So I'm usually pretty good at getting a convo started with a girl on tinder. Get to small talking, ask her what her interests are and where she is from ect. But that's always where I get stuck. You know she's talking to 20 other dudes so you can't wait too long to try and see if she wants to meet up or something, but at the same time, it always seems weird if you ask her to do something after a few exchanges. And most of the time I get bored of the damn conversation. So what seems to work? Not even trying to just hook up, just trying to meet some people through the app. And obviously meeting people the old fashion way in person is ideal, but at the same time it would be nice to meet up with some of the girls you match with and all.
Actually meeting up with girls you've matched with on Tinder?
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selfiejesus
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go ahead and ask her for her number. a lot of times, we don't reply because tinder is a pain in the ass. if you get her number, then she's interested and will probably be down to meet with you. and if/when you do meet her, just be friendly at first. unless it's just a booty call. then you know what to do
Exchange about 5 messages, then just go right for it and ask if she wants to go grab dinner.
It's simple.
Hey, what are you doing right now? I'm uber hungry and craving ....... Feel like joining?
It's friendly and easy to say yes or no to. There isn't the "it's a date" pressure that you get if you plan anything more than a day out.
Unless you are in highschool. I forgot what dating is like without alcohol.
It's simple.
Hey, what are you doing right now? I'm uber hungry and craving ....... Feel like joining?
It's friendly and easy to say yes or no to. There isn't the "it's a date" pressure that you get if you plan anything more than a day out.
Unless you are in highschool. I forgot what dating is like without alcohol.
selfiejesus
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13380123:Rachy said:
tinder with high school kids is a lot more difficult. immature, can't buy you dinner, don't want to get dinner, etc.
connecticunt
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I feel like going out for coffee is an even safer way to play it.
When going to dinner, especially if the guy pays, girls think something is expected of them. Now if you just want a one and done hook up, that's fine, take her to dinner, do the thing, and go on to your next match (which imo is what tinder is for). But, if you're interested in perusing something, go coffee, THEN as her out for dinner. Shows the girl you are actually interested.
When going to dinner, especially if the guy pays, girls think something is expected of them. Now if you just want a one and done hook up, that's fine, take her to dinner, do the thing, and go on to your next match (which imo is what tinder is for). But, if you're interested in perusing something, go coffee, THEN as her out for dinner. Shows the girl you are actually interested.
Did it once and turned out pretty great. Was at work and had not to much going on and was browsing tinder. Started messaging this pretty hot girl for a while. She invites me over to her apartment so I take a **long lunch** which was a quick subway uptown. Iv never done anythign like this before prior to this. So I show up and wait outside cause I don't want to get kidnapped or something. get in her room, chat for like 20 minutes and then do the deed for like 2 hours. She was actually crazy some of the best sex iv ever had. My boy texted me and i told him to call my work phone so i faked a work meeting and then actually went back to work though so I could leave. All in all, pretty pleased.
Steezy_IN_KC
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I've always been told to ask for the order. Ask for her number and then come up with a low pressure, and fun event for your first meet up. Think outside the box. I think it's safe to say that every guy will ask her to grab drinks... Stand out by being original and creative.
louie.mirags
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13380300:.Hugo. said:
For the most part, yeah. Tinder is supposed to be a hook-up app like Grinder. I have heard stories on podcast about dudes arranging threesomes in the matter of minutes on Grinder. Tinder on the other hand, you can swipe for months, have 10 different short convos with chicks and barely get a hand job out of the deal.
ianrich511
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13380298:VinnieF said:
if sex only costs you a dinner, think how much you really save in the end.
Powstagram
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I've done it. Solid 7.
vailsux.com
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13380337:Steezy_IN_KC said:
Kansas City is fucking sweet.
That is all.
ryano
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Heres what i would.
1. like every single profile, dont even bother looking. when you get matched, then you can judge them and decide if they make the cut, otherwise delete them.
2. read their profile.
3. in your first message, either say something stupid and ridiculous (rarely works). or preferably relate to something they said in their profile. most of the time it works.
4. reply with thoughtful messages the first few times, so it seems you're giving meaningful answers, and relate to them.
5. 5 to 10 replies, say something along the lines of, "I know its pretty last minute, but I'm thinking of hitting up a (coffee shop, bar, diner, anything), care to join me for a (drink, coffee, etc.) it would be nice to get out of the house. Text me, its easier than tinder, and its killing my phone battery"
6. most of the time it works. if not that night, they say, "i would love to but i am already... (usually given seemingly legitimate excuse), maybe another day?
7. if it works, great! then its up to you. if they give you an excuse, say, "thats alright, i totally get it. if you're free tomorrow maybe we can make something happen?"
you honestly have no idea how much that worked for me. its like clockwork. they dont want to be bored with pointless conversation back and forth, as long as they think you're genuine, not a creep, they would rather meet you, and find out within minutes if something can work out. plus, they'll probably get a free drink or coffee.
and always be a gentleman. open car doors, other doors, offer a jacket, buy at least one drink (usually they'll refuse on the second, but thats the risk you take).
and DO NOT act awkward like you just met up from tinder. be confident. act like you've met before. act like you have mutual friends and its no big deal. thats a HUGE thing.
small talk is easy... where you from? you work? what exactly do you do? school? where at? what degree? whats that entail? hobbies? what do you do? you good at them? where does she live? what part of town? room mates? etc. find stuff in common, even if its the slightest thing. make it seem like you have so much stuff to talk about.. and eventually conversation will come naturally.
the rest is up to you man.
1. like every single profile, dont even bother looking. when you get matched, then you can judge them and decide if they make the cut, otherwise delete them.
2. read their profile.
3. in your first message, either say something stupid and ridiculous (rarely works). or preferably relate to something they said in their profile. most of the time it works.
4. reply with thoughtful messages the first few times, so it seems you're giving meaningful answers, and relate to them.
5. 5 to 10 replies, say something along the lines of, "I know its pretty last minute, but I'm thinking of hitting up a (coffee shop, bar, diner, anything), care to join me for a (drink, coffee, etc.) it would be nice to get out of the house. Text me, its easier than tinder, and its killing my phone battery"
6. most of the time it works. if not that night, they say, "i would love to but i am already... (usually given seemingly legitimate excuse), maybe another day?
7. if it works, great! then its up to you. if they give you an excuse, say, "thats alright, i totally get it. if you're free tomorrow maybe we can make something happen?"
you honestly have no idea how much that worked for me. its like clockwork. they dont want to be bored with pointless conversation back and forth, as long as they think you're genuine, not a creep, they would rather meet you, and find out within minutes if something can work out. plus, they'll probably get a free drink or coffee.
and always be a gentleman. open car doors, other doors, offer a jacket, buy at least one drink (usually they'll refuse on the second, but thats the risk you take).
and DO NOT act awkward like you just met up from tinder. be confident. act like you've met before. act like you have mutual friends and its no big deal. thats a HUGE thing.
small talk is easy... where you from? you work? what exactly do you do? school? where at? what degree? whats that entail? hobbies? what do you do? you good at them? where does she live? what part of town? room mates? etc. find stuff in common, even if its the slightest thing. make it seem like you have so much stuff to talk about.. and eventually conversation will come naturally.
the rest is up to you man.
Steezy_IN_KC
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13380772:Q.McBrew said:
Couldn't agree more. I'm glad you like it. Most people, that have never been here, have a negative opinion of Kansas City. Everyone should try it once.
That is all.
TheBigApple
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It shouldn't take more than 5 messages to get a phone number and maybe another two to get a date, if you go beyond that, move on. I've met up with dozens of women from tinder, and actually ended up dating one of them for some reason.
louie.mirags
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13381074:TheBigApple said:
I don't know if you live in the big apple or not but that place is a hot zone from what I hear with tinder. Mad hungry chicks. I get that vibe just walking thru the city. I have a buddy who goes down there on the weekends and slays it. My girlfriend's friend says so many of her friends are on there and say it's actually hard to meet dudes too (opposite of most areas). Whole other word compared to 80 miles north where I am at.
timmi
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I go a bit deeper than these people saying only a few messages. I usually talk to them for about 3-5 days before asking them out. Mainly because I absolutely hate going on a date with someone who is a dunce. Need to figure out if I want to spend that energy on them.
It's all about keeping the conversation going and not asking the same "what do you do for fun" type shit.
If you've done a good enough job convincing them you're worth their time as well it shouldn't be hard to get a date.
It's all about keeping the conversation going and not asking the same "what do you do for fun" type shit.
If you've done a good enough job convincing them you're worth their time as well it shouldn't be hard to get a date.
louie.mirags
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13381456:timmi said:
What you're saying makes sense for sure. But, tinder is supposed to be about hooking up and not dating like grinder. Just doesn't happen that way
TheBigApple
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13381516:.Hugo. said:
That's just to save face when their friends see the profile. Most of the time.
timmi
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13381510:louie.mirags said:
I mean you can use it for any purpose you like really. I'm there 90% just to be a smart ass and flirt. I did the hook up thing in college. It's not really my scene anymore.
To be honest I've found it better for meeting cool girls than any of the other dating sites around including the pay ones.
dispatchQ_main
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i always thought tinder was just a joke comedians would use as tags. I really had no idea people were actually using it.
fresh_prince
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post this in lady gabber