How to talk to girls

RusselCrowe

RusselCrowe

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So recently Ive been hanging out with a few guys and girls at school and occasionally outside of school and Im interested in one the girls and she seems like she possibly is to. The problem is I am shit with girls and most people who Im not close with for that matter, I want to start hanging out with her over the summer but Im very awkward, what do I talk about? All I talk about with friends is usually cars or skiing. Help me NS
 
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Don't think of the fact that you want to do naughty things with them. Act like you don't really care if you hook up. Just be chill. It's cool to flirt but be casual, almost as if you couldn't fucking care if you actually had sex. Don't be aggressive.

Just be yourself, try to be confident. Hopefully gaining confidence as time goes on. Don't think about it too much, just try and chill. If it doesn't work out, there are a few billion other girls out there.

Good luk
 
13435337:theabortionator said:
Don't think of the fact that you want to do naughty things with them. Act like you don't really care if you hook up. Just be chill. It's cool to flirt but be casual, almost as if you couldn't fucking care if you actually had sex. Don't be aggressive.

Just be yourself, try to be confident. Hopefully gaining confidence as time goes on. Don't think about it too much, just try and chill. If it doesn't work out, there are a few billion other girls out there.

Good luk
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Dude I dont care about the ass since I first need to actually be able to talk to a girl.
 
make the conversation bout them, what they want to do with their life, etc etc, this way you can fake interest by asking the most general questions like oh how's that going for you? And what do you plan on doing with that? Oh please tell me more, girls love it when you just listen to them.
 
13435347:S.J.W said:
make the conversation bout them, what they want to do with their life, etc etc, this way you can fake interest by asking the most general questions like oh how's that going for you? And what do you plan on doing with that? Oh please tell me more, girls love it when you just listen to them.
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usually I think you're a fucking dipshit, but this is actually very good advice. Listen to him OP.
 
13435363:.Fry said:
usually I think you're a fucking dipshit, but this is actually very good advice. Listen to him OP.
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Ill look into this for sure, the problem is im pretty sure since shes attractive and all she gets texts from all sorts of guys so I dont wanna seem like Im just going for her for sex, shes actually really cool and not a drama filled bitch.
 
13435364:RusselCrowe said:
Ill look into this for sure, the problem is im pretty sure since shes attractive and all she gets texts from all sorts of guys so I dont wanna seem like Im just going for her for sex, shes actually really cool and not a drama filled bitch.
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check out daddy issues on instagram, that page will give you 100% into the mind of a female. Granted you're over like 16 or something
 
13435364:RusselCrowe said:
Ill look into this for sure, the problem is im pretty sure since shes attractive and all she gets texts from all sorts of guys so I dont wanna seem like Im just going for her for sex, shes actually really cool and not a drama filled bitch.
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start texting her/snapchatting her. Have a good conversation with her over text and then ask what she's doing the next day or something. And like what the abortionator said, try to seem like you don't give a shit. Also try to talk to her the way you would talk to one of your friends. The more comfortable you are talking to her, the easier it will be making conversation.
 
13435367:.Fry said:
start texting her/snapchatting her. Have a good conversation with her over text and then ask what she's doing the next day or something. And like what the abortionator said, try to seem like you don't give a shit. Also try to talk to her the way you would talk to one of your friends. The more comfortable you are talking to her, the easier it will be making conversation.
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Alright I just dont know what it is but I feel like theres a higher chance if I try talking to her over text/snap she'd not reply or it wouldnt last.

PS we dated for 2 weeks in 7th grade (lol) but were juniors in HS now

Thanks for the helpful comments
 
13435339:RusselCrowe said:
Dude I dont care about the ass since I first need to actually be able to talk to a girl.
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Well then just be cool.

Don't try to be be "cool" but be mellow and be yourself. Just saying don't sweat being cool, trying to get laid, or anything. Just chill, be honest, be open minded, be down for spontaneous fun, and just ride the wave.
 
13435369:RusselCrowe said:
Alright I just dont know what it is but I feel like theres a higher chance if I try talking to her over text/snap she'd not reply or it wouldnt last.

PS we dated for 2 weeks in 7th grade (lol) but were juniors in HS now

Thanks for the helpful comments
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texting her would be the best idea. you have all the time in the world to think of something clever to say or whatever. It's also a much easier way to casually ask her out.
 
13435370:theabortionator said:
Well then just be cool.

Don't try to be be "cool" but be mellow and be yourself. Just saying don't sweat being cool, trying to get laid, or anything. Just chill, be honest, be open minded, be down for spontaneous fun, and just ride the wave.
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Ill do my best, this isnt neccesarily for this one girl but it would be nice to talk to more people in general, my 2 main friends all hang out with 5-8 people besides me quite often and feel its time to be a little more social.
 
13435372:.Fry said:
texting her would be the best idea. you have all the time in the world to think of something clever to say or whatever. It's also a much easier way to casually ask her out.
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dont have her number, and dont wanna just snapchat her with a douchey pic "can i have your number?"
 
13435373:RusselCrowe said:
Ill do my best, this isnt neccesarily for this one girl but it would be nice to talk to more people in general, my 2 main friends all hang out with 5-8 people besides me quite often and feel its time to be a little more social.
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Just start talking to the people around you. Say something to the people in the gas station etc. Not saying strike up a full on convo but just talk to people and get your confidence up in that. You'll make a lot of friends pretty quickly. Some of the best friends you'll ever make you'll make in some random fucking ways. All your best friends were total strangers at one point.

Talk to strangers(unless you're 5)
 
13435376:RusselCrowe said:
dont have her number, and dont wanna just snapchat her with a douchey pic "can i have your number?"
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send her a snap asking what she's doing tomorrow
 
13435376:RusselCrowe said:
dont have her number, and dont wanna just snapchat her with a douchey pic "can i have your number?"
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girls love funny snaps. I don't know about what humour she's into but you should know and just cater to that
 
13435382:S.J.W said:
girls love funny snaps. I don't know about what humour she's into but you should know and just cater to that
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Its easy to make her laugh, I surprisingly do a lot but I make a lot of people laugh with either wise ass comments or stupid humor. Ill try my best one of my best friends is good friends with her, basically friendzone and he can help me since he can talk to anyone.
 
13435383:RusselCrowe said:
Its easy to make her laugh, I surprisingly do a lot but I make a lot of people laugh with either wise ass comments or stupid humor. Ill try my best one of my best friends is good friends with her, basically friendzone and he can help me since he can talk to anyone.
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have your friend set you up. that will make things 1000 times easier.
 
women are absolute fucking slobs. and the beauty of it is that they love to let you know it

no matter how filthy your chick gets with you in bed, always remember to respect the animal
 
13435388:.Fry said:
have your friend set you up. that will make things 1000 times easier.
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he made it easier on me to commit to my ex basically forcing me to hang out and luckily at the time he had a thing with her good friend.
 
Just talk about her and be her friend with some flirting so you don't get friend zoned. She is probably as nervous as you. Act like you care about her and not bout getting laid.
 
13435381:.Fry said:
send her a snap asking what she's doing tomorrow
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just send her a pic of yourself in your swag new saga outerwear, with goggles, helmet, face mask and everything. and then for the caption be like, "hey beb i heard you like guys with steez"
 
13435809:.Washington said:
just send her a pic of yourself in your swag new saga outerwear, with goggles, helmet, face mask and everything. and then for the caption be like, "hey beb i heard you like guys with steez"
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girls love stupid shit like that actually
 
13435895:cig said:
Just get drunk with her
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Speaking of which, the thing that sucks is shes friends with a lot of the kids from our town who are back from their freshmen year at college and she parties with them a lot in the summer while I dont know the people nor do I party a lot so I wouldnt fit in with that scene that shes in.
 
13435951:RusselCrowe said:
Speaking of which, the thing that sucks is shes friends with a lot of the kids from our town who are back from their freshmen year at college and she parties with them a lot in the summer while I dont know the people nor do I party a lot so I wouldnt fit in with that scene that shes in.
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Yeah you would just get drunk and see
 
None of you guys have any idea what you are talking about texting/going into an interview mode is a really bad idea and something 99% of what guys do to her daily.

Talk to her and ask her out on a date, she'll either say yes, then we can visit this matter deeper, or she'll reject you shit happens get out there and learn that now.
 
13435954:cig said:
Yeah you would just get drunk and see
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This actually isnt a bad idea. It could go two ways, you get drunk and muster up the confidence to spit mad game at her or shes gonna get with the older dudes or neither idk.

But text her over snapchat and half way thru the convo tell her that you hate messaging over snapchat and she should just text you, easiest way to get her number.

Good luck bruhhh
 
OP, there is a solution!

Stop thinking of them as "girls", start thinking of them as "games". Try to find out her deepest interests; bands, movies, books, aspirations, political stances, etc. Basically try to find out what she is passionate about, and present yourself as an equally deep and passionate person in a comparable way. Make her respect you as a person, and not just another dude trying to bang her.

As soon as this trust is established, use it to bang her. Ignore her a bit more after summer, that hoe will be addicted to you for the next year +. Use that as an easy booty call. Do this with multiple girls, profit. Takes no real social skills, just bravado and observation.
 
13435973:L_B said:
OP, there is a solution!

Stop thinking of them as "girls", start thinking of them as "games". Try to find out her deepest interests; bands, movies, books, aspirations, political stances, etc. Basically try to find out what she is passionate about, and present yourself as an equally deep and passionate person in a comparable way. Make her respect you as a person, and not just another dude trying to bang her.

As soon as this trust is established, use it to bang her. Ignore her a bit more after summer, that hoe will be addicted to you for the next year +. Use that as an easy booty call. Do this with multiple girls, profit. Takes no real social skills, just bravado and observation.
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Sounds like I need to be a douche at one point in this, even if douches can get ass for some reason, I wouldnt want to be considered a douche.
 
13435956:nocturnal said:
None of you guys have any idea what you are talking about texting/going into an interview mode is a really bad idea and something 99% of what guys do to her daily.

Talk to her and ask her out on a date, she'll either say yes, then we can visit this matter deeper, or she'll reject you shit happens get out there and learn that now.
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This guy is 100% correct. If shes as awesome as you say she is and as popular as you say she is, you're not the only one texting her or snapping her. You need to be different in a good way. Ask her to go do something with you with a couple friends so it's not so awkward, then when you are comfortable around each other, go do something by yourself. That's when you can start flirting more and showing her you like her without being a creep. Once you get to this stage you can text and snap when you're not with her to show her that you're thinking of her, also you probably enjoy talking to each other. Just remember to respect her and don't change who you really are and love for her.

Btw does she ski?
 
13435994:.lencon said:
This guy is 100% correct. If shes as awesome as you say she is and as popular as you say she is, you're not the only one texting her or snapping her. You need to be different in a good way. Ask her to go do something with you with a couple friends so it's not so awkward, then when you are comfortable around each other, go do something by yourself. That's when you can start flirting more and showing her you like her without being a creep. Once you get to this stage you can text and snap when you're not with her to show her that you're thinking of her, also you probably enjoy talking to each other. Just remember to respect her and don't change who you really are and love for her.

Btw does she ski?
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This seems good. When I first started hanging out with my last gf we hung out with my friend who had a thing with her best friend so we hung out together before they split apart and I started dating. Sadly all 3 of the hot ski girls at school are taken and this girl is....a gaper..
 
13436006:RusselCrowe said:
This seems good. When I first started hanging out with my last gf we hung out with my friend who had a thing with her best friend so we hung out together before they split apart and I started dating. Sadly all 3 of the hot ski girls at school are taken and this girl is....a gaper..
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Well, you have been blessed with an opportunity to turn a Gaper into a real steez machine. You have to get this girl now, not just because you like her, but because we need less gapers. Go OP, go forth and thrive
 
13435976:RusselCrowe said:
Sounds like I need to be a douche at one point in this, even if douches can get ass for some reason, I wouldnt want to be considered a douche.
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Ehhh, some girls even see it as a good sign that your playing games, because it shows you have enough interest in them to try to make something out of it. Once they're in love with you, they will use ridiculous logic to justify everything, and this is an easy way to get into their pants.

I would say its a lot less douchey than trying to convince her to be a one night stand, since she gets a lot out of it too. Mostly false hope. Girls love hoping for things. Be the thing that they hope for, in turn get your dick soaked in pussy juice. No commitment necessary.
 
DO NOT BE YOURSELF YOU SAID YOU WERE AKWARD SO DONT ACT NATURAL BECAUSE YOU ARE WEIRD JUST ACT LIKE BRAD PITT OR WOLVERINE AND THEN PRETEND TO BE INTERESTED IN HER PROBLEMS AND THEN BAM! YOU'LL BE DICK DEEP FASTER THAN A VIRGIN ON PROM NIGHT!
 
13436006:RusselCrowe said:
This seems good. When I first started hanging out with my last gf we hung out with my friend who had a thing with her best friend so we hung out together before they split apart and I started dating. Sadly all 3 of the hot ski girls at school are taken and this girl is....a gaper..
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Teach her how to ski for a first date. It'd be so cute and a guaranteed fun time

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13436056:theabortionator said:
Teach her how to ski for a first date. It'd be so cute and a guaranteed fun time

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That would be sweet but.....its summer and Id prefer a date in the next 2-3 weeks not in 5 months
 
13435994:.lencon said:
This guy is 100% correct. If shes as awesome as you say she is and as popular as you say she is, you're not the only one texting her or snapping her. You need to be different in a good way. Ask her to go do something with you with a couple friends so it's not so awkward, then when you are comfortable around each other, go do something by yourself. That's when you can start flirting more and showing her you like her without being a creep. Once you get to this stage you can text and snap when you're not with her to show her that you're thinking of her, also you probably enjoy talking to each other. Just remember to respect her and don't change who you really are and love for her.

Btw does she ski?
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No I think you just need to do a direct approach and just say I think you're very cute, and I would like to grace you with the opportunity of getting to eat food with me. You guys are making this way more complicated than it has to be. Indirect is a very safe approach to go and usually doesn't work high risk high reward.
 
13436115:nocturnal said:
No I think you just need to do a direct approach and just say I think you're very cute, and I would like to grace you with the opportunity of getting to eat food with me. You guys are making this way more complicated than it has to be. Indirect is a very safe approach to go and usually doesn't work high risk high reward.
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So be a bit more upfront with the girl youre saying? I would do that if I had a bit more skill with girls but I may just do it to get passed the mental barrier and say "oh you look good today" or some shit like that.
 
13436126:RusselCrowe said:
So be a bit more upfront with the girl youre saying? I would do that if I had a bit more skill with girls but I may just do it to get passed the mental barrier and say "oh you look good today" or some shit like that.
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Sounds to me like you're already in the friend zone
 
13436131:nocturnal said:
Sounds to me like you're already in the friend zone
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No this girl and I arent close friends and Im trying to avoid the friendzone part, Im not friendzoned by many because I havent really tried for girls in high school.
 
13436145:603pow said:
Holy shit NS delivered for this kid. NS is officially filled with the ultimate bros.
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I know Im proud, now I just need to make it happen or else they wasted valuable seconds typing me good advice.
 
13436154:RusselCrowe said:
I know Im proud, now I just need to make it happen or else they wasted valuable seconds typing me good advice.
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you're young enough where even if you screw this up, you'll still have countless opportunities.
 
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