Aidan Sheahan Edit
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BigPurpleSkiSuit
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14255477:jps2.0 said:
I think he's probably okay. He clearly didn't want that giant thread about him on Newschoolers, but he had made some bonehead type decisions like driving under the influence with laptops open and on who knows what. People mourn in different ways.
ASAPCarter
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Such a fun edit to watch. I genuinely hope that dude’s doing alright rn
ASSholebomber22
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14297552:Film. said:
holy shit. That's really terrible. The downward spiral was real he really, really needed help.
GrandThings
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Absolutely tragic. Wish he had been able to get the help he needed. RIP to an amazing skier and thoughts to his family and friends
BigPurpleSkiSuit
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Hope he's got his girl up there welcoming him with open arms.
**This post was edited on Jun 15th 2021 at 2:30:16pm
**This post was edited on Jun 15th 2021 at 2:30:16pm
DesertStix
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This is awful. TYW’s post damn near made me tear up at work. Those old clips of him looking like a happy kid with the world in front of him were so sad. Check up on all your friends. Admit if you’re struggling, it doesn’t make you weak but is actually a sign of courage and strength. Sending positive thoughts to his friends and family. Love every one of y’all.
Mayrandpodcast
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this is so sad... especially having seen / heard his stuggles last year
RIP Aidan
RIP Aidan
c-fries
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I’m pretty shaken up by this. I never met Aidan and I know many others on here didn’t either, but as strange as it is to say this, I almost feel as if perhaps our community could have done more for him.
Mental health is so serious and so difficult to deal with, especially from the outside looking in. But it was so obvious to me (and probably all of us) that something very serious was going on with Aidan. I remember looking through his Instagram over the winter thinking “this guy might be in danger.”
I don’t know what we could have done to show support then or who we could have reached out to. I’m sure plenty of people did reach out to his friends/family, and I still don’t know any details personally (not that we should even discuss them on here). But damn. It’s just horrible watching this slowly unfold. SIP Aidan.
Mental health is so serious and so difficult to deal with, especially from the outside looking in. But it was so obvious to me (and probably all of us) that something very serious was going on with Aidan. I remember looking through his Instagram over the winter thinking “this guy might be in danger.”
I don’t know what we could have done to show support then or who we could have reached out to. I’m sure plenty of people did reach out to his friends/family, and I still don’t know any details personally (not that we should even discuss them on here). But damn. It’s just horrible watching this slowly unfold. SIP Aidan.
DesertStix
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I’ve been thinking a lot about this today. I’ve personally known good friends who had very similar stories that ended in them taking their own lives and always wonder what I could have done differently. Unfortunately I don’t really have an answer and it sounds like people did try and intervene short of having him actually committed. I spoke with him on IG briefly when he was driving around messed up but fear that my “concern” might have just made the situation worse. TYW told us he reached out to Aidan. Serious question, what could we have done as a forum of strangers? The one thing I’ve learned from these tragic situations is that people won’t get help until they’re ready and want it for themselves.
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DesertStix
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[tag=109425]@casual[/tag] [tag=167225]@partyandBS[/tag] i thought this was a better place for the discussion y’all were having. I think it’s an important one…
14297669:DesertStix said:
Realistically, there was not much we could do for him in the moment. Which sucks because you see this unfold and you want to intervene. It feels helpless and, it really is.
In regards to what we saw on NS several months ago, someone close to him needed to reach out and they did. And I bet they did all they could for him. I obviously don’t know the situation so I can’t speak on it. You can have all the support in the world. Friends and family can do everything right and there still be a tragic outcome which is just an unfortunate truth when it comes to mental illness(and life in general). The only way NS could have helped in the moment is if he reached out to us for support. Sometimes I wonder if that thread made him feel attacked or shamed in any way. It’s different when you reach out vs when people notice changes in behavior and make them known.
Moving forward all we can really do is make sure we(collectively) are creating an open space for ourselves, our friends/family and hell even our internet friends on NS. Creating a culture where talking about the heavy shit on your mind is similar to talking about your broken leg is one of the best ways we can help avoid future losses like this. Being open and learning how to handle situations like mental health crises/episodes is so important.
For anyone interested there are mental health first aid courses you can take. QPR training is sometimes offered separately and it’s a technique for handling a crisis/suicide prevention. There are classes online and in person all over the US that are open to the public. I highly recommend ?
Take care of yourselves, ya fucks.
ASSholebomber22
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I'm getting a bit heated and it's because there was so much pushback in those threads when legal and professional intervention was suggested. Man needed so much more than family and friends. They can only do so much.
DesertStix
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I feel you. That’s the tough question for me. Should someone have intervened like that? In my own life, I’ve only seen it have negative effects like turning loved ones against each other, worsening behavior, etc. but knowing what we know now, would we have had someone get him in a care facility even if it was against his will? Sucks that we’ll never know smh
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DesertStix
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100% and I definitely felt like I was making things worse by talking to him on IG. I know we were all well-intentioned but not sure if we helped at all :/
14297701:Mingg said:
ASAPCarter
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Fuck.
c-fries
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14297720:DesertStix said:
Don’t overthink it man. As harsh as it sounds, the worst thing you can do is put even the smallest ounce of blame on yourself when something like this happens. Just not healthy.
All we can do is take note and move on in a positive way and try to recognize when someone (one of our own especially) is really going through it.
14297720:DesertStix said:
I’m sorry dude I didn’t direct that statement at you and I don’t think your actions nor anyone’s actions on this site were like detrimental in any way. I don’t even know the circumstances surrounding his death. I just noticed a few comments about that thread trying to help him and what more we could have done. I was trying to get at that maybe less is more especially on this type of platform (I know this wording sucks, I don’t know how else to explain it). I don’t think anything we did or didn’t do is to blame at all.
DesertStix
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Yeah I agree, take it as a major teaching moment for sure.
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DesertStix
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No apology necessary. It was mostly self awareness that sometimes my good intentions don’t manifest in a way I intended and this was probably one of them. Totally natural to have a hard time expressing yourself with such a tragic and raw topic. I know I struggle with it.
14297755:Mingg said:
14297716:Biffbarf said:
It's a tough one though. What do you do? You can get somebody committed but that doesn't always mean it's going to have a better outcome. Idk obviously he was struggling, it seemed like people were trying to help him by reaching out.
We need better mental health care options. That doesn't guarantee people use them but the different of no resources for many people to getting committed against your will is a huge jump with little in between. Even the suicide hotlines. A lot of these situations stem far beyond one situation putting somebody on the ledge.
Idk, like everything else it's questions that don't necessarily have answers. What would have happened if_____.
Pretty shitty though. SIP
BigPurpleSkiSuit
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Does anyone have a copy of that most recent edit he made that was on this thread by any chance? I really enjoyed watching that.