Does Skiing Ruin Relationships?

I've been told by my girlfriends friends that she talks about me non-stop when i'm skiing. To the point of them being annoyed. And yes, I will confirm that if you ski more then you hang out with your girlfriend, they will get annoyed.
 
because you head up there together? meet up for lunch/breakfast/dinner/after-beer together?

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My girlfriends fine with me skiing almost all the time as long as i make enough time to hang out with her at least twice during the week, also tried to teach her how to ski but i live in michigan and rope tows aren't good for leaning so that didn't go very well, I'm going to take her to one of the nice resorts really soon so there's hope for her to shred yet.
 
Skiing ruined my last relationship and I got over by skiing more. Haven't had a girlfriend since but I usually just ski during the day and go out at night since my friend who always skis with me lives 1/4 mile from the mountain we just drive back to his house get ready then go wherever we want to that night.
 
ever since i started dating my girl a few weeks ago i haven't even considered skiing over her.

we've been together almost every day this february break and i haven't been skiing once but i don't care. hell i even cancelled a trip on tuesday to be with her all day and i dont regret it.

i never thought this would happen when reading these threads before but yeah that's how it is i guess.
 
I spent every weekend skiing all day sunday. Saturday was dedicated to hw/chores/sleep. Friday nights were for my gf, weren't enough for her needy bitch ass
 
I mean i met my boyy skiing.... he's way better than me and i hold him back so we don't always ski together :) works great.
 
Well I assume you're in high school, So yes the two days you don't have school that you spend skiing will probably ruin the relationship.
 
It definitely can. Most of my friends know I go under the radar socially-wise when winter rolls around, but when I meet new people they can easily get annoyed. My advice is to find a way to do both. When I want to hang with a girl, I'll ski for 3-4 hours in the morning then go home, shower and hang out with them for the afternoon or evening. Those kinds of days are always real fun. Makes you feel productive as shit.
 
Me and my girlfriend broke up because I prioritized boarding over her. We recently got back together, and Now that I ski she's cool with it.....

Kidding. I definitely changed and make sure I spend just as much time with her as I do skiing. Sure we never can hang out on Saturday's because I'm gone, but Sunday I make sure I see her. Gotta balance shit out brotha.
 
If skiing and your girlfriend are getting in the way of each other, you're doing it wrong. You're obviously pretty much ignoring your girlfriend if she has a problem with you skiing.
 
Dont date a girl who skis over summer and then break up with her. Especially if your sister and most of your ski friends race with her. Ive had so many awkward eye contacts and encounters
 
I'm not 16 :)But its awkward when she makes it awkward. And when you wanna hit on the hotter girl on her team and shes sitting with her
 
im sure she sits next to the one hot girl you want to talk to 24/7. also i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say you make it awkward just say hey whats up she'll say "nothing much its going great" then go about your business. its called being a grown up
 
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Just awful.
 
Don't settle for anything else then you're expecting. If you were to date a girl whom all she did on the weekend was play tennis at the god damn gym, rather then spend time with you, would probably make you pretty aggravated as well. Don't settle for something anything less then you're expecting, find a girl who wants to shred and rip it with you on the weekends, then you will find solace in your relationship, trust me.
 
I was a non-skier turned skier by my current boyfriend, so I can see both sides. Before I skied I never knew why my boyfriend loved skiing so much, but I still accepted it. I never tried to make him stop skiing because I saw how happy it made him, and who would I be to get in the way of that?

Then my boyfriend took me skiing and I completely fell in love with it. I can now see why he's always been so obsessed, and now I'm obsessed myself. Now we ski together every chance we get.

So what I'm trying to get at is, that you just need to find a good girl in general. A girl who will accept what you love and support you all the way. Skiing has definitely made my relationship stronger. So once you find the right girl who's willing to be apart of your life and skiing, teach her how to love skiing like you do. You'll have a whole new level of relationship, and trust me, you will be completely happy.
 
My boyfriend and I broke up because I would always ski every weekend and when it would snow he would always want to cuddle by a fire drinking hot cocoa but I would always ski in our front yard building sweet little jumps
 
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I'm having a tough time in a relationship of six months, everything is great in the relationship but she's not passionate about outdoor sports. All fall I got shit for ditching her for mountain biking and now I'm catching it for not wanting to plan ski trips with her. She is a very social casual skier. Her ideal ski day is with a group of 6-10 people, drinking, and big lodge time. Each time I've skied with her I wait for 3-5 minutes at the bottom of easy groomers. She talks about how she wants to get better but will not take the steps to get there, want to hear criticism, or do drills to improve.

Honestly at 21 I feel I'm at a pivotal point in my life where I need to be serious about finding a life partner. Am I a dick for wanting someone who takes skiing and the outdoors a bit more ambition?
 
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I'm having a tough time in a relationship of six months, everything is great in the relationship but she's not passionate about outdoor sports. All fall I got shit for ditching her for mountain biking and now I'm catching it for not wanting to plan ski trips with her. She is a very social casual skier. Her ideal ski day is with a group of 6-10 people, drinking, and big lodge time. Each time I've skied with her I wait for 3-5 minutes at the bottom of easy groomers. She talks about how she wants to get better but will not take the steps to get there, want to hear criticism, or do drills to improve.

Honestly at 21 I feel I'm at a pivotal point in my life where I need to be serious about finding a life partner. Am I a dick for wanting someone who takes skiing and the outdoors a bit more ambition?
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If you're anything like me, the most difficult part is finding a girl who has the same mindset about physical pain and discomfort.

I have always loved being outdoors, long (week plus) isolated hiking/hunting trips, finding the most remote, untouched places, and all that comes with them. Shivering at night because you wanted to pack light, the heat and exhaustion of the desert, or being soaking wet for days because of pouring rain, burning quads and being so tired you think you're gonna pass out high on some obscure mountain.

Many nowadays would call this "having a screw loose" but for me the pain and misery is a reminder that I am ALIVE, what it means to live. And the suffering makes the beautiful moments that much more beautiful.

In skiing, comes pain from eating shit trying new tricks, pain that's familiar to most people on this website but most people in mainstream society nowadays wouldn't even consider hucking their body into the air at highway speeds or risking a slam on a cold hard steel rail. The pain is worth it though, then you lace up a trick perfectly, to an outsider it looks like zero effort but there's always pain and failed attempts behind it.

Most people these days male or female are very pain averse. It's difficult to find someone who "doesn't give a shit" as much as we do, because most spend their lives chasing comfort and that's not what we would consider satisfaction.
 
Pro tip: serious relationships need common ground. My wife skis, and we will have a happy skiing family some day. Growing up I didn’t make skiing a key factor for a relationship. That’s fine for sometime but eventually something has to give. Found this one and never looking back. Only you know what you will prioritize.
 
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I'm having a tough time in a relationship of six months, everything is great in the relationship but she's not passionate about outdoor sports. All fall I got shit for ditching her for mountain biking and now I'm catching it for not wanting to plan ski trips with her. She is a very social casual skier. Her ideal ski day is with a group of 6-10 people, drinking, and big lodge time. Each time I've skied with her I wait for 3-5 minutes at the bottom of easy groomers. She talks about how she wants to get better but will not take the steps to get there, want to hear criticism, or do drills to improve.

Honestly at 21 I feel I'm at a pivotal point in my life where I need to be serious about finding a life partner. Am I a dick for wanting someone who takes skiing and the outdoors a bit more ambition?
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Honestly dude, I don't think you're being a dick. If she were chill with you ditching her to go shred pow/dirt, that'd be cool. In a case like this, she should recognise that you have passions that differ from hers, and that you need time for those if she doesn't want to be involved. Of course, you should also be giving her time for her shit, whatever that may be. If she's giving you shit for doing that, maybe it's not going to work. My ex gave me shit all the time for building model planes, and flying real ones. Now she's my ex. (partially because of that; she had no respect for my passion for aviation, and kept telling me to stop flying because it wasn't a "realistic career path"). I won't ask that my next gf be super into aviation (or skiing), all I ask is that they respect that it is a large part of who I am, and understand that I will not give it up. Same thing goes for you. If you're thinking about a long term relationship, you need to be understanding about intrests/hobbies/passions that aren't mutual.
 
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I'm having a tough time in a relationship of six months, everything is great in the relationship but she's not passionate about outdoor sports. All fall I got shit for ditching her for mountain biking and now I'm catching it for not wanting to plan ski trips with her. She is a very social casual skier. Her ideal ski day is with a group of 6-10 people, drinking, and big lodge time. Each time I've skied with her I wait for 3-5 minutes at the bottom of easy groomers. She talks about how she wants to get better but will not take the steps to get there, want to hear criticism, or do drills to improve.

Honestly at 21 I feel I'm at a pivotal point in my life where I need to be serious about finding a life partner. Am I a dick for wanting someone who takes skiing and the outdoors a bit more ambition?
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Yeah skiing and skating has ruined 2/2 of the serious relationships I've had. They didn't do the gnarly shreddy thing, so I was just going at this larger than life outdoors lifestyle without them... slowly building contempt that they didn't understand my dreams, my art, this huge part of me they were completely excluded from.

Because they didn't understand, they didn't see the validity in my dreams of freedom and weightlessness - thus, they didn't respect how I spent my free time. I was embarrassed to bring them around my friends and team because there would be this air of inferiority filling the space. Constant insecurity and accusations of cheating cause you'd rather be hanging out with your shredder friends than cooking their dinner and watching Netflix.
 
it puts alot of unnecessary strain on a relationship unless she's is a better skier . stubborn chick's are tge worst to go skiing with imo
 
idk dude but i definitely dont blame my ex for dumping me after i brought my skis into her apartment for extra security reasons, or at least that being one of the reasons
 
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Bumping this thread

I'm having a tough time in a relationship of six months, everything is great in the relationship but she's not passionate about outdoor sports. All fall I got shit for ditching her for mountain biking and now I'm catching it for not wanting to plan ski trips with her. She is a very social casual skier. Her ideal ski day is with a group of 6-10 people, drinking, and big lodge time. Each time I've skied with her I wait for 3-5 minutes at the bottom of easy groomers. She talks about how she wants to get better but will not take the steps to get there, want to hear criticism, or do drills to improve.

Honestly at 21 I feel I'm at a pivotal point in my life where I need to be serious about finding a life partner. Am I a dick for wanting someone who takes skiing and the outdoors a bit more ambition?
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I lost way too many days of skiing to instead be with my ex, and looking back that was definitely regrettable. My advice is that you do what makes you happiest, whether that be her or skiing. But like many other people in this thread have said, a good relationship needs balance. If shes unwilling to understand that skiing is important to you, then dump her.
 
It doesn’t even have to be skiing, but there’s nothing more unattractive than someone that’s not passionate about anything. I just hate people that are boring like that in general. Being able to date someone that loves skiing as much as me that I can go on trips with would be a fuckin dream. In the mean time I’ll just stick to kissing the homies on the lift?
 
The sad part of humanity is there are thousands of hot girls out there who you could have a legitimate true love relationship with that lasted for life,

but because of the logistics of there being 7 billion people on the planet it is almost certain you will never find any of these girls.

i think “good enough” is a great mentality to have when reflecting on whether you are in a worthwhile relationship. If you find a girl who you are at least somewhat content with you should consider yourself lucky. Alot of couples are legitimately less happy together than they would be single, but they are terrified of the idea of being single so they stay together in their miserable relationship.

Sometimes tho you need to have a relationship with a complete piece of shit in order to realize being single isnt that bad.
 
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