I agree about wasted time and wasted life with traveling, but if I want to both ski and surf this is the choice I have. If I only wanted to ski I might not live here. Unfortunately I can't bring my hobbies closer, that is not an option. As far as keeping a girl, I am married and she goes up with me so that is taken care of.
My reasoning is based on the fact that it can be done, that you can have both a great surfing life and a great skiing life, that it is doable. I think it is absolutely awesome to have both surfing and skiing in my life and I would not have that in any of those other cities. I have a great life and my life is better than it would be in Seattle or any of those other cities. So yes, despite the driving it is great, better than anywhere else. If I had to leave I would go to San Francisco but I would not even want that.
I am writing all this not to say that "it's not that bad" but instead to say that it can be great if you don't mind dealing with driving and the expense of a ski lease. It depends on what the OP wants. Like I said before I am happier here than I would be in Seattle or Denver, I don't want to give up surfing, I want both, and if I am to have both I have to deal with a drive. But if you want to surf and ski Newport is probably the best option. There are other pluses, great weather and a strong job market, so I just want to let the OP know that you can have a great ski life and have all the advantages of socal if you want one. Is it as easy to ski as it is in Seattle? No. But the other advantages make it worth it.