Dorming with a long time friend

Pisces

Pisces

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Alright here's the deal. Me and my 2 best friends all got accepted and pretty much definitely going to Penn State main campus next fall. My friend Kevin is the smart one, and he got accepted into the architecture school there which means he will have nicer dorms with the other architecture students. That leaves me and my friend Greg, who I never thought of dorming with left to figure out on my own. The problem is, today he came up to me and asked if we could dorm together. i've always told him it'd be cool to not dorm together freshman year so we can meet some new people, but he disagrees and says he'd rather be safe than sorry freshman year and room with someone he knows and trusts. My problem is, he gets on my nerves sometimes with his attitude and I;m not sure how I would deal with that if I lived with him. I mean, he's a great guy and all, and we;ve been friends since first grade, but I really want to dorm with someone else to meet someone new and hopefully cool, instead of dealing with him immediately off the bat. i think as we go through college he'll figure out who he is and not be so moody/have an attitude problem but only time will tell this. My question to all of you people in college out there, would I be better of dorming with him to be safe, because I'll still get to know everyone in my hall anyways? Or should I risk it and try to meet someone cool and new by dorming with someone else, and still be friends with Greg.
 
im not in college, but i'd dorm with someone you dont know because when you do go to meet new people, your friend is gonna wanna tag along with you
 
i hope he doesnt have a NS account!

but seriously, i think you should tell him exactly that minus that he gets on ur nerves haha. i think hell understand. i mean thats what id do
 
he doesnt dont worry haha he skis but i never got him on here. and yeah i really think the experience would be cool, i mean we could still hang out and shit its not like bc were not rooming together means we wont see eachother.
 
i think its possible that you could maybe somehow get into the same building but not the same room, you should bring that up to him
 
I've had a lot of friends room together, and none of them really liked each other after first semester. Stay with someone you don't know, that way if you like them you have a new friend, and if you don't you'll probably never see them again anyway.
 
You'll still meet new people even if you live with your friend.

I had the same problem my freshman year. My friend wanted to live with me and I kinda thought I wanted to live with someone knew. I ended up deciding to live with him and it turned out pretty well.

With your friend you won't have the awkward getting used to someone's boundaries phase. You won't have awkward situations about using eachothers stuff, bringing a girl back probably won't be as awkward. You just gotta remember that you don't have to spend all your time together.

If he gets on your nerves, just leave and hang out with your neighbors. Nothing is forcing you to hang out with him. Do you really want to end up with some awful kid that smells bad or is a huge douchebag? You already know what he's going to do thats gonna piss you off. So just avoid those situations.

A lot of people say that they end up hating their friend after they live with them cause they see sides that they haven't before. Well, thats probably only a problem for girls. Girls are stupid. Live with your friend.
 
haha, that sounds like it would be me in a year if my friend and I get into and go to the same college. anyway, definitely get another roommate. it's nice to stick with someone you know but then you won't meet a bunch of new people.
 
dont do it, be seperate and meet new people. Make sure you are in the same dorm building, but Id suggest different roomates.
 
Live with a random person, but maybe try to get someone with similar interests if you can. Freshman year is all about meeting mad people and different groups of people.
 
Seriously, live with your friend. Penn State is huge. You won't have problems meeting people.

If you live with a random kid theres a good chance you'll end up going to hang out with your friend anyway and not meeting anyone new. Half the people here suggesting to live with random kids haven't been to college so they have no idea.
 
Don't live with your friend. You'll end up not being friends in the end. I've seen way to many situations like this that don't end well.
 
I lived with a random u and my roommate and I wor out really well. My friends from back home lived with each other and are barely on speaking terms anymore. It's much different from seeing your friend everyday and living with them on a daily basis, if you two are basically brothers then you could probably do it but it might be risky if you aren't real tight and/or know each other really, really well.

my thoughts, get a random roommate
 
true I haven't beenyet. but I was thinking back to my sleep away camp days and getting into huge arguments with one of my friends. although after all that we're really tight and have been for years so it's not alway a bad thing. depends on the friend then I guess, at least for me it would. if i knew he would piss me off or be kind of antisocial then I'd say no. if he's cool buy only annoying sometimes then go for it.
 
go with long time friend. you might get fucked with a really really lazy dirty kid who doesn't help out around the house. I live with one long time friend and one other. fill in the blanks.
 
I had the same problem, and I choose to live with my friend. I ended up hating him by the end of the year, for the most part. we are still friends, and he still calls me all the time, but I would rather not hang out with him. He is just a deuchebag, your friend probobly isnt as gay as this dude. But I would suggest living with someone new, even if they are super shitty, its only one year, and then you will be able to appriciate everyone after him.
 
if you dont want to dorm wit him, just tell him no. but every time you need a wingman or something, hit him up.
 
I was in this same situation as you. I was going away to school and one of my good buddy's wanted to room together. He was not my best friend, and he was annoying a lot of the time, just because he wasn't that smart and pretty bad in social situations, but he was a very nice person that always meant well. Any ways me and him roomed together my freshmen year, this was his sophomore year. Then are sweet mate was another one of our friends, but my sweet mate had a random roommate cause he didn't really give a shit about who he lived with. It was so much easier for me and my friend living together, cause we already knew each other well enough, that we could pull pranks all the time, eat each other food, and knew how far we could go with each other before someone got pissed off. My sweet mate didn't like his random roommate, this guy always had his GF over, and was the kind of guy that didn't drink or every get wild, also he always kept to him self. So that year sucked for him. To the part where you want to meet new people and make new friends. I went to Michigan Sate, so we had cafe in every hall. Trust me when I say this, if you are a freshman get a job in the cafe. It's about 50/50 for guy and girl working there. These people usually like to party, plus most of them already live in your hall so its very easy to hang out with your new friends. Also when your eating, you usually can find a buddy taking a lunch break or something so you always have someone to eat with. My second year my roommate wasn't going to the school anymore, so I got my self a random roommate. WOW this random guy sucked big time. He was from South Korea, didn't even know how to speak much English. He was so weird and would piss me off all the time, plus he always had his girlfriend over, and they both acted like they owned the dorm room and she would sleep over all the time, fucken annoying.

To some it up, you don't want a random roommate cause you run the risk that he will be weird and keep to him self or will have his gf sleep over all the time. So go with safe bet and room with someone you know, besides next year you will find someone to live off campus with anyways.

One last thing GET A JOB IN THE CAFE best thing I every did, I still talk to those guys and I don't even go to school anymore

Hope this helps.

John
 
first off congrats on coming to penn state. I go there and its alot of fun. you'll definitely enjoy yourself no matter what.

this is a really difficult situation and i see cases where it works out perfectly and works out horribly. The biggest thing is how well you know this kid. If you have any doubt about it I would say get a random but if your only concern is that everyone always says rooming with friends is a bad idea then room with him. but to be honest you run the risk of getting a roommate like mine. He is a huge fag who plays counterstrike non fucking stop and is always yelling into his computer microphone to his internet buddies. As I type this he is on his 5th hour of the day and probably has 3 more to go. Anyways despite this it still isnt too bad because you will make friends so fast that I hardly ever hang out in my room. I think either way you will be ok so dont stress too much about it man.
 
I think you made your decision when you said he gets on your nerves. I would suggest going with a random person.
 
Just got home from being out so instead of quoting all the ones I want to, I'll quote this one and respond to them all. First off, my biggest problem is that he is a huge hypocrite, which makes me angry very quickly a lot of the time. He talks about how much he hates people who drive like maniacs, and he always points out when someone goes off the road or does something stupid like he is a perfect driver, and then when he's driving he does shit like that all the fucking time and blames the other person (even if nobody is on the road he'll like blame his mom or something and be dead serious about it). another problem I have with him is that he is never wrong. Well, in his mind that is. We have gotten in full blown arguments over little things like the color of a car just because he refuses to back down even when he knows hes wrong (he's even told me that in some of our past arguments he kept fighting just because he didnt want to back down even though he knew he was wrong).

On the flipside, when he isnt being moody or bitchy, he's a great guy to be around. Like I said, we've known eachother since first grade, and through thick and thin have stayed friends. He's enjoyable to be around and is always the life of the party. Hes into sports and being active, which is a plus to me because hes always there to work out with me if i need a spotter or someone to run with. he always organizes poker games and football games around here with all of our friends, and takes charge with planning shit when we want to hang out. I just don't know if I can stand living with him, and the other thing that almost makes me feel bad is when he talks about his sister going to penn state (shes a junior now) apparently is still having trouble finding friends and is getting shitty roommates because all of her friends went somewhere else. He says he doesn't want to be like his sister and room withs someone he knows so he doesnt have a shitty year, but he is very outgoing and i know wont have problems finding other friends to do shit with while im not around. I dont know its pissing me off bc i dont know how to tell him i dont want to room with him without pissing him off, especially bc hes my ride to school every day haha i dont have a car
 
say your parents won't pay for your school if you dormed with someone you knew. my parents literally did that
 
it sounds like hes good to have around especially when you say he plans and organizes hanging out and that sort of thing. I hate having to do that for a ton of people, it's so damn complicated. anwyay, it seems like hes a good friend who will be cool most of the time and won't slow you down by being anti-social or any of that shit. question is how often do you get pissed at each other and is it possible for all of that to build up to a point where you don't want to hang out anymore.
 
Honestly, I don't think its that big of a problem. I know I'm one of those people that can never admit I'm wrong and every once in awhile it really pisses people off. You just need to realize that the arguments are over stupid shit and they don't matter. I've gotten a lot better about it and I'm sure he will too. Especially if he realizes it.

I don't understand why people think its harder to meet new people when you know your roommate. I guess you just meet 1 less new person.

If you really don't want to live with him then tell him that. Its not like hes gonna hate you, (unless his new roommate really sucks, but even then he'll probably just come over all the time)
 
if your buddy gets on your nerves before you even have lived together, don't movein with him. he'll only get more annoying the more you get to know him and spend time with him. give a new person a chance. if it really ends up being that bad you can always request a change.

In first year, I lived with my best friend from home. It was awesome. we got along fine but were in different programs, opposite schedules, and different friends. so we weren't together enough to get sick of each other really. next I lived with some people I sorta knew but not that well, and it turned out awful. they ended up being annoying ditzy girls who didn't ever help clean or anything. I hated it.
 
make him your suitemate but not your dormie, put him next door in other words.

He will go for it, tell him you want to meet new peeps, but you are right next door in case your rommies are gay, just request rooms on the same floor or whatever and that is the happy medium.

 
dont live with him. meet some new peeps. u guys can still hang out up there even if your not roomies. but PSU is a sick place, congrats
 
yeah but since theirs three wingmen it would be better to all live seperatly

everyone gets anoying and it just makes it worse if your suposed to be good friends
 
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