How old were your parents when you were born?
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GayWolf420
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late 20's/early 30's. youngest of three, two older sisters. Perfect age for starting a family, I think. Got all their youthful years out of the way and had some fun, now it was time for them to really begin adulthood and start a family. My parents eventually wanted to have three kids down the road but probably fucked without the rubber on and shit happens when you party, yo.
soulskier
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dad was 27, mom was 25
I was the oldest then they were 36/38 when the youngest was born which was number six
The only thing they did wrong was continuing to make babies after I was born, I would have been so damn spoiled haha
Now at 26 with a 23 year old wife, the gloves have come off and here's to hoping that we're ready
I was the oldest then they were 36/38 when the youngest was born which was number six
The only thing they did wrong was continuing to make babies after I was born, I would have been so damn spoiled haha
Now at 26 with a 23 year old wife, the gloves have come off and here's to hoping that we're ready
.MASSHOLE.
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Parents started trying in when they were in their late 20s, but had issues. Born right around 30, had my sister when they were 32.
270on420out
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My parents were both 33. They has been married for 2 years, and dating for 10 years before that.
californiagrown
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Dad 29 Mom 28 when i was born. My sister is two years older. I think it was the perfect age- it allowed them to still be super active in my sister and I's life, and have energy to do all the athletic and outdoor stuff while still both working full time jobs. Isnt there a lower risk of developmental issues with the fetus for women in the "prime years"?
the other issue, is that both my parents will be able to be active and do cool shit with their grandkids, and and be able to enjoy their retirement and marriage without the financial burden of kids for a good long while even during the best paying period of their careers.
the other issue, is that both my parents will be able to be active and do cool shit with their grandkids, and and be able to enjoy their retirement and marriage without the financial burden of kids for a good long while even during the best paying period of their careers.
Chubz.
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Mom was 32 and dad was 30, im the baby of the family, i have a sister thats 2 years older than me, and a brother thats 15 years older than me. (Different dad)
Looking back...they had kids at the right time i think. It really sucks seeing them get older though. I dont like seeing my dad with grey hair and not having the energy he had when I was younger but such is life.
Hopefully they live a long life so they can be a big part of my kids lives bc my parents are fucking awesome.
Looking back...they had kids at the right time i think. It really sucks seeing them get older though. I dont like seeing my dad with grey hair and not having the energy he had when I was younger but such is life.
Hopefully they live a long life so they can be a big part of my kids lives bc my parents are fucking awesome.
californiagrown
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13549605:Sno. said:
Ya, established career. She left her career for the 2years after my sister and 2 years after me, so 4 years(26-30) to take care of us. She worked part time doing accounting for a couple retail stores and shops in the neighborhood to supplement our income during that period. Then was rehired back into her old position.
cornholio
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my parents were 32-34? when they had me (not really sure because i'm an inconsiderate child that doesn't care enough to know how old his parents are). i am the middle child, 1 sister 2 years older, 1 brother 4 years younger, and my opinion is my parents were a little old when i was born. the wifes parents were 5-10 years younger, and i feel she has a much stronger connection with them than i do with mine. obviously lots of things factor into that, but these are my observations
as a side note, i feel i will also be a parent that has children late in life. partially because we (i) pushed off marriage for so long and other unforeseen complications get in the way
as a side note, i feel i will also be a parent that has children late in life. partially because we (i) pushed off marriage for so long and other unforeseen complications get in the way
Sno.
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13549616:cornholio said:
I feel ya--that's definitely been true for us.
My husband is two years younger than me, so that complicates things a bit also--since women mature faster than men, it would probably be easier if it were the other way around and I was two years younger than him.
Chubz.
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13549611:Sno. said:
She does work..Im assuming she took time off when she was like really pregnant-thru birth-until we were old enough for my brother and cousins to baby sit us when we were babies. Id have to ask my mom about specifics, but I remember when I was young like pre school age not being able to see my mom a whole lot bc of work.
My mom was 23 when she had my sister and 24 when she had my brother. (both are half siblings). Then she was 35 when she had me. Then I have a half brother on my dads side who is also 23 and I think my dad was 22.
I am the youngest. My sister is 33, My brothers are both 31, and I am 19. It's kind of a huge gap. I was definitely an oops baby but things turned out alright I suppose.
I am the youngest. My sister is 33, My brothers are both 31, and I am 19. It's kind of a huge gap. I was definitely an oops baby but things turned out alright I suppose.
KimJong-Illest
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dad 45. mom 36
WidelyHomier
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This chick i know just had a kid and she's 15 its fucked
Sno.
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13550527:Fred_Bear said:
If I could wait 10 more years, I would. I don't feel ready. You know when you're 23-24 and you think...Imma have kids at about 30...well then 30 comes before you know it and you're like FUUUUCCCKKK NO...maybe 32 or 33...then you turn 32 and still feel 23 and its like..well shit...we're getting slim on time here.
In the other thread, kids were making it sound like after 32 was too old to have kids-- I was pretty sure that a ton of people wait until after 32 so wanted to make this thread to see--looks like 32-35 is the majority.
Every year I say to my relatives and friends that ask "maybe next year?"...This has been going on for 5 years.
Old enough...
To party
To party
CaptainObvious.
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13550865:Sno. said:
At what point will my relatives and family actually believe I'm not having kids. My wife and I are both very much "no kids". Ever. and everyone is like "You'll change your mind".
Even if I DO change my mind....maybe shut the fuck up after the first conversation. Now I don't want to have kids just to spite your old ass.
In other words....my parents were 30 when they had me. Third and final kid. I was a woops. Two older sisters born at 24 and 27.
Sno.
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13550882:CaptainObvious. said:
Yeah-- the nagging and pressure is ridiculous. On my parents side, no one says anything--ever. We're just free to make our own decisions. On my in-law side, it is constant nagging. I mentioned that we may not want kids or may want to adopt, and my MIL almost died.
Sno.
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13550887:Sno. said:
The worst are the comments that insinuate there is something wrong with you..."do you not have the normal, womanly & motherly urges?"
Or "when I was your age, nothing was going to stop me from having kids...I guess you just have different priorities, and being a mother isn't one of them."
Like choosing to wait and not have kids right away has ALREADY made me a mother who puts my kids as a low priority in my life. lawl. I'm already a shitty mother.
CaptainObvious.
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13550887:Sno. said:
That legitimately pisses me off. It's not my duty to provide you with a grandchild.
cornholio
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13550905:Sno. said:
that's hilarious. we hardly get bothered by the parents. my parents don't really say anything, maybe an occasional "one day there might be grandkids around" at family gatherings but it's not directed at any particular couple (we're all married). the inlaws only make jokes about how they got a dog because we haven't given them grandchildren yet. none of this "what is wrong with you why don't you have babies" stuff
Low 40s I believe. I think my mom was 43 and my dad was 41. That seems about right.
Def over 40 though.
Im not ever having kids though. I think my Dad is butthurt that the family name will die with me. Bummer
At least my sister had kids so they got to be grandparents.
Def over 40 though.
Im not ever having kids though. I think my Dad is butthurt that the family name will die with me. Bummer
At least my sister had kids so they got to be grandparents.
saskskier
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13550905:Sno. said:
That's brutal. My best friend and his wife struggled with infertility for years before they were able to have their son (who is pretty much the best). We've had many, many conversations around how insensitive people can be around the whole 'when are you having a baby', 'why don't you have kids yet' question.
Now that they've had their little guy for a couple of years, people are once again asking when they're having another one. At this point they aren't sure if they want to go through the difficulty and struggle all over again.
People who don't know what's going on in other people's lives need to keep their mouths shut and mind their own business. Even if people have the best of intentions and ask completely harmless questions, you have no idea how much it can hurt the people they're asking.
At the end of the day, people will or won't have kids on their own timeline and they don't owe anyone an explanation.
californiagrown
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saskskier
At the end of the day, people will or won't have kids on their own timeline and they don't owe anyone an explanation.[/quote]
Here's a pretty insensitive, but philosophically interesting question IMO: why are folks okay with older women trying to get pregnant, but horrified when an already pregnant 28 year old has a few glasses of wine, or smokes a few cigs? Both are voluntarily increasing the risk for birth defects about the same amount. Does it matter so much that it's the mother vs nature directly causing the increased risk? e
Does it matter that the increased risk in both instances are the mothers choice?
At the end of the day, people will or won't have kids on their own timeline and they don't owe anyone an explanation.[/quote]
Here's a pretty insensitive, but philosophically interesting question IMO: why are folks okay with older women trying to get pregnant, but horrified when an already pregnant 28 year old has a few glasses of wine, or smokes a few cigs? Both are voluntarily increasing the risk for birth defects about the same amount. Does it matter so much that it's the mother vs nature directly causing the increased risk? e
Does it matter that the increased risk in both instances are the mothers choice?
saskskier
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13551988:californiagrown said:
That's an interesting question. I don't know much about the risks and potential fallout of getting pregnancy later in life, but I do know that FASD is pretty much the worst and is completely preventable.
I think one of the biggest issues is availability of support IF there are complications. For example, if you have a baby later in life and they have downs syndrome, it's generally pretty self-evident and there are all kinds of supports and resources available to help those parents. If your kid with Downs acts up in the grocery store, people tend to be understanding and compassionate. Same with schools.
Only about 7% of kids born with FASD have any kind of physical markers so when behavioural or learning issues come up, people tend to assume these kids are just bad or have a learning disability rather than a legit, developmental disability. There are fewer supports and resources for kids and parents with FASD than with other disabilities.If they same situation comes up at the grocery store with an FASD kid, judgement is cast on a parent who can't control their bad kid. Same with schools.
I don't think it's fair to say someone who is older is completely irresponsible to have a baby later in life. There are any number of circumstances that could lead to that situation.
It is absolutely irresponsible to drink during pregnancy.
californiagrown
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13552015:saskskier said:
I agree it is irresponsible to drink, smoke, etc during pregnancy. Is it not just as irresponsible to voluntarily wait till later in life to have kids?
As for involuntarily waiting to have kids till later, I assume you think having children is a right, not a privilege? Not from a governmental perspective, but from a "game of life" perspective.
saskskier
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13552042:californiagrown said:
I'm really torn between the right and privilege to have kids. With everything I deal with at work, there are definitely many, many times I wished people didn't have kids and we encourage most of our clients to be on some kind of birth control. That said, I don't think I would ever be on board with involuntarily removing someone's ability to have kids.
What I was getting at in my last post is there are people I know who don't always expect to have children later in life, but somehow manage to get pregnant or circumstances lead to that situation. I know people who will not have kids unless they are married first (myself included). What if that doesn't happen until mid-late thirties?
13552108:safarisam said:
Forgot some info:
My dad is 2 years older than my mom. I am the oldest child, obviously there are three of us.
In my parent's careers it was perfect timing. They had enough cash saved up to have kids. My mom was working corporate that, and my dad was a farmer- their jobs provided well.
If it was up to me is have my first kid before 30. I don't want to push my body like that's when I'm reaching up there in fertility and agility.