A Serious Question

andrew.

andrew.

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So lately ive been thinking about my future, and what i want to do with my life, and i realized that i have no idea what i want to do. Im a junior in high school, and recently, my grades have been getting shittier and shittier. I always used to get straight As in middle school through sophomore year, but recently, Ive been struggling to get Bs. I have an older brother who got straight As no matter what he did, and hes currently doing the same in a really good college, but I just dont know if thats what Im cut out for. My parents give me a lot of pressure to do good in school and make school my main priority, but I physically cant take anymore of it. The other day, I realized that i havent done homework at home or written a paper in over 2-3 months, and when i had to write one to prevent failing a class, i really struggled to write 2 pages. I know its not because Im dumb, Im a fairly smart kid, but Im starting to let the laziness get the best of me. So what I wanted to know is if anyone on NS has had this kind of problem before, and what they did to fix it. Im starting to get concerned about myself and my future, and I honestly dont know what to do. Thanks
 
you're not alone. quite a lot of people go through the same shit, myself included currently. it's hard when you just look at all this work and think why? I'm not even 100% sure about what I want to do so it's hard to be motivated, while the kids who are like, "oh, I want to be a doctor or a lawyer," to throw out the typical examples, are motivated because they have something to work towards. for now I just tell myself I know have to do this work and do well because I don't want to be screwed down the road. it's hard as hell though, especially with ns one click away and skiing. this is a pretty common thing though, and maybe we'll get into a decent college, find out what we want to do, and roll with it from there. for now just trying to become motivated. here's to hoping that works out...
 
Hey man, I had the exact same problem as you in highschool; all A's up untill mid grade 11 then I started to slack - and slack hard. Turns out I didn't do anything to fix the problem and ended up graduating with a lower average then I should have received. Ultimatly I ended selling my self short and not going to as good a school as I should have.

The result I am moderaly happy with my current job but know I am capable of so much more. I think about it atleast once a week, now.

So just do what ever you have to do to keep your grades up so that you can get into a good undergrad program.
 
Here is the link to a thread with some similarities to this: https://www.newschoolers.com/web/forums/readthread/thread_id/356917/page/1/

Here is my post in that thread, and I know not everything is the same but some of it should carry over, hope it helps.

"Well, first off on the topic of school, it is not for everyone. Obviously it depends on what you want to do with your life, and for better or for worse YOU are the only one who can make that choice because you know yourself, your ambitions, your goals, and your passions better than anyone else. So maybe you take a little time off from school to re-evaluate things and look at what you really want to do (because at the end if the day you need to bring in money but you also need to love what you do) and then go do it. Living on your own, independent from a college for example, can be difficult for someone recently out of highschool, but it can help you more clearly discover who you are and what you would like to do in your life's future as well as teaching many valuable lessons along the way. You might not think you are ready, but I am willing to bet you are. That doesn't mean that it won't be difficult, or scary, or intimidating, but i am sure you are capable if you believe you are and if you want it bad enough.

The bottom line is at the end of the day the choice needs to be yours, not your moms, not your dads, not your friends but yours. And you can choose to tough it out going through a shitty program just to get to a well paying job that you don't really like and then live for the weekends, or, you can find something that you love to do, whether it pays 40,000 a year or 240,000 a year, if it requires a degree or doesn't require a degree. I know that for me personally I would rather make enough money to live a modest life style and love what I am doing than make bank but loath going to work every day.

As for the whole philisophical thing as far as "What is the point? We are all gonna die sometime." well, what if everyone took that same approach? Nothing would get done in this world. Henry Ford wouldn't have started a mighty car company, Michael Jordan wouldn't be the greatest basketball player in the world, hell we would probably all still be living in caves if we had no ambition.

The fact is, we have all been given the gift and opportunity of life, It is a limited amount of time that we have on this Earth and in this world, infact we do not know how limited, and it only makes sense to use our time to the best of our ability. Sure you can sit around, watch tv, get high, get wasted, go party, but at the end of the day is that really what you want your life to be about (by "you" I mean the general mass, but it could be you as well)? I think we have a great opportunity to live full, healthy, productive lives and to not do so, would be to squander a great opportunity. Sure you are gonna die sometime, but others will live on, for how long only God knows. But why not go out, seek your passions, do what you love, and try to make a positive impact on the world? I am willing to bet that you make some good friends, achieve some great things, and have a damn good time doing it.

And, the final thought, as far as getting behind in school and being years begind your friends, it all dpends on how you look at it. If you are going to school for something you really have a passion for and really want a career in, then I am pretty sure you will mkae it through school. Sure you might not like it at the time, but if you have high goals, it is gonna take some hard work, doing some things you don't want to do, and some perseverance to reach those goals. No one said it would come easy, but if you want it bad enough then you can get it. And once you get out of school (if that is the path you take), then you will be ready to go to seek out that job/career you are so stoked on. In some repects you may actually be ahead of your friends because you are fresh out of school knowing exactly what you want to go do and being excited to do it.

So that is my advice post of the day, actually probably the month or maybe the year, but I feel, at least I hope, I did a decent job in trying to help you out."
 
Work hard until you KNOW you don't want to do anything involving school. Sure, you might have wasted extra effort but that feeling of waste won't be nearly as bad as the feeling of regret you would have if you decided you did want to pursue a degree and just blew off school.

Some people might say that it doesn't matter because in high school the grades don't count once you get to college, in college the grades don't count once you get a job, etc... but they will help you get a good knowledge base and work ethic.

So my advice to you is just keep on trying until you can make the decision that you won't need schooling to do what you want.

 
i know wat ur talking about

i dunno though, just really try to get ur shit done

its all about personal motivation

dont regret something later though

stop smoking weed if u do, that helps
 
You're really over thinking it. Just get through highschool, do your best to get grades. I slacked so fucking hard my jr and sr year and i went to the college i wanted to go to. Just figure out easier ways to do things, if you wanna go the lazy way out. Don't worry about it too much though, all grades matter for is getting into school and after you get into college they mean nothing.
 
Try finding a way to motivate yourself. I've had to find many ways to do that over this year of school. it's tough for me because high school was a breeze, undergrad in college was a bit harder but nothing big, but now grad school is a totally different world. what i did was found a quote that i found to hit home and put it on the banner of my cell phone so i saw it all the time, or somewhere so you see it and remind yourself. good luck.
 
everything will work out fine, You'll skirt through high school, skip college and work your way into a nice labor industry.
 
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