Jealousy

JoeWatson5

JoeWatson5

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So I have a girlfriend of half a year and there is this other guy who is one of my best friends and one of her best friends. And before we started dating a lot of people thought that they were gonna date and he always thought she was really pretty. But now we are and for the most part, are extremely happy. However her and this guy are best friends on snapchat and she tells me about deep talks that they have and I am not super jealous but slightly concerned. An it's not that I don't trust her and I don't want to be some overly protective boyfriend. But I have little feelings of jealousy inside that I'm not sure what to do with. Please give serious advice only
 
You have no choice. You must kill him. This is a classic case of Alpha and Beta wolf. Which are you, the Alpha or the Beta? The Alpha wolf always kills the Beta wolf. Make your choice before he makes it for you and we're all pissing on your grave.

Please give +k for serious answer, as promised.
 
13162038:happygaper said:
Talking about it can't hurt
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It can, if brought up in the wrong way. You could make her feel tied down, stifled, etc. Plus over-interest in her situation is generally regarded as a turn off. Girls like that aloof shit.

That being said, consider talking to your friend. While you can't necessarily say anything to your girl, you certainly can to your bros, and he's certainly overstepping his bounds in your eyes. If he's truly your friend, he'll at least listen what you have to say and respect your feelings. You'll also give him a chance to explain his side of the story. Chances are, he'll back off.

If not, go with iFlip's very serious suggestion. You should use a butterfly knife, those are bada$$.
 
talk to her, legit whenever you feel like you should be talking to her, you should be. She'll like the fact you're open with her as well, even if it is about something like that.
 
13162289:KravtZ said:
pretty sad world when you have a 'deep' conversation on snapchat.
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ppl would have said the same thing about my generations aim conversations, the method of communication doesnt mean anything

act disinterested when she talks about him, like 'yea ok why are you talking about this loser again and why do you think I would care?'. talk mild shit on him but don't go overboard or you'll look bad. be smart and not overly aggressive but you need to lower his value and raise yours. try to make him seem feminine, if he has any borderline feminine interests make fun of them lightly and implicitly question why a guy would even be interested in those things. talk to other girls.
 
and definitely don't listen to anyone in here telling you to openly talk about it with either of them. you will have absolutely no hand to play after you cross that bridge.
 
how old are you and how old is your girlfriend?

seems like you're 15 and this could all blow up in your face if you play it wrong
 
13162301:hey-dude-its-me said:
ppl would have said the same thing about my generations aim conversations, the method of communication doesnt mean anything

act disinterested when she talks about him, like 'yea ok why are you talking about this loser again and why do you think I would care?'. talk mild shit on him but don't go overboard or you'll look bad. be smart and not overly aggressive but you need to lower his value and raise yours. try to make him seem feminine, if he has any borderline feminine interests make fun of them lightly and implicitly question why a guy would even be interested in those things. talk to other girls.
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Aim/ FB message / similar things all have the ability for fast typing with no limit. Snapchat has a quick line of data worth of words. There is no meaningful "conversations" that can be had on it unless you did videos. How old are you man? Sound like a 14 year old kid
 
I was the other guy in this scenario and we've now been dating for 3 years. I never put pressure on her to choose though and I could always justify it since I treat her way better than he ever did. But be careful because she can get away from you. Speaking from experience it is unlikely that they're super close without some form of feelings on either end, and if she's having important moments with him that she's not having with you then you need to consider why that's the case.

Every situation is different obviously but from my experience I would say that you are not wrong by being somewhat concerned. If you choose to talk to her about it don't do it in an aggressive alpha male kind of way since she will undoubtedly overreact and turn to him for consolation, just maybe talk with her about areas of your relationship that she wants to get more out of
 
13162355:KravtZ said:
Aim/ FB message / similar things all have the ability for fast typing with no limit. Snapchat has a quick line of data worth of words. There is no meaningful "conversations" that can be had on it unless you did videos. How old are you man? Sound like a 14 year old kid
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Pretty sure u can both text and have live video conversations text on there, not sure why it's relevant or why it's what you're fixating on anyway
 
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