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Dan3L

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I've been talking to this girl recently and we've both been explicitly told each other that we like each other but she doesn't want to date me because eventually we are just gonna get hurt and its stressing me out. I'm talking to her in person today about it face to face. plz give me ur input and feel free to ask questions
 
topic:Dan3L said:
I've been talking to this girl recently and we've both been explicitly told each other that we like each other but she doesn't want to date me because eventually we are just gonna get hurt and its stressing me out. I'm talking to her in person today about it face to face. plz give me ur input and feel free to ask questions
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i mean why do you say you know for certain that eventually you'll get hurt? Like is she with someone else?

If you're both single and like eachother the next step should be to take her clothes off.
 
14292650:zues said:
i mean why do you say you know for certain that eventually you'll get hurt? Like is she with someone else?

If you're both single and like eachother the next step should be to take her clothes off.
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its like she is really into me like she said "i wish i could be with you everyday" and "it could be so fun" but she cant bring herself to it because she just sees the end of the relationship. I'm just gonna stick it out and keep trying but shes trying to purposely distance herself so she doesnt get hurt. i just don't understand. we usually talk everynight till we fall asleep but now its starting to fade. today will decide how it goes when we hang out
 
i'm in love with a married chick which will never go anywhere besides sex so i feel ya brother! it sucks but sex is fun and good practice for when you meet the chick you do marry.
 
if you really like her you gotta just keep trying man.

14292658:Dan3L said:
its like she is really into me like she said "i wish i could be with you everyday" and "it could be so fun" but she cant bring herself to it because she just sees the end of the relationship. I'm just gonna stick it out and keep trying but shes trying to purposely distance herself so she doesnt get hurt. i just don't understand. we usually talk everynight till we fall asleep but now its starting to fade. today will decide how it goes when we hang out
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14292658:Dan3L said:
its like she is really into me like she said "i wish i could be with you everyday" and "it could be so fun" but she cant bring herself to it because she just sees the end of the relationship. I'm just gonna stick it out and keep trying but shes trying to purposely distance herself so she doesnt get hurt. i just don't understand. we usually talk everynight till we fall asleep but now its starting to fade. today will decide how it goes when we hang out
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She is broken and you need to eliminate any possible soy in your diet.

And deadlifts....Do more deadlifts.
 
lol, stop paying attention to her, lift weights and go skiing. Focus on yourself and she will def change her mind. don't chase, never works.
 
14292659:zues said:
i'm in love with a married chick which will never go anywhere besides sex so i feel ya brother! it sucks but sex is fun and good practice for when you meet the chick you do marry.
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As I watch this saga unfold, I can't help but be happy that you are finding the same explosive passion with your heart that you have with your body!

Her husband on the other hand... maybe you could get him into a win/win cuckold kind of situation?
 
topic:Dan3L said:
I've been talking to this girl recently and we've both been explicitly told each other that we like each other but she doesn't want to date me because eventually we are just gonna get hurt and its stressing me out. I'm talking to her in person today about it face to face. plz give me ur input and feel free to ask questions
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You're hugging a cactus. The more you squeeze, the more it hurts.

 
14292753:larilinesign said:
As I watch this saga unfold, I can't help but be happy that you are finding the same explosive passion with your heart that you have with your body!

Her husband on the other hand... maybe you could get him into a win/win cuckold kind of situation?
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Eh not much to unfold anymore. We still talk every day but we’re just sorta friends now. She’s not leaving her husband and I had my Fun. I couldn’t be with someone whose a cheater like that anyway. She’s a legit slut
 
14292728:steeze_louise said:
lol, stop paying attention to her, lift weights and go skiing. Focus on yourself and she will def change her mind. don't chase, never works.
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So basically what you're saying is.... "pretend she doesn't exist and completely ignore her".

Works every time..... girls love when you ignore them. SO much better than making an effort to be apart of her life. Genius. 10/10 emotional maturity
 
14292791:twinkle_toes said:
So basically what you're saying is.... "pretend she doesn't exist and completely ignore her".

Works every time..... girls love when you ignore them. SO much better than making an effort to be apart of her life. Genius. 10/10 emotional maturity
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Uhhh yeah. That's pretty much the long and short of it. She told him she doesnt want a relationship. Sounds like he should drop it and move on. This ain't The Notebook and it's not OPs job to fix this girl.
 
14292797:Craw_Daddy said:
Uhhh yeah. That's pretty much the long and short of it. She told him she doesnt want a relationship. Sounds like he should drop it and move on. This ain't The Notebook and it's not OPs job to fix this girl.
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yea but he is clearly in L O V E

I went thru the lift weights/ski/ignore boys phase. We all go thru that at some point. I'm just rootin for our man here to have a happy ending ok
 
14292791:twinkle_toes said:
So basically what you're saying is.... "pretend she doesn't exist and completely ignore her".

Works every time..... girls love when you ignore them. SO much better than making an effort to be apart of her life. Genius. 10/10 emotional maturity
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Yeah thats exactly what im saying lol, never worth it to chase girls if it lowers your self worth. Better to cut your losses and move on.
 
14292799:twinkle_toes said:
yea but he is clearly in L O V E

I went thru the lift weights/ski/ignore boys phase. We all go thru that at some point. I'm just rootin for our man here to have a happy ending ok
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Reality check: When a guy is “too much” in love with someone that refuses to return the feeling; its psychotic behavior. These people are dangeous as fuck.

Love is ackward, difficult and takes time and dedication. TV shows and movies make it look so perfect that people believe love is an instant orgasm at first meeting. Never happens that way in real life.

OP is best to just be friends. Guys have to first learn how to deal with rejection healthly to be able to have better healthier relationships. Hes still young, there will be other girls that will actually be interested later. Dont waste your time on an “i dont know”; its either “fuck yeah!” Or “no” in this instance
 
14292841:freestyler540 said:
Reality check: When a guy is “too much” in love with someone that refuses to return the feeling; its psychotic behavior. These people are dangeous as fuck.

Love is ackward, difficult and takes time and dedication. TV shows and movies make it look so perfect that people believe love is an instant orgasm at first meeting. Never happens that way in real life.

OP is best to just be friends. Guys have to first learn how to deal with rejection healthly to be able to have better healthier relationships. Hes still young, there will be other girls that will actually be interested later. Dont waste your time on an “i dont know”; its either “fuck yeah!” Or “no” in this instance
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In all seriousness yea this is pretty solid advice haha
 
You sound young. How old are you two? Why does there need to be the pressure of "labeling" a relationship? Just hang out, enjoy each other's company, and see where things go!

That said, anyone who says that they like you, but doesn't want a relationship because they think it's doomed from the start is a big red flag. Be warned, and try not to be too attached to a personality like that. It could either be her being young, her having emotional insecurity issues, or straight depression. Some of those can be overcome, some cannot.
 
Just go out and have fun and make sure to hang out with a bunch of random girls and get tagged in photos for your social media. Then if she asks you about it be really vague about it all and say things like, "I dont know, that is just some other girl I know dont worry about it." Everyone knows that the only emotion girls have that is stronger than insecurity is jealously so work that to your advantage and you will be golden. She may be afraid to lose you but she will damn sure be more concerned that someone else has you.
 
14292956:ThaLorax said:
You sound young. How old are you two? Why does there need to be the pressure of "labeling" a relationship? Just hang out, enjoy each other's company, and see where things go!

That said, anyone who says that they like you, but doesn't want a relationship because they think it's doomed from the start is a big red flag. Be warned, and try not to be too attached to a personality like that. It could either be her being young, her having emotional insecurity issues, or straight depression. Some of those can be overcome, some cannot.
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In all seriousness this. If she is that insecure from the get go then the relationship is going to be a nightmare. She is going to find any kind of evidence to support her mindset which means she will always be suspicious and it will rive you crazy. Any time you want to do something with friends or by yourself she will think you are cheating etc I have a buddy going through this shit now and it really dragged his life down. Im pretty sure she even crashed her car without her seatbelt on just to keep from breaking up with him.
 
I've been where you are before with someone who'd been fucked up by a terrible breakup. They kept saying that I was everything they wanted but that the last time they'd let themselves "fall for that" it ended in too much pain. As hard as it is, it's better to bow out than to pursue someone emotionally unavailable. In almost every case I've lived or seen friends go through, the more you chase, the more she'll run. It really sucks though, I'm sorry dude. Just my two cents - hope things work out better for you.
 
14292659:zues said:
i'm in love with a married chick which will never go anywhere besides sex so i feel ya brother! it sucks but sex is fun and good practice for when you meet the chick you do marry.
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If you post that youre with a married woman in 30 more threads, maybe we would believe you
 
14293072:TRVP_ANGEL said:
If you post that youre with a married woman in 30 more threads, maybe we would believe you
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Dude she’s married hehe. It’s so av an guard
 
GUYSSS!!!! Me and the chick I was talking about in this thread just made out and made up let’s gooooooooooo! Also I mean this completely serious we made out to the ZOOTSPACE soundtrack. At least some of it. So stoked!!
 
14301994:Dan3L said:
GUYSSS!!!! Me and the chick I was talking about in this thread just made out and made up let’s gooooooooooo! Also I mean this completely serious we made out to the ZOOTSPACE soundtrack. At least some of it. So stoked!!
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Op the alpha
 
14301994:Dan3L said:
GUYSSS!!!! Me and the chick I was talking about in this thread just made out and made up let’s gooooooooooo! Also I mean this completely serious we made out to the ZOOTSPACE soundtrack. At least some of it. So stoked!!
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making out to nitzer ebb would just make me stop and go find a coffee table to break. impressed
 
14301994:Dan3L said:
GUYSSS!!!! Me and the chick I was talking about in this thread just made out and made up let’s gooooooooooo! Also I mean this completely serious we made out to the ZOOTSPACE soundtrack. At least some of it. So stoked!!
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Sigma male behavior
 
I was in the same shoes that’s just a nice way of her saying she has no interest, if you want you can hit it but cut that cord now haha
 
14302289:weastcoast said:
I was in the same shoes that’s just a nice way of her saying she has no interest, if you want you can hit it but cut that cord now haha
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Nah we dating now lfgggggg
 
Wishing you the best but that whole drama laden origin story sounds rough. I’d be concerned about her attachment style/behavior.

14302292:Dan3L said:
Nah we dating now lfgggggg
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14303843:Dan3L said:
I don’t be having sex.
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And I ain’t be cuddling with a 5’6 brunette with freckles a cute smile and a rockin body rn. Somethings are only dreams man
 
14303847:WoFlowz said:
And I ain’t be cuddling with a 5’6 brunette with freckles a cute smile and a rockin body rn. Somethings are only dreams man
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Hey King, don't downplay yourself, you could very quickly find yourself cuddling with a 5'6 brunette with freckles a cute smile and a rockin body real soon. You got this my G, nothing in your way but you

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