Do people honestly still believe in marriage?

fappy

fappy

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50% divorce rates

justice system that favors the woman.

sucked into an endless spiral of mediocrity.

 
Prenup!!!! but yea i don't see how a piece of paper should mean that you loose half of everything if you decide to get a divorce
 
i think that the classy "till death do ..."thing is dead. dead and will never come back.

imo it has its roots in times where people (especially women) were not as mobile and/or educated as they are right now. in theory, every divorced person is not allowed to enter church (at least its like that over here). while most people (priests included) dont care in these days, this was a pretty big thing back then.

just an example of how things changed. women dare to divorce, because they have the law on their side (and i think its a good thing).

i am about to finish my studies next year and i want to work in the US, norway or wherever i can find a good job. it seems impossible to "do" the marriage as we know it to me.

 
Something that is crucial. I'm not the kind of person that would be okay with taking half of someones life if I didn't help them earn it. But If you start a life together, pool your attributes, and make a good thing come of it, then i guess that split would be okay.

But i wouldn't have a bank account soley in "our" name. I like having my own stuff. My parents are still together after a lot of years and sometimes they want to kill each other, but still love each other dearly.

 
Yes.

I suppose I can understand the argument for a prenup, especially if you have some wealth. However, isn't it just like saying,"This probably isn't going to work." What happened to the days of working out differences instead of just going to the divorce lawyers. Yeah 50% failure rate is rediculous, but I think it's a product of people's unwillingness to compromise or to actually put in the work needed to make a marriage work.
 
Getting married to me is not a decision of love, but a rational decision that will hopefully provide legal protection for both partners. If I had a relationship for decades and never got married, by law (even it is in the will) when I die all my possessions may not go to my loved one, but possibly my other relatives and they have to fight it out in court. Doesn't sound too jazzy.

I see no problem with a prenuptial agreement; it's the same as paying a bit of extra if you book a flight and have to cancel it and still get your cash back. No matter what age you are or how long you've been together etc. people may still grow apart or become bored in the confines of traditional marriage. That's why I OPT for a free realtionship, but probably I am a one-girl type of guy. When you get caught up in the thought that sex is something just between loved ones, it's not false, definitely not, but it should not limit a relationship if both members are able to sort out jealous thoughts and envy. "If you love someone, se them free". If that applies to divorce and breakups, why not a functional relationship?
 
My threads for when im not at school,i found a picture yesterday that can help shed some light on people not beliving in "till death"
 
to me, a prenup is no different to wearing a seatbelt while driving, or a helmet while skiing. to me they both say "im banking on this working , but just in case it doesnt... i have some form of protection", or something along those lines.
 
I think it is just too easy now-a-day to get a divorce. Back in the day people tried to work out problems not just drive to the court house. I also think that many people get married just for the sake of having a wedding. Im 27 and have already been to 3 weddings that havnt lasted a year. Do you know how mad that makes me? I pay for a hotel room, fancy dress for the gf, and a gift for the bride and groom. Then less then 12 months later divirce papers.

I also know plenty of people that have been married for years and still in love. Ive dated my gf for 4 1/2 years now, lived together for 4 of them and have a 2 year old dog. Am i shopping for rings? Hell no. Im skiing 50 days a year and playing with my dog. Maybe a couple years from now, but marriage is a life long commitment that some people just dont think through all the way.

I know this is long but a wise friend once told me "I want a dog, then a kid, then a wife. A kid is half of you, you always love your kids. But finding one woman to love forever, thats a lot harder."
 
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I don't think marriage is taken seriously anymore, or people don't understand what kind of commitment it

really is. I'm 21 years old, graduated high school in '07 and have already been to two of my classmates

weddings. To me that seems really rushed and seems that they didn't really think it through. Rather than

continuing to date it's like they said "instead of dating we'll just get married..." I dated the same girl

for 4 years and marriage never crossed my mind. I guess I'm beginning to loose faith in it.
 
my parents split up. my mom pretty much raped the shit out of my dad and is still doing it.. all marriage taught me was to not get married. ever.
 
Some do, but it's a bit misguided. I guess it depends on your experience with it. For instance, my parents don't get along that well, but they are still married, they are the only ones who could put up with eachother's shit so somehow it works. I don't think marriage should be about compromise, but a lot of the people i see that get married end up being miserable for the most part, hence the divorce rate. Many people feel pressured to get married if they have been dating for a long time, or they feel that they are getting too "old". Legally it makes sense to get married, but emotionally it's a whole other realm. Age should have nothing to do with it, only finding the right person. The more important question to ask is, do people believe in finding the "one"?
 
alright,so yesterday i was browsing the intranets and came across a weird banner.i couldnt believe they actually encourage people to have affairs and put marriage at risk.if you goto this site you obviously arent enjoying your marriage but you should have though about that a little more before you went and jumped into the danm situation should'nt you have?
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I do. My parents have been married for 25 years now. Sure they fight but they get through it.

The ultimate problem is so many people marry young nowadays.
 
"There comes a time in your life, when you look at the person you're with, and think to yourself 'the thing we have is so good, we need to get the government in on this shit' "

-Doug Fucking Stanhope
 
People married a lot younger in the olden days actually, girls got married at 16 or younger sometimes. Of course I'm talking about a long ass time ago, but I think they didn't get divorce if they were unhappy because that just wasn't as available an option.
Nowadays everyone wants to be married to the perfect person, and when they realize that the person they got hitched to isn't it's a lot easier to separate. I'm not saying it's bad that people are looking for better matches, it's just the way it happens now.
 
I blame the attorneys who make it seem so enticing and easy to get a divorce, I see billboards for that shit, it's so annoying.
 
its true it does seem like people are catching on to the fact that marriage is unnecessary, and in a way it is much more practical to not get married. But Mike-O makes a good point above that if you are confident it will last it makes a hell of a lot more sense to get married in case you die. Ive known married couples that have absolutely no chance of a divorce ever, and i think that if that is the case marriage makes the relationship much more official i guess. im sure being married would have a much more real. it seems very weird to have a '50 year relationship anniversary'
 
i highly doubt i'll ever get married (even less likely i'll try to have kids), i'm just looking for somebody who i want to live with for the rest of my life.
 
I believe in a thing called love
Just listen to the rhythm of my heart
There's a chance we could make it now
We'll be rocking 'til the sun goes down
I believe in a thing called love
Ooh!
 
I believe it from a religious viewpoint. I'm catholic so marriage is a big thing for me in particular. Im not gonna marry someone unless im fuckin positive id be willing to spend the rest of my life with that person.
 
i think people just get married because they feel they have to. like they hit a certain age and they will marry almost anyone. it's sad but personally i don't believe in true love so i think marriage is for two people who care about each other enough to spend the rest of their lives with. i guess people nowadays don't even worry about that.
 
i blame scott baio

seriously though... I'm surprised that rate isn't skyrocketing. money is the major issue for divorce. seeing how the economy is so effed up, you should see even more.
 
instead of getting a prenub just secretly hire a fake priest so the marriage isnt official
 
my parents got divorced. The split didnt really effect me emotionally because i was 4, but the contrast between two households with different rules taught me to manipulate my situations so i would get away with certain things without getting in trouble. It has taken a while for me to learn how to confront difficult situations without trying to weasel my way out.

k that was the end of my sob story, now time to claim.

Family is the foundation of our society.

yea thats all i got
 
I think you should go with dog, wife, THEN kid. Do it your way and you'll end up dealing with your crazy baby mama for the rest of your life, because she'll be in your life just as long as your kid is.
 
Yeah it was a tragedy! Can you repeat the question?

I actually still firmly believe in marriage. I don't believe that marriage is a government issue though. And yes, in divorces, men get SCREWED! Why should a woman ever be entitled to money and property that she did not earn herself. getting half is bullshit. child support is the only thing a woman should get in the event of a split. No mo dick for your pussy just dick for your throat, you ain't gonna get no child suppoat.
 
there are definitely many cases where the woman gets more than she earned. BUT if i get married, and work a job while my wife cares for the kids, keeps the house up, cooks, cleans, blah blah blah, and then we get divorced, does she not deserve a large chunk of our funds?
 
I will say one thing. The standard that in divorce cases for custody to ALWAYS go to the mother is a little, well, moronic. Sometimes the dad's can be a better parent but it almost ALWAYS goes straight to the mom.
 
i'm probably the last of a dying breed and idk who else is out there with me but i am pumped to get married.

anyone remember the final episode of entourage season 6 when E proposes to sloan? wasn't that just epic and get you jacked on the episode? i know for sure i'll feel way more awesome than that. i know i sound like such a bitch right now but i'm def serious. marriage is gonna be sick
 
Me too! So, uh, yeah, I believe in it. I'm 23, we've been together seven years, had ups and downs, and we're both stoked. And spiritual. I'm a firm believer that a both partners in a marriage should share the same spiritual beliefs, otherwise the marriage more than likely won't work out.

The family that prays together stays together....
 
i couldn't get into a pact where the other person thinks they have the right to make decisions with the money i make myself.

you think all those guys driving around in a porsche cayenne wanted to buy that car? no, their wives have them by the balls and told them to get that instead of the 2 seater. at least the panamera gives them a little bit of their dignity back.
 
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it always bursts my bubble of the stereotypical nser when i read something like that. you have a fucking dog icon and youre married and youre on ns and and and..... so confusing
 
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