I slept with my best friend's wife.

I will call that stupid! At some point you will endure that heard break. At some point whether its with this guy or another she will be found out. The longer you are with someone the harder it will be. It doesn't sound like kids are involved right now but in a few years there might be. You aren't being selfish you are frightened of reality. Shitty things happen to good people. The difference is how people react to bad situations. She is not the first woman to cheat and he is not the first friend to fuck his buddies girl. People get divorced because of cheating and some don't. Blissfully unaware is not a way to live, its just ignorance and ignorance is not an excuse.
 
are you trolling too?

jesus christ, have some fucking pride would ya? you'd rather somebody walk all over you and disrespect you behind your back, than actually know about it and do something?

that's either one of the saddest, or most pathetic things i've heard in a long time.
 
>say you don't want to know because you're selfish

>say he shouldn't tell husband because that makes him selfish.

what the fuck are you smoking. If I had a wife who was so crazy she would be OK with me cheating if I lied to her to protect her fragile heart, she wouldn't be enough of a woman to be my wife in the first place.

And maybe hes not considering it for his own selfish guilt, but to try to protect his friend from his wife's antics and an even worse future.
 
well if your homie is in the navy he probably wants you to love his wife so that someone will if he gets killed. that's the whole army/cop mentality, "hey bro take care of my wife for me" "hey babe you can move on if i die" *slaps bro's butt in the shower and makes out with him in a secluded area*
 
The only thing that changes, is that since it involved you the only reason why you are telling him is for selfish reasons. That you feel guilty and you need to get it off your chest.

All you guys sayings, if I was in his situation I would want to know, or I would do it for him because he deserves the right to know... Well you are all incorrectly assuming that what you would want in this fucked up hypothetical situation is the same thing that he wants.

This is a matter between the man and his wife. If I was in the OP position, I would just remove myself from their lives, I fucked up, I don't deserve to be his friend. Not to mention, there could be some serious repercussions to this type of situation, things can get very emotionally very quickly, and someone could end up getting hurt. Time to get the fuck out of there.

Doesn't change the fact that OP is a pos.
 
Nah dude you're fucking retarded. She is 100% right.

Telling him you fucked his wife is 100% selfish because you feel guilty. You clearly didn't have his best interest at heart when you fucked his wife and for you to take this moral high ground now is entirely meant to make yourself feel better and not him.

The girl you quoted is completely right... You tell him this shit, it will most likely end his marriage and have horrible repercussions to his life. It is not up to you to decide something like that for him, it is up to his wife to ever tell him the truth.

I am no way shape or form condoning what the wife did, unless they somehow had some prior arrangement (I have no idea what it would be like to have your husband deployed...). But potentially ending their marriage is not your right.
 
But knowingly allowing a sham of a marriage to continue is morally defensible in your book?

Is ignorance truly that much of a bliss where if noone tells you it happened, it never happened?
 
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BUT REALLY, why did you have to sleep with you navy friend's wife, he's going to fucking kill you. Don't you have a friend who has a job that is less likely to give him the ability to kill you?
 
The husband needs to find out. In a perfect world, the wife tells husband, is remorseful, he is forgiving and they work it out. OP should never be alone with wife again (if for no other reason than respect for his friend), especially if he and husband manage to stay friends.

Probably not going to happen so OP should confess his part in what happened. Be honest and don't make excuses. Don't try to blame her for your actions. Take the reaction and deal with the fallout like a man. If the husband asks about other guys say what you KNOW, nothing more and nothing less.

Say your piece and back off. Let them deal with the rest of it. And if they want you in their lives, they'll let you know, but don't push it. If they choose to work it out, awesome. If not, congratulations in playing a part in destroying your best friends marriage.
 
Disclaimer: I read the first half of the first page, skipped ahead, and read the last page.

I can see where she is coming from. Do I think it is necessarily right? No, but I can still understand her opinion.

Say you're 30 years old and you've been married for 2 years. Your wife, unbeknownst to you, has been having an affair for the past 6 months, but just ended it. The guy doesn't tell you. She doesn't tell you. You stay together. You raise a family and have the greatest years of your life. Fifty years later, she's dying and decides she wants to finally come clean. She tells you everything.

At that point, you could think to yourself, "Hmm, if she told me back then, it could have ended our marriage. Maybe we would have stayed together, but things probably wouldn't have been the same." Instead, you realize you lived out a damn near perfect life in ignorance of the situation and couldn't be happier.

Obviously, the situation I presented is a one-time sort of thing, but maybe OP's situation with his buddy's wife is the same thing. Maybe he'll come home and they'll all grow old together as best buds and blah blah blah. Maybe she'll keep cheating on him and shit hits the fan. Who the fuck knows? Who really cares? I still think this is a troll thread.
 
How do we know this marriage is a sham? Who are you to judge what their relationship is like? She cheated on him, it is awful, I wouldn't do it, but sad thing is in this country a lot of couples have adultery in them. But just because she cheated on him doesn't necessarily make their marriage a sham.

But you have no right to decide and be like: "I am making an executive decision here for you two, and it is clear to me you two are not happy together and don't deserve to be together. Therefore I am going to end your marriage by telling your husband we fucked after I voluntarily agreed to help you cheat on him".

The wife has every right to tell him what she has done, it is their life together and if she believes he needs to know she can tell him. But you telling him that does no good for your "friends" life. It only hurts him more, and essentially makes you take this fucked up ethical high ground of: "I know what is best for you, you deserve someone better," when you are the douchebag friend who helped put him in this position to begin with.

Ignorance is bliss. What happens if he comes back from being deployed, they start a family, and they both live a very happy life and she never cheats on him again? At the end of the day would you rather want to know the truth and be miserable, or not know about some things but live a very happy life? Truth be told I am not sure what I would want if you look at the options like that... But I sure as hell wouldn't want my douchebag best friend who fucked my wife to make that decision for me.

 
You know that really long post that people sometimes post where it's like: "The fuck did you just say to me... i am an elite sniper in the navy or some shit... bad ass stuff... bad ass stuff... you're dead kid"? That's going to happen to you in real life.
 
Well I went over to talk to her about what to do, and she said just dont tell him and I agreed. Then she started to flirt with me so I was like why not this time I will recall what happened. Pics as requested.

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Why is everyone acting surprised? Do you really think a guy who just fucked his friends wife would come on to NS and make a thread about it?
 
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