Am I Being Selfish?

i mean, its annoying when people mooch off you but i think youre being sort of dramatic. god forbid he wants to use your gloves and shit. and your printer? if my roommate said i cant use his printer i think id punch his teeth in. if he's printing literally dozens of pages per day, then ask him to chip in for paper and/or ink. problem solved.

where id draw the line is your sister's car. while i would definitely let any of my friends who are good enough drivers and can drive stick use my car if they need it, asking you to ask your sister for her car is pretty lame.

anyway im not saying youre totally in the wrong but using your shit (that youre 100%, definitely not going to be using) isnt THAT crazy. you mentioned you were the one that always got taken advantage of in high school, well dont let yourself be taken advantage of but at the same time i hope thats not why youre being sensitive about this situation. all i can tell you for sure is being cagey and dramatic is going to make both of your lives living hells. you live together so solve the problem like grown ups
 
wow what a bitch. he sounds just like my neighbor, he's the cheapest fucking person i've ever met. he was going to europe and wanted a digital watch with and alarm on it so he asked my dad if he could borrow his watch. and his car got wrecked once and he had recently filled it with gas prior to the accident, so he asked my dad for his siphons so he could get the gas out. just random shit like that all the time. my dad just tells him to fuck off and they're still friends so...idk. tell him to fuck off haha. it's your shit, he can't MAKE you lend it to him. he's selfish for wanting your stuff for free instead of buying his own.
 
I go to UA (university of albany) we play you in sports (u guys usually win......haha)
 
Stop being a bitch and tell him to fuck off. Then make friends with a big black guy (no racist) if he fucks with you after. Basically, be Rob Drydek.
 
I don't expect much from friends, just a person to chill with, and when i ask to borrow something from them, and they say no, im fine with it. This guy seems like a legit tool for thinking your selfish, i wouldn't let some kid i don't know use my skis, let alone my boots (don't wanna end up with shit like staff or something).
 
pretty much this.

also i cant believe this kid trys to get you to text your sister to let him use her car. you should snuff him out just for that.

if he wasnt such a doucher id say leave your skis and let his friend borrow them but in this situation you should take them home and pretty much anything of value you dont want him fucking with while your gone home.
 
all i did was read the first sentence, and all i have to say is no, you're not selfish. i wouldn't want a stranger using my gear, especially numerous times. i don't mind lending to a friend i'm riding with, but that's it.
 
i woulda say let him use your gopro untill the word snowboarding was used, dont let him use any of it
 
Same. He says he would let me use whatever I want if I asked. But I don't have to ask becasue I have my own shit, and if he said no, then I would accept it. He won't accept no.

And the only reason I don't like him using my GoPro is becasue he gets pissed off when he doesn't know how to use something, and usually that object ends up smashed (he couldn't close his window one night and started punching it. wtf?). Yea I told him how to use it, but did he listen? No. He called me the first time and said it was all fucked up. When he came back, it was set to default on photo mode, which you have to go through a whole list of settings to do so obviously he was pushing random buttons. And then yesterday he got mad becasue the camera ran out of battery when he was at the mountain. It was fully charged. When I looked at the footy, there were 27 clips: 3 of which were actually at the mountain. The rest was a bunch of bullshit from the car ride. No wonder it ran out of battery.

Whoever said they would let their friends use their skis and boots, so would I. I have let my good friends use my ski shit. But I'm not about to let some kid who doesn't even has his own shit that I do not know use it.

And Max, I really don't want to room with him next year now. I'm going to try and find someone else so I do not have to.

 
damn dude, your situation sounds pretty shitty. I would definitely get out of rooming with him next year... you'll regret it if you don't. You said he is legit sometimes... then just hang out with him here and there, but room with someone who is legit 100% of the time.
 
I feel in these types of situations a good ass kicking will usually drive the point home. This kid sounds like a total tool, don't put up with that shit. If I were you I would not be rooming with this kid next year. God he sounds like such a lil bitch.
 
If its that big of a hassle to live with him, find another roommate.

I know you 'like' him and all, but I've seen my best friends go through this. It starts off them being roommates, but soon turns into something like this. One becomes a free-loader, always mooching and never chipping in, while the other is the sort of push over that the first one can manipulate. It got bad, like serious fist fight bad, until I had to help one move, yet still be cool with both (awkward).

Hes probably a good friend, but if hes not being a good roommate, and you guys can't work it out, you might just want to get a new roommate, or get your own place or something. Borrowing gloves isn't that big of a deal, but I understand that you wanted to keep your nice gloves nice, and I feel the not lending your skis and boots so some random dude.
 
Wilks.

Half the shit I don't care if he uses, which is why I used to let him use my stuff. But when I don't let him use one thing, I become the most selfish person he has ever met. This is why I put my GoPro in my lockbox so he can't take it. And if he asks for a reason, i'm going to tell him he doesn't need one. If he calls me selfish, whatever maybe I am selfish, but he isn't using it.
 
He said his friend would pay me, but I still do not want to deal with it. I'm bringing my shit home and there is no chance at all of me leaving it here for him. He better face the fact.

And he asked me if one of his other friends (who goes to UVM) could borrow my GoPro, someone I don;t even know. I'm sorry Rob, its not your camera, you can't go telling your friends that you can use it whenever you and they want.
 
this kid sounds like a huge fucking faggot. definitaly dont room with him next year, you shouldnt have to put up with his shit. if he keeps bugging you about the skis and stuff just tell him to fuck off and kick his ass if he doesnt stop. i would take all your ski stuff and get it out of your dorm as quick as possible. and to get back at him, you should fart on his pillow a bunch so he gets pink eye, he'll never know what hit him
 
I think you really just gotta tell him to fuck off and if he starts with any of that 'selfish' shit tell him to take walk. Gotta draw the line somewhere and it's best he respects that.

You could also tell him you have mate who wants to borrow his DH rig for the weekend, 10bux says he'll be reluctant to hand it over if its not a shitter...
 
Both of our beds are lofted. Clearly I am not going to be able to get up into my bed for a couple weeks/a month after surgery. I am unlofting my bed so I don't have to sleep on the floor on a blow up mattress. He is complaining that there isn't going to be enough room, when we have plenty. He also says it will be easier (for some reason) for me to use a blow up mattress. I am having my bed down lower because I have to have my leg up pretty much 100% of the time, and I am not going to sit on the floor all the time or sit in my chair with my leg on a another chair.

I am not letting him get away with this because it is a medical reason that I need to put my bed lower. He keeps saying "what is the difference between lying on your bed and lying on the floor". Seriously? He says that I do not have to be comfortable during my recovery. I'm not writing this "update" to bitch about him not cooperating, my bed is getting lowered, I don't give a shit what he says. I am writing this to show you how inconsiderate he is. The only person he cares about is himself.

I hope no one else has a room mate like this. If he tore his ACL or had an injury and had to rearrange to room for his physical needs, I wouldn't even think about saying no.
 
Dude that sucks. In honesty I wouldn't let someone I didn't know use my skis and especially not my boots. Boots mould to fit your foot more as you wear them, I wouldn't want anyone elses foot in my boots. Can't you get a transfer to a single room due to medical needs or something? (No idea if that works in the States, here we don't normally have room mates).
 
^Well since he is being a bitch, he is saying he might move out, which would make things a ton easier. I don't really care what he does, I am moving my bed and shit around to fit my needs, not to fit his wants. We have so much space in our room, but he doesn't want to give any of it up. Literally half of the room is open.
 
Sounds like someone I know. Expects me to give him my old helmet because he's my friend...same with other stuff. He's just a kid that expects everything to be given to him and it fucking pisses me off.
 
Ahhhh I love when he tries to fight me when I am drunk, because he knows he can't beat me and gets pissed off.
 
I thought I settled things. I thought things were cool between us. But he just got back from the library and I was watching tv. He wanted to watch the Office on his laptop so I turned the volume down almost to the point of where I couldn't even hear it. He tells me to mute it because he is trying to watch something. Then he turns the tv off because it is his and he doesn't want me to use any of his stuff. He goes on about how he has to beg me to use any of my stuff so I can't use any of his stuff. The only thing he begs me to use in my camera, he wanted to use my helmet too, but it's a good thing I didn't let him because he destroyed his helmet over break and my camera would have been mangled as well as my helmet, and my last GoPro mount. I feel like a bitch posting my room mate problems, but this kid is one fucking inconsiderate prick.
 
I got an update on this, if anyone cares. So I went out Friday night, came back around 3, and was on my computer when he came in. He started yelling at me, came over, smashed my phone, then started choking me when I tried to find the remnants of it. The RA wasn't around, so I called the cops on his bitch-ass and got him kicked out for the night. I come back to my room after he was gone and he stole money out of my wallet and I took the pieces of my phone that I had found. I was moving out the next day b/c my finals were done, and what do you know, I find my money and my phone under his mattress which was on the floor. Then today I was at my house and was looking through my GoPro box, he stole all the mounts that I had. This kid has serious mental and anger issues.
 
Destroy this kid. Somehow-whether it is legal or includes a big black guy and a dark ally-just find someway to mess his shit up
 
take all your shit and leave. And report all this to the university or however it works and make sure he never rooms with you again
 
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