Girls like nice guys PSA

but also like be real about your feelings cuz I was nice to the point of one of my high school crushes not knowing I was even into her. say what you mean brothers but you aren't entitled to receiving anything from women for being nice. jus be respectful
 
I always thought the "just be yourself" advice was bullshit. Thats cause I wasn't being my real self, and trying to get with girls who I didn't click with. Now, luck does play a part, but since I put work into becoming my real self, and ditching all the angsty, toxic layers, somehow I've managed to find the most amazing girl in the world, who's as in to me as I am to her. Society has conditioned us to think that we need to be in a relationship to be happy, and there is some biological/evolutionary truth to that argument. You don't need to be happy single, but you need to work on yourself enough to have the patience to wait for "the one".

[tag=260955]@AbiH[/tag] The kind of people who want a "bad boy" are shitty people, but I think most of us have had some mild attraction to those types at one point or another in our lives. This is often a feature of one's teenage years, and goes away as you get older. Some of that may be evolutionary, as you want your partner to be ok with a certain amount of risk. The media plays up on this, with lots of "bad boy" actors/movies, because everyone has some attraction to that sort of thing. (maybe not sexual, but if those things aren't as attractive, they wouldn't be as widespread). The whole "women want a "bad boy" thing seems to be justification used by those who can't get laid, and decide that it is because they are too nice. "I held the door open for her, bought her dinner, stalked her home, why won't she let me raw dog her ass on the first date?" Then this whole "bad boy" myth gets perpetuated. As for the dudes who are gonna argue this with me, the girls that really want those kind of guys (and vice versa) are fucking psycho, ya don't want them, so don't cry over them.
 
I find the trick is to simply be very honest about your feelings; don't let anything go unsaid. This means being as kind, goofy, etc. as you really feel like being, as well as not being afraid to express that you have a functioning dick+balls. Basically have no shame about any feeling, whether it's fear of being too nice and "beta" or fear of being too aggressive and "creepy", and I find it all balances out, and if it doesn't, you'll know.
 
Tried out being nice with a girl I was flirting with. Didn’t go well she ghosted me. I thinks it’s cause she has mega daddy issues that’s why she doesn’t like nice guys. She did it to another kid Ik also once he was like nice and not 75percent being rude or making fun of her
 
Heres a short story watching my old roomate go.

This guy was shifty as fuck, he would break into my room and steal money. He later upgraded to blackmailing me on “fines” i had to pay him and his gf. Anyway, it sets the framework.

So this dude always had a different gf. He would brag about it all the time. Then procedes to show me a list of all the girls he cheated on with. This was a detailed list; full name, parents name, date of birth, adress, date of last fuck and their preferences. It was not just a couple names, these were pages upon pages of his cheating records.

Then he dropped the bomb. “Fucking a chick is really easy; find the underage emo chick, get her drunk, tell her your the lead guitarist of a band then talk about daddy issues until she fucks you.”

This actually works; how else would he be pulling this shit off? He followed these steps with precision. It made me sick to my stomach.

So what you think happens? Once she finds out their where just fuck meat for him, they get angry at men in general. They father left them and they keep joining up with predators like that. No wonder they are pissed off from all the betrayal.

Now, Im far more oldschool about relationships. I believe friends first, love builds through activities and partnership. So my dates of choice are usually revolve around teamwork. Canoeing, biking, climbing... activities to see how does the other reacts when things get rough. Thats how I feel for someones thought process. Ive also learnt that the energy of the other is the reciprecation of feeling of “love”. The best sex is love sex, so Im not big on sex on first date.

Its also where it all goes wrong for me. First rejection starts with “your too active for me”. This is 80%of cases. Next is the “im busy” for every activity and then im ghosted after a week. This is about 15% of cases. Last case that hurts me the most, are the ones that are cheating on their boyfriend to get back at them for cheating. I caught 2 of 3.

My last girlfriend was in 2016 and it didnt last long, she told me a week later she was going back to Ontario. I bought a special edition white wine to celebrate the occasion of her admitting her crush on me.

Well, I still have that bottle, unopened. I promised myself I would open it for the next girl in my life.

So, Im 33 now. Ive given up on the whole thing. My family are my mountain partners, my fans and anyone who joins my circle. I get awesome love from them, but its family love. Im Godfathering 2 kids with a close friend and helping out ailing neigbours that are always outside, socializing.

So, I have my social critism about the other gender, but Id rather keep them to myself. No need to grow a neckbeard
 
14277056:Chunkylover said:
Ugh can I just say how much I hate the misuse of the word "simp"?

Men insulting men for treating women with ordinary kindness, like we have any value besides being their Mommy McBangMaid.

God, they'll call each other "simps" just for having normal friendly conversations with us.

It's an immediate indicator that these guys don't have a sense of positive masculinity. Instead, one that is fragile and warped.

No wonder we stray away from these guys. In the end, they always get abandoned.

In reality, women gravitate towards and respect men who are strong enough in themselves to be vulnerable, have no qualms showing respect to women, showing a sense of maturity and competency which allows them to actually bond with us.
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Just as a broad sweeping generalization - guys who surround themselves with friends who call them simps aren’t worth the time.

That’s some fuccboi shit and you bout to get uninvited to the Saturday bbq real quick.
 
14278364:gorbdawggybrent said:
what i got from this thread is that my downfall with girls is being TOO nice
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Yeah I mean you should definitely be nice but if you're helping random girls pay for their Yamahas then ur a simp. If girls want dirtbikes they can EARN THEM THE OLD FASHIONED WAY and start an only fans...
 
14278364:gorbdawggybrent said:
what i got from this thread is that my downfall with girls is being TOO nice
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To quote the author Diane Setterfield "Being nice is what's left when you've failed at everything else".

Like yeah sure, you need to be nice and treat your partner (and others) well. But nice isn't a personality. It's the bare minimum and so basic it shouldn't need to be mentioned. If someone is described as nice, that generally means they're so boring that the person can think of no other words to describe them. And... that's generally not enough for a life partner. Toast is nice, people enjoy eating toast, but it's nobody's favourite food.

If I die and people at my funeral talk about how nice I was I'll know I have failed. Not because I don't think I'm nice, but because it means I've lived my entire life whilst being entirely unremarkable.
 
14276581:Chunkylover said:
Ohhh you been dipping your paws in the dirtbag shit pot eh?

Ya know what, fuck it, I'll say it. I don't care if I get flamed over this one cuz it hits home for me and countless of my friends. Besides, I know none of these hypocrites will understand... until the day they're scared shirtless at the idea of their sisters and daughters moving to a ski town.

The majority of ski/ride dudes make the fucking worst partners.

I've tangoed with enough of em and seen the same behavior over and over.

A couple rambling theories from my experiences:

1. Their identities revolve around competitive pack riding. The "guy that can't keep up anymore" gets shit on - either get ridiculed out of the group or he has to earn more status to stay in the pack. If his girlfriend skis better than him, WHOAH he automatically bumps down the food chain and has to discourage and exclude her away from skiing, especially with him and his friends. If she skis worse, it's always justified to shit on her, as she is the lowest member of the pack.

2. To survive crazy ratios (love you Scummit County) of dudes relentlessly hitting on you, threatening you, and stalking you all the time, you feel like you need to have a boyfriend for safety, whether you want one or not. So you go from one toxic shitty relationship to another with psycho ass mountain dudes just for them to be like, "I'm taking a turn on this entitled bitch." They don't have enough practical experience and baseline empathy with women to understand that we're not trying to fuck our way to the top of their pack. Just trying to navigate a swirling dating pool that's rife with aggressive, sexist, stupid, violent, drug addicted, brain injured alcoholics that live in the woods.

It is sooooooo rare in this niche to actually meet a NICE, attractive, treat you like an equal, conscientious, philosophical man with an actual identity and robust sense of self esteem. Soooo rare.

Guys that regularly enjoy the pleasantry of sessioning with women because they actually understand how nice it is to spend time with their mothers, sisters, lovers, and female friends? Few and far between.
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wow you actually kinda nailed it hahaha
 
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