Interesting Girl Situation

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fresshhhh

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ok im a little older than the average user on newschoolers, so little guys sorry but i need some expierience, plus im bored at work

Me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up on April 2nd this year, and we just stopped talking, and she didnt tell me why she broke up with me, but i'm friends with her brother and she would just cry for 5 months i guess. I didnt want to break up with her in fact she dumped me, odd i know. There is no other guy and thats confirmed beyond confirmed.

We were great up until the last 3 weeks, she started just getting angry at little things i did, and eventually told me I had changed, so i was like wtf, i tried talking to her, and we would end up in fights, our first fights were AFTER we broke up.

Fast forward to August, I get this Im from her, and we start talking again like we were before, She's been texting me and then throwing those little smiley faces around. I don't know what is up, cause the more i talk to her the more i like her, and it seems the same for her.

So i guess my question is what the fuck is going on, has this happened to anyone else, cause if i'm wrong about her starting to like me again, then i am totally wasting time, cause she is AGAIN the only thing on my mind. She is the one who started talking to me all the time again, and im talking like texting all hours of the day and night. We haven't hung out but it seems inevitable that its gonna happen soon.

Im at a crossroads, either let it happen, just go with the flow, or just straight up say

"If we keep talking like this, im gonna keep having these feelings for you again, and i don't know if thats what you want"

Not going to lie we had a great relationship, i just don't think i could do it again without knowing what lead to us breaking up, you guys think i should ask that too.

Opinions Dr.Newschoolers, Help me out!

 
wow. Thats a really similar situation to what happened to me. I went out with my ex girlfriend for close to 4 years. I was pretty much planning on marrying her after college and everything seemed to be going well. Then one day out of the blue she said her feelings changed and she just didn't want to be with me anymore. To say I was surprised was an understatement. I kinda avoided talking to her for awhile but never really stopped thinking about her. So I finally had to just ask her what was up. Figuring that after a few months she'd tell me the truth and not the typical its not you its me bullshit. Well i guess that was the truth with her case. She stopped seeing me as a boyfriend and I became just a friend. It was really shitty but at least I knew that it was over and I could move on. My advice is to talk to her and tell her how you feel.
 
did you think that would be helpful? comon man

ive got no advice for you. i guess do what you think is right, maybe talk to her about why she broke up with you last time. maybe she needed change.
 
i've had the same situation and i have come to the conclusion girls are a pain in the ass, and they dont know what they want.

i guess just straight up ask her what she wants and if she really does care she will tell you and if she hesitates then it's not meant to be
 
I have the same situation. haha its kinda annoying. The only difference from mine and yours situation is we were only togehter for something like 3 months. But now shes doing all the same stuff that you mentioned. interesting..
 
How about asking her whats up? Your fucking retarded if after 3 years you just went oh ok see ya I guess, and never asked her what the hell is up. Why are you asking NS when you should be asking her. And if your older than most people than why are you asking people younger than you on the internet about a clearly SERIOUS relationship, and more importantly your future.
 
Cause guess what, i asked for the youngins to NOT CHIME IN, i asked for the older guys

and read you illiterate ass face i said i tried talking to her and it ended in fighting

im not that much older im 22 but i see the average newschooler around 14-15
 
From my experience this is what's up:

Girls (and boys) always want what they can't have... If you tell her you are beginning to have feelings for her again she wil probably lose interrest. It's a kind of comfort for her that she can still get you back even though she doesn't want to, everybody loves to be wanted!

And relationships that have been broken off once never seem to work out again.

But of course you can't say that it's always like that, maybe she just realized what she had!

So yeah tell her how you feel but prepare yourself that she might not feel the same way!
 
i really agree wiht what u said.. i mean it seems like the only logical idea.. im sure it would work.. what else can u do?..take the advice dude.. just pee in her.. it helps..trust me
 
This is all very good advice. I agree.

Thing is, you guys were together for 3 years. You obviously know eachother very very well. I mean, you kinda have to. Anyways talk to her!! Relationships are all about trust and communication. Apparently trust isnt an issue...but maybe the communication aspect of it is lacking a bit? I dont know. But just talk to her. Call her up and ask her to meet you for coffee or whatever and just talk. Whats the worse that could happen?
 
i'm sorry to tell you this, but it will never ever be how it was before, it will be good for awhile, then something else will happen, trust me i know that shit happened to me, it sucks
 
from previous experience, im gonna say that it would be really awkward bein around eachother ina a dating situation
 
im 20 im not no youngin but i will say

bitches aint shit but tricks and hos......

im kidding but really there is truth to that statement if you think about it all girls are crazy, and not in a bad way but by being a girl they are inherintly crazy.

no matter what anyone says every girl has the ability to make you go (what the fuck is this bitch crazy?) so im saying to you. dont try and read between the lines with shit because chances are she doesnt even know what the fucks shes thinking, go hang out, if fun insues than continue hanging out. if not than whatever bro just keep on keepin on.
 
man I had the same thing happen to me....I was with my ex for 2 and a half years and then maybe like the last month of the relationship it went south. Like we would just get pissed at each other for no reason...kind of hard to explain, but if you have been through it you know what I'm talking about. Anyways I got put in the same situation you did and I just went with it and we got back together and it was good for a while then it went down the drain....some things aren't just meant to be. Everyone's situation is different...soo just do what you think is best. Living and learning is part of life
 
The best way is to just tell her how you feel. Just be like, " Since we've been talking, I've really started liking you again, and If you don't feel the same about me, then lets move on."
 
yeah bro make sure not to over analyze things. you definitely need to talk to her about what happened and why, but just to learn from it and kinda close that phase. don't over think things...that can just ruin whatever potential you may have had for something great. don't let worrying about the past get in the way of that. if you really like her and she you, it can work out good.
 
hey everyone whos actually giving advice thanks a lot, im gonna call her tonight and see whats up, i

just wanted to see if people had the same situation, and i agree it would be awkward and to just let things happen if it was meant to be it was meant to be, thanks for the good advice
 
wow, automatic ban please...cuz this kid is too hilarious! Not like I haven't heard that a few hundred times.

immature crap like this is ridiculous! They guys is asking for legit help and all you can do is slander it. Do it in all the other stupid threads in here about whats clothes to buy this year and how has yet again "slayed" another 5ft summer set up in there backyard ( I find them fun too, don't get me wrong)

Back to the thread,

Dude, you got the right idea, tell here straight up what you're feelings are for her.
 
girls are weird....

but think if you tell her and turn her down now you may regret it later

id say keep talking to her see what happens but if you start getting back together more ask her what happened last time and stuff
 
been there done that...

same shit happened to me...

when i finally got to the point where i wanted to date her again, she couldnt put up with it... we didnt talk for another 6 months.

finally she called me again out of the blue, and now she sees me as her best friend.

and luckily, now I have no intentions of ever being with her romantically.
 
i know you said you ended up fighting when trying to talk about what led you to break up, but wtf man? you had been dating for 3 years, and you couldn't get an answer outta her? idk thats not really a point just seems weird.

but maybe she is just trying to be "friends" again. i mean, she had to put some thought into breaking up with you if you 2 had been together for 3 years she wouldn't do it over something unresolvable im sure. so she could just have started to see you as a friend like what happened to itsbackflip time or whatever his name is. definitely need to talk to her and see what is up though man, if you still obviously have some feeling you need to get that shit resolved and get to the bottom. who knows you might get back together, or at least both of you be able to move on?

hope that helped...
 
best of luck, relationships can be impossible. always the girls fault though.

kiddingggg

no really, i'm serial
 
straight up i dont know how old you are...but this sounds like a high school relationship with IMs and smiley face texts...take her out for a nice dinner and get the deal straight..if your "older than the average newschooler" then the real way to go about it is talk it out iwth..dont play the texting game thats kinda pathetic quite honestly
 
come on fellas everyone knows chicks are for fags and like one wise man once said (^) you have to pee in her butt to see if she is truly the one for you
 
actually that happened to me n my bf...i think i pretty much broke up with him b/c i juss stopped liking him..i mean..it was great n all but..it just srta died out. iunno..could be a different situation..u should find out if she likes u again..then i guess..go out?
 
not all 14-15 year olds have the maturity of a preadolescent "youngin", and might not quite be as intelligent as someone that is 3-4 years older as i am expecting you are looking for advice from. one thing that is certain is you need to sit your ex-girlfriend down and ask her about what caused her to break up with you in the first place, if she can not be honest or doesn't want to talk about it than it shows lack of a couple different things; your understanding and the strength in your relationship. If she explains her thoughts about your break-up than you should proceed to asking her the explanation of why she recently has wanted to get back together with you. you also have not talked to her in a while and maybe she is just trying to get back onto "good terms" with you, or she might be teasing you as many girls may sometimes do. but these are just my thoughts on the matter, i'm just a "youngin" though with intelligible ideas...
 
very similar situation that i'm currently going through. ex-gf texts me out of the blue, and we start talking again. she tells me how much she misses me and corny stuff like that. but personally i believe ur ex likes you again. she probably wanted a break, but realize how much of a mistake she made, and now wants u back. sometimes when people go out for a really long time, like 3 years, they just need some time away from each other, even thought they still have feelings for one another.
 
so my girlfriend read your shit and said yes you should definitely ask her. even tho she is probably not going to know what she wants atleast she'll know how youre feeling.
 
Listen, from personal experience. Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, go back to an old relationship. Especially if they are trying to go back to you. Unless they are being straight up, it is extremely fishy. Sometimes people get lonely and call and ex so they can feel like someone still wants them. Don't be that guy who gets fished into that, it happens to the best of them sometimes. They will just use you and leave once they get what they want. I hate reliving the past and refiguring out why I broke up with someone in the first place. Its a waste of both peoples time. Just move on dude, it's best that way most of the time.
 
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