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so my winter formal dance was the night before last, and the girl that i went with, i really liked alot, so i show up to take her over, and bring her flowers and tell her she looks amazing, and everything blah blah. so we get there and she just goes around and takes pictures of herself with other guys and then we finaly get to the dance floor, and dance a few times, and then we each start dancing with other people, which is normal b/c we're not going out or anything, and then i start dancing with her again, and then after that song, she just disappears. so i am looking all over for her, but she is nowhere to be found. so finally, right before the end of the dance, she shows up again, and is dancing with another guy for the slow song, the last song. so when we meet up after that, to leave, she comes up and asks where i was the whole time? and i was like i was looking for you. where were you? so she just says that she was here the whole time, so im like ok whatever. so i go to walk her back to her dorm, which is like 100 feet tops (this is at a boarding school), and i get outside and im like damn its cold out, and she just shoots me the dirtiest look ever and then i realize that she's wearing just a thin dress, and im over here in my jacket, so i offer the jacket to her and shes like well we're almost there, so dont bother. so i think to myself 'shit, i should have offered before we even got outside.' so anyways, i guess i fucked up a little, but it really wasnt that bad, was it? and now it seems like she doesnt want to have anything to do with me. so i've been thinking about how to rectify this situation for the last 36 hours straight (24 of which was my birthday - great way to spend a birthday, right?), but i cant figure out anything. i thought that maybe i should just tell the girl how i feel about her, and say like "i like you alot, and it seemed like you used to like me, but not really anymore, but i just wanted you to know that i still like you, and i want to be with you, so there's something for you to think over" like would that work? anyways, i would really appreciate any help or advice anyone can give me, and sorry it was so long.
 
be an asshole for a week or two. not a fullblown asshole, but just enough to keep her in check.

you may not think i'm serious with that advice, but i am.
 
if you like her tell her. if you think she was beign a stupid slut all night, tell her.

lots more girls out there.
 
do what you feel like doing, just talk to her, that sounds like what you want to do. same thing happened to me in 8th grade, almost exactly like that, ditch, then at the end ask where you been at... she sounds like a trick ass skeez that doesn't know who SHE is yet. don't waste your time thinking about it though, that doesn't do a damn thing, just have a civilized conversation with her. or you can play the drama card and be a bit of a dick, but thats playin the same kinda tricks we men try to get women to stop with. Just keep your head up and don't worry about it too deeply.
 
the only thing holding me back from telling her how i feel is the chance that she might think that im coming on too strong, and subsequently just say that she doesnt want to be with me at all, whereas if i just try to play this out, then theres a chance that i might still get with her. the only problem is that this is just eating away at me, and i just need to get some of this off my chest which i guess, is why im posting it.
 
dont wait man, thats the mistake that kills you for a while. just dont come on strong, dont be like 'yo bitch, youre gonna get with me for the rest of your life and no one else, so say goodbye to everyone you know cuz youre comin with me' do somethin a lil more suave like 'ya, i had a great time at the dance, but i kinda wanted to spend some time alone with you, maybe (insert idea for the 2 of you)?' and yo, stop thinking so much, just go do it, it just makes it harder the longer you wait. just open your mouth, and if it was meant to happen you'll do good with your words.
 
then just ad a little unsureness in the way you say it, not so much so that she thinks your wierd or something but enough to go either way, like if she thinks your coming on too strong be like whoa i was just saying, or if you think she is pushed away because you arent coming on strong enough just ad more too it, use body language, just talk to her man.
 
DONT tell her how you feel, ask her why she gave u a weird vibe cause when a guy tells me that he likes me i draw back a lil' especially if i dnt know how i feel to think it through, or maybe she was just pmsing *shrug*
 
steve, I know you're angry due to the fact that you have no balls, but you don't need to take it out on me.
 
john, do you stalk me, all decked out in night vision and thermal goggles wearing black latex pants and messaging your special areas outside my window? because that's what i got from your reply.
 
hmm im sorry...happy brithday by the way, things will work out for the best...just give it some time....

peace

**$FREE$KIER$**

~Baker~
 
shitty deal man, tell her the way you feel, from what you said she seems like a girl who cant keep a relationship tight, so if i were you i would find a nice young girl whose into jesus and is really rad and isnt superfishal and just spend time with her, but then again this is coming from somone whos been in your posistion 6 times before
 
word of advice. wait to long and your in the friend stage, go to early, and your pressureing her. its a science dude
 
oh, and the freind stage, is nearly imposible to get out of. once your her freind. your her friend
 
why dont u like when guys say they like u? like whats the big deal - im not criticizing, just wondering what it is that turns you off about it
 
He is 100% right. If she really likes you she will come crawling back. She's playign head games right now and it's obvious. Let's just say pretty much the SAME situation happened to me too, but I ignored her for like a week and she came crawling back. This is def a topic for the ladies men cult though...anyway man sometimes love sucks but keep your head up and good luck.
 
ok i have 2 things to say

#1 happy b-day

#2 smack that woman and tell her whats what and then smack her again after ur done talking to her
 
Dude you screwed up and no worries, she won't be mad for long and if she is here are three words for ya... Natural male enhancement.
 
holy shit i feel like the biggest retard ever. so i finally tell her how i feel about her tonight, and i go on for like 2 minutes about how im just confused about what to say to her and how i just want to be with her, and that its been bothering me for like 2 days straight, so she reacts okay, like "aww youre so cute" or something like that, and so im thinking this might be the reaction that i want, so then she says "im kindof with [enter name here]" so my jaw just fucking hits the floor. i mean i know that they spend a lot of time together, but i never saw him as someone she would hook up with. like he was in the 'friend' category as far as i knew. so i just fucking took off right there. i mean i cant really blame her - i mean she wasnt really leading me on THAT much, but fuck i just didnt see that coming. i was expecting either "sweet lets go hook up right now" or else "i kinda like someone else, and im waiting to see if anything happens there" but now i feel like a retard for spilling everything to her. i guess its a little better now tho cuz i wont be worrying about it anymore. but shit i did not see that coming at all
 
i wish you would have read my reply before you talked to her...now all you can do is try to hook up with her if they mess up and be a good friend and get the recovery...love is a game you gotta learn it...its a lot like poker gotta make guesses on probability and predicitons
 
oh shit, its time for you to play the "whateva bitch, ill sleep with yo best friend who will yap about it to you a few times and get you jealous you sleezy tramp" hahaha, im kidding though, you're a good kid, just dont let this get to you, all you can do is learn in the right direction.
 
that's just what women want, to fuck our lives over and drive us crazy. try not to think about it, and when all else fails: bone her.

seriously, just wait it out a little while longer, see if you can hang out with her once or twice more. and if you do, do dating things like dinner and a movie. it'll get her thinking. go get her, dude.
 
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