little smile or laugh may literally save a life, if only for a short time. Good luck homie.
SKI.ING
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13648410:Slush said:
While the other dude didn't quite say it poetically or nicely there is some truth to that no matter how well you THINK you know her. If the result of this incident was you guys not talking for a bit then I think you do have to look at it in a different light. Once again we'd have to know your age. Both hers and yours. It makes a difference.
.lencon
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I'm actually quite embarrassed to be a part of a site that gave out those kind of answers. OP and his girl are going through some tough times and he came here for support and there are probably 4 serious answers in this 2 page thread. You guys suck.
Hope it all works out OP. Sounds like some really tough stuff to go through.
Hope it all works out OP. Sounds like some really tough stuff to go through.
daannnnieel
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13648104:safarisam said:
yeah but the vast majority of us on nsg aren't landing a pinkname so there's that
whoisthatsquid
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13647673:7springsprod said:
300 miles isnt shit, my girlfriend lives in san antonio and i live in SLC (1300 miles apart) and i drive to see her twice a month. if you care youll go. otherwise, no one on NS cares about your problems
Byron_tha_gr8
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13648103:Mingg said:
13648170:Slush said:
there for her when she needed it, bailing as soon as possible. Sounds like a fucked chick. Break up, find someone more local. Anyone willing to be in a long distance relationship has some major issues, unless you were that close before that.
Slush
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13650085:Byron_tha_gr8 said:
I think that long distance relationships are the strongest, and therefore "best." You dont have to have "major issues" to be in one, you just have to had found someone worth the distance. If the relationship lasts the distance, it's worth keeping. And no way in hell would I break off a relationship with someone I really love just because they have "issues." I love my girlfriend, problems and all. Yea, she is a little messed up, but I'm probably the only person who will truly understand her, and love her in the way I do. To give her up for someone who would be "easier" is kinda selfish. I'm not desperate, I could find another girl a lot easier, but I doubt any would be as great as her
I dont know, everyone is different with girls, I'm very passionate with the ones I date. You'll get what you put into a relationship.
Deforestation
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13650322:Slush said:
dick in = dick back?
Idk bout you bud but I'm not so into that.
daannnnieel
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13650322:Slush said:
okay, so what exactly is stressing her out?
Slush
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13650477:supermagician__ said:
School, not knowing what she wants to do for the rest of her life, colleges, work, just not knowing. Her parents aren't a great influence on her, don't know how to give someone their space. It's like, you know, when you're nearing the end of high school and you arent really sure what you'll be doing in 5 years? Some people handle it better than others, and she's not doing well with it. Idk I've been trying to tell her it's going to be ok, that these things will work themselves out, but she's having a hard time.
Shes doing a lot better now though, thank God...
PeppermillReno
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13649534:skierman said:
Ur a bitch with no friends so I doubt you've lost anyone close to it u little bitch.
It's a tough spot to be in just gotta remember to support the people in need and let them know u got their back. Sadly nothing else u can do but be a friend.
Op did well understood chick needed some distance but shit isn't on him only so much another person can do cheering up has to come from within and when the person won't help themselves there's not much u can do.
DirtYStylE
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You could send her some spontaneous gifts to cheer her up. Like some flowers hand delivered by a store in her town. Just a little reminder once a week that someone out there really cares. Not sure how a surprise pizza delivery would work out...
PeppermillReno
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13650545:DirtYStylE said:
Bad advice.
The kid realized one of her problems was having a dude she felt she owed shit to 300 miles away.
The point isn't to tell her to get lost. Its that when they talk he should tell her shes a cool person or something like that. Not that he loves her and wants to get married.
He knows to back off let her figure shit out and they might be around each other soon enogh.
Suicidal people are hard to help all u can do is be a friend (not I love you and am devoted despite being far away from you) and support them like that. He'd only fuck her up more doing shit like you suggest.
I lost a close friend who was very disturbed ever since I met him over 10 years ago recently. Obviously I wish I could have done more but I know I was there for him and returned his texts and shit and in college always had him over my house never thought less of the dude though he had aspergers and wasn't totally with it. It sucks I miss my buddy wish there was something I could have done to make shit better but honestly I was there for him and a legit friend and I know he knew that. The loss is big for me too as I have shared on here I gamble and sell sports tickets for a living this was someone I always talked college hoop and football with when Im drunker than I am right now after I get back from the Reno Convention center watching a Big Sky QF game and getting into my free drink tickets it fuckin blows that I can't text him about random ass basketball stuff cause he isn't with us anymore. Im winning so far and already drunk Im gonna be fucking hammered later Im staying at the Peppermill and I got like 20 free drink tickets it sucks I can't hit up my buddy to talk hoop but I think hes in a better place he had a lot of problems.
THats not really related to this thread but like I said just be a nice person and a cool homie and thats all you can do to help.
13650513:Slush said:
Ok well I have an extremely unpopular view on suicide so i will leave that out for your sake, but if its just life that shes freaking out about, i have to say im a little surprised... Im not really sure why im posting this but i guess i just feel strongly about suicide so im surprised that she seems to be considering it over that... I know that i dont know a single thing about her or herr situation but still she needs to get a bit more realistic with things and notice that getting away from shitty parents is awesome and exploring what you want to do is stressful, but one of life's greatest adventures. Plus having a boyfriend who is such a great dude should only make her more confident about this.
Again this probably makes alot less sense to you than it does tl me but ill save you my unpopular belief and leave it at that
SKI.ING
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13650625:parkplayground said:
This guy is talking about a long distance relationship and they are in high school...he won't understand it when you put it this way. We're all just feeding this type of behavior in our youth today by tiptoeing around the issue now. Suicide is fast becoming a buzzword imo and taking away/obscuring true victims or people actually on the verge of taking their
SKI.ING
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13650625:parkplayground said:
This guy is talking about a long distance relationship and they are in high school...he won't understand it when you put it this way. We're all just feeding this type of behavior in our youth today by tiptoeing around the issue now. Suicide is fast becoming a buzzword imo and taking away/obscuring true victims or people actually on the verge of taking their
Slush
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13650792:skierman said:
Hence why best was in quotes. If your idea of a great relationship is furious sex with some girl who's going to leave you because you forgot to flush the toilet, then there you go. Imo they're the a good way to test if your relationship is going to last... Obviously not the best, because it sucks a lot of the time, but best in a sense of determining the quality of it. Shit doesn't stay long distance forever
no_steeze
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Hang in there man. Regardless of what's going on in her head and how real the threats are this is still a super difficult spot for you to be in. I would definitely get her parents to at least keep an eye on her. I don't really understand that they wouldn't believe you, since I can't imagine a parent ever leaving something like that up to chance...
As for long distance, I went through 5 years of it and it was never really an issue. As long as you have no question you want to stay together it will keep working out. The ones that don't work are when people stay together on principle or because they're afraid of the unknown of college and want a companion, but then as soon as they get there they realize they want to bang other people more. Honestly the hardest thing for us has been acclimating to being closer together now and trying to build separate lives while also being together as much as we want to
As for long distance, I went through 5 years of it and it was never really an issue. As long as you have no question you want to stay together it will keep working out. The ones that don't work are when people stay together on principle or because they're afraid of the unknown of college and want a companion, but then as soon as they get there they realize they want to bang other people more. Honestly the hardest thing for us has been acclimating to being closer together now and trying to build separate lives while also being together as much as we want to
Kazabazua
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Why don't you just reach out to one of her friends and tell them that she's going through a rough time and you want them to look out for her?
If they're a good friend of hers then they'll do it for you, no questions asked.
Hey [ex-girlfriends friend], [ex-girlfriend] is having a rough time, it would mean the world to me if you could look out for her, she's going through a rough patch and I think she could use a friend right now.
If they're a good friend of hers then they'll do it for you, no questions asked.
Hey [ex-girlfriends friend], [ex-girlfriend] is having a rough time, it would mean the world to me if you could look out for her, she's going through a rough patch and I think she could use a friend right now.
act.resist
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13647670:isaacwrong said:
it's people like you who are the worst ever
PeppermillReno
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13650891:no_steeze said:
Dude oblivious-ness is bliss. She's got her herb dude miles away to talk to and meanwhile n#ggas like me and felice be laying that pipe nsa. Course she liked u more when u were far away if you look at shit like this. At least u can say u were 'loyal' lol. Reread what u posted man and how lame it sounds noone wants that. U might actually be a player at heart too if u look inside and find ur true self uncle peppermill giving u some good advice.
Slush
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13651598:-WZ- said:
It's amazing how many people have gone through similar shit. I had no idea, I thought that I was alone in this, but turns out a ton of people have experienced the same kinda thing.
Thanks NS for all the support during this difficult time. This is why I turned to NS. I know there are goobers, but there are also really great people