How to stop stuttering for good

junyawatanabe

junyawatanabe

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Hello ns. Im geib and I have a stutter and it fuckin blows. I have had it my whole life, and as I get older, it is making life harder and harder. Its gotten to the point where I have literally avoided speaking for as long as I can, but as I realize that is the wrong route to progressing my social skills I come to newschoolers to try to find some help. I have done speech therapy, and it hasn't helped me much at all. I am a ski coach, and I want to pursue this job for as long as I can, and I think I would be 10x better as a coach if I could fluently speak. Not sure why I came to ns for help with this, but you guys tend to be supportive. If anybody has any tips or any hidden secrets please let me know because im pretty desperate at this point
 
Big ups for coming to us with this problem even though no one on here is qualified to give you a good answer. I know a guy with a pretty bad stuttering issue but he just owns it pretty well. Iit doesn’t even bother him anymore. He has a wife and job working in customer service. But yeah like I said no one on here can give you a good answer. That’s a job for a speech therapist or a doctor or something.
 
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Not sure why I came to ns for help with this, but you guys tend to be supportive.
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yeah i can't really help, OP, but i know a guy with a serious stutter and he's made huuuge progress on it-- he's a scientist and he's gotten to the point where he gives lectures and presentations all the time

so yeah, i can't help you beyond saying to stick with therapy while also exploring other options. and that i know from second hand experience that you can make unreal progress on it. keep working at it! good luck dog
 
No idea op, but speech therapist is probably your best shot and going to them frequently. Not talking is probably the worst option.

Own that shit op. If you're teaching lessons, and it's with little kids, make it fun. Sure they may laugh but they're kids. If you can learn to laugh at your own shortcomings, you won't feel as bad. If it's adults, well who cares. As long as you're not taking 10 seconds to say each word, I personally don't think it really matters if you studder or not during lessons.
 
13976162:runforlove2018 said:
No idea op, but speech therapist is probably your best shot and going to them frequently. Not talking is probably the worst option.

Own that shit op. If you're teaching lessons, and it's with little kids, make it fun. Sure they may laugh but they're kids. If you can learn to laugh at your own shortcomings, you won't feel as bad. If it's adults, well who cares. As long as you're not taking 10 seconds to say each word, I personally don't think it really matters if you studder or not during lessons.
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I agree with this, with one small caveat- don't think of studdering as a "shortcoming". Don't let it define you, but make it a feature of yourself. I've known a couple guys who talk really slowly because that's just the way they are and it has the effect of making people pay more attention to them when they are talking in a group.

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Can't give you any real or technical advice, but just try to be confident in yourself and, like others have said, own it. I was in a course this semester and we had to give a lot of presentations - One guy in the class had a pretty severe stutter and physical tics that would be super present in his presentations and when he'd ask questions, but damn he'd just own it and keep pushing through and it was pretty awesome to see how confident and articulate he was despite his impediment. I think a lot of people were also impressed by him. I don't know if this is bad or not very solid advice to give for someone with your disability, but I also think most people are understanding and are happy to communicate with you no matter what.
 
13976224:B.Gillis said:
What was the problem with speech therapy? Just curious to see what you disliked about it or what your main reason is for avoiding it? Also, do you drink alcohol or smoke weed?
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i do, i smoked alot during the summer and while high i didn’t stutter at all but after i would stutter worse. and for speech therapy i probably didn’t like it because i was really young, and for a while i refused to go because it would make me think i have something wrong with me but i should probably go back for more sessions

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13976284:geib said:
i do, i smoked alot during the summer and while high i didn’t stutter at all but after i would stutter worse. and for speech therapy i probably didn’t like it because i was really young, and for a while i refused to go because it would make me think i have something wrong with me but i should probably go back for more sessions

**This post was edited on Dec 21st 2018 at 4:37:49pm
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yeah man, you should go back. it doesn't mean something is wrong with you, it just means that that person has the best shot at helping you improve something that you want to improve. fuck, most people could benefit from a therapist of some sort haha. as i said in my other post, ive seen a friend make unreal progress on this so i bet you can too. theyre the pros for a reason!
 
13976463:B.Gillis said:
As stated by others above I think first and foremost you should give speech therapy a second try if it’s affordable for you. I know personally I view certain things from my childhood as negative but that’s just because it was negative for me at the time, things change so even at the least if they don’t help with the stutter maybe they can offer advice on coping with it. Circling back to the pot and booze question, I asked because sometimes those things can make a negative impact. If you’ve seen a positive impact from smoking then that tells me a few things. I’m sure part of the issue is your mentality, it’s easy to get down on yourself and cause yourself tons of anxiety, maybe smoking relaxes you to the point that you don’t think about it as much. My other thought is do you just think faster than you can talk? I had a mild problem for a while where I would stutter all over myself because I just couldn’t slow down.
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yea ur right, every time i’m about to speak i instantly think stutter and when i smoke i don’t think about that at all and i don’t stutter. honestly i feel my stutter is more of a combination of bad habits then an actual stutter, cause seeing other stutters mine isn’t even bad. and yea i do think pretty fast i guess, any tips for that?
 
13976683:geib said:
yea ur right, every time i’m about to speak i instantly think stutter and when i smoke i don’t think about that at all and i don’t stutter. honestly i feel my stutter is more of a combination of bad habits then an actual stutter, cause seeing other stutters mine isn’t even bad. and yea i do think pretty fast i guess, any tips for that?
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What helped me a ton was having some set phrases. When I was at work, I kept messing up "have a good day" and "have a good night" So I just started saying "have a good one". It's bullet proof and I can instinctively say it without worry. I don't have to pause and think about what time of day it was. This goes with confidence. You just commit to what you are going to say. There is no reasons to second guess yourself half way through the sentence, which is where my mild speech problems came from. I can absolutely guarantee that working on this problem will make it better. Avoiding a problem almost always makes it worse. I don't think thinking fast is a problem. Especially since you can think way faster than you can talk. So you just need to get used to the signals your brain sends you. Find when to pause and think, then commit to saying the whole sentence before you pause to think again.
 
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