Total rant thread, but maybe others can relate. Within the last few months, pretty much my entire core group of friends and my ex gf have moved away all by coincidence. Not too long ago I was living with two of my really good friends and my girlfriend. My gf was from another country and we ended up mutually ending the relationship because marriage seemed a bit extreme and that would have been the only way for her to stay. Shortly after, both of my roommates who were both close friends, relocated for work. Another moved back home to take care of his dad who was terminally ill, and another moved for work as well. So all in the matter of months, I've pretty much lost everyone close I hang out with. Still have acquaintances and friends of friends, but it's not the same as your core group of close friends. Not gonna lie shit kinda sucks now. Basically I have to start over in an area that I've lived in for a few years now. I'm just at the stage where if I were to meet some new people, they would find it strange that I've lived in an area for awhile now, but don't really have friends. Anyways, just wondering if anyone else can relate to something similar.
Close friends and gf all moved away
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louie.mirags
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I get what you are saying. I was in the military so moved away for 4 years. After I got out, I came back home briefly. Hung out with my high school friends for a little bit, but that gradually stopped. Found a girlfriend and moved in there. It's been about a year and a half and she leaves for vet schoo on the island of ST. Kitts. It blows but it is what it is. All my close friends are from my military days and spread through out the country. The thing is you have to make every effort to see each other. We all plan a week long trip to go ski every Januray and it's fucking awesome. I've made some work friends that ski and we go up all the time too. Don't worry about it man, you'll find people you get along with and can do shit with. You're not the only one out there.
louie.mirags
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what were you in/stationed at?
louie.mirags
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13248566:Backhaus said:
word up man I was on Subs in the navy outta CT. I saw your profile said CT that is why I asked
Get out and socialize. This is a good time to meet to people. If you're one of those people that wanted to go somewhere but don't like leaving friends maybe this is a good time for a move. If you feel like you don't know anyone and are starting over is this the place you want to do it?
Idk. I've always talked to strangers ever since I was little so I'm always making new friends and strange acquaintances. Just talk to the people around you. The people at the bus stop, on the lift, in the park, the people at the bar. Not saying every one of those or even most of those will end in any kind of friendship but meeting new people ensures that there are a constant stream of people that could randomly end up being your best friend at any point.
Some of my best friends, actually most I've met totally randomly. I don't talk to anyone from my high school, really don't even hang out with that many people in the town I live but I'm out on road trips a lot and I've made friends all over.
I don't think I have any amazing friend making skills. Hell I'm somewhat socially retarded and have some LD action going on but I just talk to people. Some people are assholes, some people are awesome, you never know until you strike up a conversation.
This may seem weird to just talk to everyone , maybe it is, but I haven't gotten shot over it yet and it's help me meet some great people all over the place.
Best of luck. Don't dwell on the fact that people are gone. People will move in and out of your life over time. Don't worry so much about keeping friends as just living. If you talk to some strangers around you you'll find new friends that fit where you are in life now.
I missed some of the people in high school for a little bit but for the most part I was just friends with many of them because we were locked in a big box for 7 hours a day together. As time goes by your life changes as does other peoples. It may seem like a bad thing when you drift a part, sometimes it's hard but IMO it's a good thing in many ways. We're constantly changing as people. Your jobs might change, interests, anything. I'm not saying to push away your friends but if you drift apart sometimes it's because you're moving in 2 different directions. Sometimes it's worth the strain to keep those friendships but IMO many times it isn't. You just move on. Maybe keep their number and shoot em a text or call here and there. Visit them if you're out near them to catch up, but for the most part move on.
There are billions of people on this earth. That means there are a shit ton of cool people that could potentially be your best friend. Talk to the people around you. If nothing else, being nice and striking up some friendly conversations makes the world a little bit nicer.
Good luck OP. Just hang in there and keep your head up.
Idk. I've always talked to strangers ever since I was little so I'm always making new friends and strange acquaintances. Just talk to the people around you. The people at the bus stop, on the lift, in the park, the people at the bar. Not saying every one of those or even most of those will end in any kind of friendship but meeting new people ensures that there are a constant stream of people that could randomly end up being your best friend at any point.
Some of my best friends, actually most I've met totally randomly. I don't talk to anyone from my high school, really don't even hang out with that many people in the town I live but I'm out on road trips a lot and I've made friends all over.
I don't think I have any amazing friend making skills. Hell I'm somewhat socially retarded and have some LD action going on but I just talk to people. Some people are assholes, some people are awesome, you never know until you strike up a conversation.
This may seem weird to just talk to everyone , maybe it is, but I haven't gotten shot over it yet and it's help me meet some great people all over the place.
Best of luck. Don't dwell on the fact that people are gone. People will move in and out of your life over time. Don't worry so much about keeping friends as just living. If you talk to some strangers around you you'll find new friends that fit where you are in life now.
I missed some of the people in high school for a little bit but for the most part I was just friends with many of them because we were locked in a big box for 7 hours a day together. As time goes by your life changes as does other peoples. It may seem like a bad thing when you drift a part, sometimes it's hard but IMO it's a good thing in many ways. We're constantly changing as people. Your jobs might change, interests, anything. I'm not saying to push away your friends but if you drift apart sometimes it's because you're moving in 2 different directions. Sometimes it's worth the strain to keep those friendships but IMO many times it isn't. You just move on. Maybe keep their number and shoot em a text or call here and there. Visit them if you're out near them to catch up, but for the most part move on.
There are billions of people on this earth. That means there are a shit ton of cool people that could potentially be your best friend. Talk to the people around you. If nothing else, being nice and striking up some friendly conversations makes the world a little bit nicer.
Good luck OP. Just hang in there and keep your head up.
PeppermillReno
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Find a bar that you can roll up to solo and are comfortable doing so and eventually you'll recognize the same people there and voila new friends.
Most of my friends are over a half hour away in a different part of Boston and nooone wants to drive to the others neck of the woods. Im glad the 2 bars near me in Salem I go to the most I am comfortable rolling alone and since Ive gone to both enough there is usually someone I know there to talk to and its not like going out in the city where you aren't going to fucking roll alone to the club.
Its sort of like going skiing alone... its up to you if you want to talk to other skiiers on the lift or slopes and make friends or not. Today I did a couple laps with some dude who I'm sure I'll see skiing again since he looks like he skis every day. I also talked to another dude on the trail for a minute and probably should have waited up at the bottom and rode the lift with him and did a run together. Dude was my age unlike the other guy I should have made a new friend but my mind was getting back to the powder line I was repeatedly hitting inbetween race gates and the woods before the gaper race children got backk from lunch.
Most of my friends are over a half hour away in a different part of Boston and nooone wants to drive to the others neck of the woods. Im glad the 2 bars near me in Salem I go to the most I am comfortable rolling alone and since Ive gone to both enough there is usually someone I know there to talk to and its not like going out in the city where you aren't going to fucking roll alone to the club.
Its sort of like going skiing alone... its up to you if you want to talk to other skiiers on the lift or slopes and make friends or not. Today I did a couple laps with some dude who I'm sure I'll see skiing again since he looks like he skis every day. I also talked to another dude on the trail for a minute and probably should have waited up at the bottom and rode the lift with him and did a run together. Dude was my age unlike the other guy I should have made a new friend but my mind was getting back to the powder line I was repeatedly hitting inbetween race gates and the woods before the gaper race children got backk from lunch.
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louie.mirags
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13248822:Backhaus said:
I used to drive to storrs all the time to pick up shit from the headshop up there. And I can't remember for the life of me what it was called
Bombogenesis
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I 10000% know what you're feeling. In high school and college I had an incredibly close group of friends and now they're all gone. My girlfriend is still here and I have made new friends thankfully and it has more or less kept me sane.
I miss my friends so much. I wish I had unlimited money to travel around the country and see all of them but it just can't really happen. Ones in VT so I still see him somewhat often but it'll never be like it used to. Growing up sucks man.
I miss my friends so much. I wish I had unlimited money to travel around the country and see all of them but it just can't really happen. Ones in VT so I still see him somewhat often but it'll never be like it used to. Growing up sucks man.
gnarballsianm
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13248663:PeppermillReno said:
No, bar friends and chicks can be or can't be people you want to hangout with long term. Do non drinking events or enlist in random shit to do. Find a crew on the mountain, a perfect world situation would be like Hot dog the movie haha, but we can't all have that. Try though, it will work out.