I need some help

SushiMan

SushiMan

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i never thought i would make one of these threads but i see that i am slowly becoming more of a pussy and being depressed. I kind of need some support and there is no way im gonna say this to my friends. I guess i just need some advice or support to make me feel better about my life.

Anyways, today i was at a sweet sixteen and i realized at the end, i didnt freak with one girl and i blew it off with this other hot girl from another school, she said hi but i stayed there and just didnt say anything. I was like what am i nervous for? i used to talked to her everyday and we were cool and now i dont even know what to say? and also why didnt dance with anyone? it was a little weird because i didnt know like 75% of the people there because they all went to three different high schools. but thats what i usally like, people from other schools, dont know them , they dont know me, and the girls at my school suck (all bitches). and still i was nervous, i didnt feel like just finding one girl becuss they usually dance in groups so i wanted my friends to come along but they didnt. So now im thinking is it partly the people i hang out with? we used to all have connections with some pretty good girls and we hung out and now its just sausage fest everytime we hang out, unless there is some weird girls. So now Im thinking is this crew not helping me be social? I like hanging out with these friends, its a ton of fun but when ever we go to dances and stuff its boring, and we dont hang out with hot/fun girls. I dont know it seems like i have become less social with the ladies in the past year and i know im not the best looking guy but still im going no where. maybe im bad at making conversation or something. idk really, i need help

also with skiing, lately i think like im feeling more stressed out then having fun when im skiing, because I see all these people progressing so quickly and i want to get better but either I dont have the balls to try or just cant get them down. I dont really ski with the most motivating crew because they are usually worse then me but i cant just use that as my excuse either. help? i dont wanna be pissed off skiing or thinking about skiing because i love it and its the best thing in the world.

so overall ive been feeling really shitty these last few months, feels like i dont talk to girls as much, seems like im not going anywhere with my skiing, im doing worse in school and become really really lazy and dont know how to control it, i dont know if im depressed or something, i just dont feel right and i always feel shitty.

thanks for reading it if you finished, input will be greatly appreciated.

 
maybe your friends are to "cool" to go to dances. just find some new

friends to go to dances and chill with. you dont need to abandon the

people you like just become friends with new people.

with me for

example i have a certain group of friends i go to parties with, a

different one i go skiing with, and a different one i hang out with on

a regular basis.

and

if your not having fun skiing park, find something else to ski. work on

your switch carving or just doing dumb little stuff all over the hill

like buttera, or flatland 360's and stuff. but if you still want to do park maybe dont ski park with you crew. ski by yourself and see if you like that better. skiing with friends is fun but skiing by yourself can be fun to because you can do whatever you want. and if you see someone slaying in the park ask him for some tips, i'm sure he would be more then glad to help you out.
 
haha my friends dont think they are too "cool" for dances, they like to go to them, 3 of them love to like mess around and dance, one is actually pretty good to, its just they were being weird and they dont really freak and i know that there wont be anymore of these highschool dances anymore since prom, and homecoming you dont even dance (just take pics and leave) so not many people have dance parties besides sweet 16's. and i wanna have fun before they end.

as for skiing, i dont really have a crew, i ski with different people almost everytime, i dont know many people that are good that i could ski with, only one kid in my grade is good but hes just a douche bag.

thanks for your input though.
 
Well, as for the friends, they are not you. Only you are you, and only you can change you, for better or for worse. Your friends are not you and cannot change you unless you let them. If you find things not going the way you want or not being as fun as you want, then don't hang out with them as much. I'm not saying stop being friends with them, but don't be afraid to be your own man and go it alone, sometimes it's better that way. If they are true friends they will understand, and/or maybe even they will go about changing things. As for the ladies, first off, it's highschool and highschool can be a bit wack at times so be careful not to get caught up in the soap opera bullshit, I mean we are talkin teenage girls here (no offense ladies, most skier chicks are cool). And if you need to do your own thing to hit on the ladies or go dance, then go for it and be confident on yourself. You may also want to post this up in ladies men cult if you want more advice.

As for skiing, I hear ya man. It can def be tough to think about how the level of skiing is always being raised and it can be tough to not fall further behind much less to mkae progress and get closer to that top level. But, you need to remember why you are skiing, and that is to have fun. And, what is more fun than the sense of success, fulfillment, and gratification you feel when you have improved and learned a new trick? You just need to keep pushing and keep working hard to get to your goals. You can and will succeed, but only if you work your ass off, make sacrifices for your goals, and most of all, believe that you can achieve them. As for the crew, again you may want to go do your own thing. Skiing with other people, especially when they are below you in skill level, can sometimes be distracting and hold you and you skiing back. Go have fun with your friends, but if you want to go focus in on something and try to really get better and/or learn something and you can't do it with them around, just say "hey i'll meet you guys in a bit, I've got some stuff I need to go work on."

Here are a few quotes that might help you feel a little better/inspire you:

"The shifts of Fortune test the reliability of friends."

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work."

- Thomas Edison

"If you wish success in life, make perseverance your bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother and hope your guardian genius. "

"Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop the picture...Do not build up obstacles in your imagination."

I hope that helped.
 
dances suck, especially high school ones

maybe you're more introverted than you one thought (hell, i've only danced with one girl since i was a fucking introverted ass)

progression,

while fun, is only fun if it remains fun. tricks are one thing, but most people fail to see what kind of dedication on and off the hill it takes to take one's skiing to another level, at least in terms of park/freeskiing. Skiing itself is not a

competition. So while there may be people blowin up, so what? have some fun. Just shred shred shred. Sometimes it is good to just ride

solo, free of the crew, and clear your mind.

that was really concise, unlike jibjibs good response.
 
hey man just remember high school is not the end. When you go to college you realize how much highschool sucks. Youll meet people that have the interests and stuff and there will be plenty of parties even at schools that arent really big party schools (I go to uvm, which isnt a huge party school but there is still plenty of partying to be had haha). I know it probably seems like college is really far away, but it really isnt. Just start looking into different colleges or get your mind focused on something. that helps me anyway.

As for skiing: again if/when you go to college youll meet people that are better than you that will help improve your skiing. especially if you go to a ski college. I know saying wait until college doesnt really seem like a good answer but its all i can offer.

best of luck.
 
thanks guys, jibjib was that off the top of your mind? that was almost to hard for me to understand (at least at first read)

thanks skier boy for admitting that to me lol

and nicholas, idk yeah i see a lot of the same kind of threads, maybe we all get depressed first few months of the year? idk i just didnt feel so happy

yeah i guess i should find some new people to ski with, since most of my good friends just started park

but i dont know who to ski with. to be honest, I dont know anyone else. I know this one kid in my grade but he is a dick,tells me i suck and stuff, and he gets cocky too. so really, i dont have many options for who to ride with, and i dont have like a established crew just different ppl everytime

okay so dont make fun of me, but this is my 1st/2nd year skiing park.

I started end of the 06/07 season with normal skis, could do small 180s, and the smallest of boxes, still way off balance and and skis werent completely sideways. was hard for me to land back straight too, always switch

So this year, i got actual twins (arvs) and got better at boxes, like 1 bs switch up, and 270s on to some of the wider boxes etc. and sometimes i can 270 out, i can smaller do flat rails and 270 out just fs, i havent really tried a legit downrail yet ...to scared, for jumps, i still suck a lot, just getting to do my 360s and i try for a grab dont get it most of the time, and im really inconsistent, good or bad depending on days. Have yet to try a 5

so i see all these vids of people's 1st or 2nd years and they are way better then me, and ive been up like 30 times this year which makes me feel worse, because if i didnt go up as much, would make sense to me why im not as good. its not like i skied park everyday but still....

sorry, i know im a negative nancy but this is whats on my mind.. cant help it

thanks

 
sucks, issaquahs a sick school but i don't know any of the sophmore class, i heard they're pretty douchey haha. i know the skiing part though, i don't ski that often cause none of my friends are good skiers/like to ski and i'd prefer not to go alone. you should definitely try and expand your group of friends, i moved schools during my sophmore year and really missed my chance to expand my group of friends, cause i only have two classes at my new school. so i just hang out with my old isaquah friends. but taking classes at community college made me realize high school isn't that important, its like such a condensed environment and you're basically stuck with whatever you have. so really trying to make new friends but still keeping your old ones is a good route to go. you don't have to cut ties or anything. i wouldn't really worry about girls, if you're chill girls will realize it and like you.
 
This may sound weird or something, but if you're depressed, just look around a bit. Look at some of the daily challanges people with disabilities or severe money problems face. When you see some of that stuff, it can help you realize , "Wtf am I complaining about?" You're completely healthy. Have a nice home and family. Are actually physically able to ski and look just normal. Why shouldn't you talk to girls? Just be happy. Be like, "Hey, everybody, I look damn good. Hey hunny, wanna go out to dinner this Friday?" You've only got this one life to do all the stuff you want, and for me I know it definitely feels too short. I'm 18 and I feel like my life is flying by. Take advantage of every moment. Life's too short to be depressed. Be happy, go fuck shit up!

As for skiing, if you want to learn shit, you need to push yourself. If you want someone to push you, I'll ski with you and make you learn some shit haha. You'll wish you were never born. But really, just don't worry about everything so much. Sure, things could always be "better," but they could also be a shit load worse too. And I'm going to be you're a lot higher on the scale towards the "better" side of life that you think. You just need to realize it, and take advantage of it. You wanna ski tomorrow?
 
I know what you mean, I worry quite a lot sometimes and its often hard to get out of it. You just have to try and be above stuff...dont let it get to you. If you're out at a dance, then dance and enjoy it. The confidence thing is a big barrier, but if you can work up the courage to ask a girl to dance, most of the time it will be a big confidence booster for you both! Its a really nice feeling to be be asked, and if its someone really worth asking, then she won't say no! School...you just have to try and think about what you want from it. I was all wrong at the start of this year, because i concentrated on the wrong things...it can lower your motivation terribly, but if you stick at something you actually enjoy it really makes a difference! Its easy to get stressed about any disciplines you have as well, like skiing. Remember why you do it. What do you like best about skiing? Get back to basics for a while, even do some old tricks you know you're good at, then work up from there. Go talk to someone, ask them what they're going for, tell them what you're going for, if you help motivate someone, then hopefully they'll return the favour!

Chill and have fun. Good luck!
 
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