I fucking hate where i live........

I'm from Arizona, but I moved to Ohio when I was 9, I always wanted to go back out west for college, but I just never did. So now I'm at a shitty college in central Ohio wondering what could have been, so I'm in the same boat as you. However if things go to plan,I won't be at this school in the fall.
 
I grew up around Boston, which was good.

I now go to college in Minnesota. Weekend's are alright. I usually find some friends to party with or some other event. Not much to do in town, Northfield MN. The cities MSP, is only 40 mins away. When dealing with personal issues I go to the counseling center on campus. It helps a lot.
 
BE the exception where the tallest tees you can find and be excentric as hell it will break the patterns of blandness also get invovled with something like art or music it will do wonders for you boredom.
 
No offense to you at all, however I hate hearing people blame their surroundings for why they arent applying themselves in school. My best friend was a triplet without a dad (who used to beat/piss on him) and with a mom that was addicted to meth. He knew he wanted to get outta the situation so he applied himself through HS and got a full ride to college for his rapping/poetry ability.. It was his grades that really got him out though. Both of his other brothers are still working at dead end jobs yet all three of them had the same, shitty upbringing.
 
same situation here in northern new jersery. jersey is the biggest fuckin waste of space that there is.

my town you can be a preppy ass fuck or you can do drugs. most everyone does drugs and then some get to caught up and start doing heroin. so ohio sounds fun
 
I live a 2hrs drive from nearest ski resort which is 10 x rails/boxes + 2 x 15ft kickers. and it's in sweden so we'll need to pay crossing the border. Pretty expensive for a silly resort, if you can even call it that.

Every 2nd or 3rd weekend i skip last class in school to go with the local ski club night skiing there for 4 hours for around 30 dollars.

Average weekend for me is either skiing friday, party or just relaxing. Saturday I mostly work at a café and sunday i'm training on tramps in the gym.
 
CIncinnati is great. Its not that bed. I lived all over the country form DC, to Denver, and Cincy is one of my favorites. Stop complaining.. Im tired of people say cincy sucks. Grow up and pay atention. There is plenty to do here and ur not that far from the east coast. The only place i would rather live is DC.
 
dude that sucks, i feel for ya, i was wicked depressed a couple of years ago, but i got over it. I also felt out of touch with people. However when I was a 8th grader i was in a class with 25 kids. it sounds terrible, but I got to know everybody really well and we are like family. Also i suggest reading the book catcher in the rye. Really good book, i bet u can relate, i no i did. And also, im sure England and Seattle are great, but they have their downsides, basically everywhere you live is going to feel like the same. Where you live shouldnt make you feel depressed, and there are so many things to be fortunate about that you never really relize you have until you loose it, so apprecaite everything, your situation could be alot worse
 
Unfortunately there are children without homes and nevertheless sports, girlfriends and school. We take what he have for granted way to much.
 
Anyone who says something along the lines of "Be happy because other people have it worse" is an idiot.

Emotional well-being is entirely subjective and by telling depressed people to "stop being a pussy" because their life "isn't that bad", you might as well be slipping the noose around their neck for them.

Shocker, you're almost completely wrong in thinking that most peoples' problems are due to their own lack of motivation. Even if the problems are derived from laziness, laziness did not spontaneously occur. I'd be willing to bet that almost all of the sadness, discontent, or hopelessness people have expressed in this thread are the result of poor parenting. There will always be statistical outliers like your friend; he's the exception that proves the rule.
 
dude i feel you. im stuck in cincy too. but thats why im getting out of here. ive only applied to schools out west. just ride it out man. high may feel like forever but its not.
 
It's true though. If you read my post, I said that people take what we have for granted so much. It's kinda sad. I don't think you're an idiot if you say that, I think you just have had the life experience to see how bad it can be out there without the comfort of your own home.
 
Someone who grew up fortunate, knows no different. Their problems might not be equal on the grand scale of things but to them not having the keys to their BMW is just as upsetting as clickclick not getting his bowl of rice.
 
i live in wisconsin.. and my best friends i met at the ski hill.. so usually i only see them on saturdays and sundays at the hill during winter
 
I guess because I volunteer a lot of my time and whenever I have money/extra things I do donate to "less fortunate", I feel that America is sad that way. I grew up pretty fortunate and until I lived in Italy/on my own in California, I took things for granted more often for sure. I take a long hard look at everything now. Most people on here wouldn't know because their like 12, so it's pretty much a lost cause until their up and out into the world at least.
 
Ya I feel ya. I was joking about the bmw thing but it does make a point. I took a lot of shit for granted before I moved out. Now that im a starving college student I really miss my mommy cooking dinner every night.
 
Haha, I know what you mean! I seriously try and help my friends out as much as possible like making them dinner, helping them with laundry and stuff because I know how much living on your own sucks. I just try to be as helpful as possible, haha.
 
same dude. i live in chicago, the weather sucks and skiing is pretty much non-existent except for urban and the drive top wisconsin
 
I couldn't dissagree with you more, stop blaming other people for your own downfalls and man up and take initiative (not talking to you directly). Now im not talking about depression, because the friend I talked about struggled greatly with depression and I do feel that this depends highly on those around you. I am talking about people in bad circumstances being able to make whatever they want out of their life if they simply work at it. My friend wasnt some crazy "outlier", he was one of many. For a couple more examples I worked in an orphanage in swaziland africa last year and met three kids that had made the best out of their situation. They didnt have parents, didnt have very good adult role models, and didnt have anyone really giving them any kind of love, yet two of them are now training for the olympics in Canada living a great life and one of them is in London studying Ballet and is known as one of the better young ballet dancers in the world. Now THEY had a bad upbringing, way worse than most here in developed countries, and yet they are still doing HUGE things. People use thier circumstances as an excuse far too often when if they simply strived for greatness, there really isnt anything holding them back.
 
it cant be that bad...your just making it worse thinking about it. You are only 16 years old your going through a fad right now. Do well in school, get into a good college wherever you want to go, get out and make bank youll be happy.
 
Many people take things in their life for granted. As such, many people suffering from depression take things in their life for granted. Regardless, you're much more likely to do harm than good in pointing that out to an individual dealing with depression. That person will interpret it as you saying "your problems aren't important" and as you telling them that what they're feeling is wrong. It would be more kind to just punch them in the nose and get the abuse over with, because a bloody nose heals a lot faster than emotional damage. All it accomplishes is putting that person down even farther. Life experience is not the same as psychological knowledge. You have no way of knowing what constitutes a living hell for another person. I'll say it again, emotional suffering and what causes it are SUBJECTIVE. That means that a starving child in Ethiopia has NOTHING to do with the level of depression a kid in suburbia America is experiencing. So yes, people who say that are idiots.
 
I was talking about people with depression, but it applies to everyone. As I already discussed in another thread (which got deleted wtf?), the average parent is horrible. Every adult's personality, success, etc. can be directly traced back genetics and their life experiences. Parents are involved in, if not the majority of a child's experiences, their earliest and most important ones. I haven't seen the statistics for kids that grow up in abusive, meth using households, but i would bet every penny i have that the data would prove him to be an outlier. Knowing three more outliers does not prove that your friend is not one. No doubt those kids have some sort of advantage (genetics, pure chance in meeting someone, etc.) that led to their current and future success. Include them in a data set of all orphans from Swaziland and i'd say theyre not at all typical. The fact that they were able to succeed coming from a hard background is irrelevant when compared to a broader picture. If someone is using their circumstances as an excuse, there are events that led to that. To assume that they are inherently lazy or bad people is to be short-sighted.
 
Never once said people problems weren't important. Just said that it could be worse. Depression happens to a lot of people, wether it's people with a great life or a horrible life. Looking on the "bright side" of things is better than always being "woe is me".
 
I don't throw this word around lightly, but I'm flabbergasted. Be honest. Did you read what I typed or did you just stare at the squiggly shapes? I never said that's what you or anyone else say, that's how the person you're talking to interprets it. There are far more options than urging them to look on the bright side or to commiserate with them. Both options are largely useless. You can't cure someone's sore throat by telling them that a man in southeast asia has AIDS, and you can't cure someone's depression by telling them that their life could be worse. You have to address the underlying causes. I realize you're a self-styled Dr. Phil amongst your friends, but you have no idea what you're talking about when it comes to depression
 
I live in Burlington Vermont and its the best place ever. Summer is gorgeous with Lake Champlain close by and winters are obviously awesome. The city itself is a college town with lots of partying. I can't complain.
 
sucks man,

this might be hard to hear but like somebody said above me, your only 16 and a sophomore in high school (although high school can suck for alot of reasons). wait until your in college, and then after college if your still depressed than change your perspective.

This is what I do not understand about depression in people. If you do not like your life change it.

I have only one goal in life and that is to be Happy. all other goals will fall under that one.

these feelings will pass though, good luck man!
 
haha.
You really don't know me, dude, but whatever. Not only have I dealt with full-blown depression that has brought me home from my perfect job at Disneyland where I was perfectly fine until I caught my boyfriend red-handed cheating on me. My father had to come get me, pack me up and drive me up from California to Washington where I gained 50+ pounds.
This summer, I seriously said "what the heck" and I took matters into my own hands. Stopped feeling sorry for myself and worked out/ate right. I lost a ton of weight. Not only did I feel better about myself, but I kept myself busy. And I did it ALL without depression medication. I guess it really just depends on the persons will-power and strength. Now a year later, I'm doing great. I've cut all mental-harming attributes that used to be in my life out. And I have a wonderful boyfriend. I'm not asking for pity or "great success" feedback, I'm just trying to tell you where I'm coming from and I'm not some self-rightous, Dr. Phil woman.
If you knew me before and after, you'd see a great improvement and it was all done thru my mind/mindset on life.
 
and too answer your question:

So my question is where do you live and what is your life like? what is an average weekend for you like?

I live in Montana and my life revolves around work and drinking with my friends. I ski in the winter and do everything else in the summer (boat, hike/ camp in the mountains, vacations...)

I work 6 days a week so I have one night to party hard and one fun day. some people may think this is boring but i cram as much fun as i can into sat. night and sunday.

I read somewhere that:

"life is about learning to dance in the rain, not waiting for the storm to pass" - unknown

life is what you make it.
 
I live in Portland, Oregon. What is my average weekend like? Well... Let's just say my life isn't very exiting. The majority of time, whether it be the weekend or not, is spent doing school work, and when I am not doing school work, I am riding my bike. Boring, I know, but it is how I currently need to live my life, so later it will unfold as I plan on it.
By the way, you'll do fine; two years is a very small proportion of your life. Before you know it, you'll be somewhere worthwhile...
 
You don't sound self-righteous, just unknowledgable. Like I said in another post, experience is not the same as knowledge. You're doing it again. "It" meaning not understanding anything I said. The lifestyle changes you made no doubt had a positive effect. In my previous posts I was explaining why telling someone something along the lines of "be happy for what you have" or "it could be worse" is often detrimental to the person you're trying to help. I'm not judging your character, just your knowledge. With an emphasis on your seeming lack of reading comprehention skills. Flabbergasted.
 
I smell what you're cooking, trust me. I'm trying to point out that you don't smell what I'm cooking. A. This is online, we're talking about where someone lives. B. If I usually am giving people intense, real advice I get to know them or read into them more, so I'm not offending them or being detrimental to their problem. If you knew me, and knew what more had gone on in my life, you would most likely think that I was pretty knowledgable. I might have grown up pretty comfortably, with a family who loved me but I also have had more life experiences than quite a few adults. If saying "life goes on, it could be worse" is being too detrimental to a small conversation, then someone needs to re-check their sensitivity side. Returning to the OP, everything looks better. The grass will always be greener on the other side. But you should always be happy with what life throw at you because everything happens for a reason.
 
I live in WA and will attest to its awesomeness. Do you play an instrument? If you were to pick up drums or guitar or something it might help. My life has been vastly improved by playing music. You get to meet a bunch of people and it keeps you sane when school sucks. I can spend an entire day away with a practice pad and a pair of sticks, and that will keep me way more entertained than facebook. Seriously, look into playing an instrument until you can get out of there.
 
Knowledge does not always come from experience. I really don't think you understand what JamesR is saying. Good for you that you have all this life experience in overcoming your depression and losing 50 pounds, but that is completely irrelevant. You seem to think that just because you've overcome your depression, you are all-of-a-sudden an expert on it. That is not the case. All JamesR is saying is to not tell the depressed person that his life could be worse because like he said, that is in no way, shape, or form, help at all. A person might need the right mindset like you had, but that doesn't mean that person can just jump right into that mindset. I'm guessing that when you caught your ex cheating on you, you became very depressed and stopped caring. Then you started gaining weight, and I'm going to guess it took a long time for you to get yourself into the mindset of putting the past in the past, losing weight, and starting over. So anyways, your posts do not respond to JamesR's posts at all.
 
If you wanna be somewhere that doesnt look depressing dont go to england. But im from ontario canada, we get every season but the city i live in is boring as fuck, so mostly i find my self high.
 
His posts don't respond to mine at all. We're obviously not on the same page, but I'm coming from a totally different stand point from him, too. I'm coming from a religious stand point but I'm really trying to not put that into the thread, or any thread for that matter, especially because there's so much back n forth going on. I'm also not a Bible thumper or religious "freak". You guys can have your thoughts and I can have mine. No matter what no ones going to agree with anyone, so it should most likely be dropped.
 
Ive lived in Wisconsin for my entire life. Not near Milwaukee not near Madison about an hour and a half or 2 hours from those places. So basically not near anything exciting. nearest ski hill is about 35 mins away. You kinda just have to make do with what you got. Be creative dude. Get your homies together and plan weekend trips and shit. As long as you got friends around a good time can be made from nothing really. Once college comes around visit your homies at their colleges. I live in a relativly boring area and have had a blast in my life. if you think your life sucks and where you live sucks then of course it will. Make do with what you have and have some fun
 
mmmmmm Cincinnati chili....that's all I've got.
oh yeah, almost every kid hates the town they grow up in. I've seen it in almost every state I've been in. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
 
i grew up in cincinnati. went to a private school (Moeller) and skied every day... now i live in bozeman MT and ski big sky 3-4 times a week. i thought there was no hope, there is. get through high school, enjoy the city because once you leave, i promise you will miss it. i'm proud to be from there and i honestly think its a fantastic place to raise a family. i was adopted from laguna beach calif. so you can only imagine how spiteful toward the city i was when i was your age. it gets better! just keep yourself occupied! go to climb time, they have one of the sickest bouldering walls in ohio, when it gets warmer go to wake nation, nick binkly is the dude that runs the place, sick staff, super nice management. long board!!!!!!!!!!!!! cincinnati's hills are incredibly gnar! beech acres has a sick skate park, as does wyoming (over by MND) theres a lot to do, dont let yourself get in a rut bruh!

good luck, i hope this raises your spirits.
 
haha you have NO idea about the Chili.. I swear I'm saving up right now just to be able to pay someone to bring a Skyline out to Salt Lake cause I miss it that much. I literally eat at skyline 2 times a day when im home
 
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