10 simple ways to save yourself from messing up your life

those are all good advice. But you can't really read those and suddenly say wow, maybe I should do some of those. A lot of people can't just "let go of worrying"
 
11.) Stay away from mass quantities of hard alcohol...no matter how good of an idea it sounds at the time.
 
Aw come on, its still fun! Sure, after a large amount you make stupid ass decisions but hey, shit happens!
 
12)Posting things involving urination in the buttocks on the internet then having your parents find it later is never a good situation...avoid this situation.
 
is it really that hard to take an extra 30 seconds if that even and copy the text for us lazy bastards?

10 simple ways to save yourself from messing up your life









  1. Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is

    how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re

    thinking. It’ll go too. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel;

    whatever you think, you think. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking,

    or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be

    proud or ashamed of either. You didn’t cause them. Only your actions are directly under your control. They’re the only proper cause of pleasure or shame.
  2. Let go of worrying. It often makes things worse. The more

    you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. When

    you’re hair-trigger primed to notice the first sign of trouble, you’ll

    surely find something close enough to convince yourself it’s come.
  3. Ease up on the internal life commentary. If you want to be

    happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. People are always

    telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others

    feel about them, what this or that event really means. Most of it’s

    imagination. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. You

    have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you.

    Usually they’re no better informed on the subject; and they care about

    it far less than you do. You have no way of knowing what this or that

    event really means. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe.
  4. Take no notice of your inner critic. Judging yourself is

    pointless. Judging others is half-witted. Whatever you achieve, someone

    else will always do better. However bad you are, others are worse.

    Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you

    place yourself correctly between them? Judging others is foolish since

    you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective

    scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone

    else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view

    of the other person. Who cares about your opinion anyway?
  5. Give up on feeling guilty. Guilt changes nothing. It may

    make you feel you’re accepting responsibility, but it can’t produce

    anything new in your life. If you feel guilty about something you’ve

    done, either do something to put it right or accept you screwed up and

    try not to do so again. Then let it go. If you’re feeling guilty about

    what someone else did, see a psychiatrist. That’s insane.
  6. Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you.

    Nasty people can’t make you mad. Nice people can’t make you happy.

    Events or people are simply events or people. They can’t make you

    anything. You have to do that for yourself. Whatever emotions arise in

    you as a result of external events, they’re powerless until you pick

    them up and decide to act on them. Besides, most people are far too

    busy thinking about themselves (and worry what you are are thinking and

    saying about them) to be concerned about you.
  7. Stop keeping score. Numbers are just numbers. They don’t

    have mystical powers. Because something is expressed as a number, a

    ratio or any other numerical pattern doesn’t mean it’s true. Plenty of

    lovingly calculated business indicators are irrelevant, gibberish,

    nonsensical, or just plain wrong. If you don’t understand it, or it’s

    telling you something bizarre, ignore it. There’s nothing scientific

    about relying on false data. Nor anything useful about charting your

    life by numbers that were silly in the first place.
  8. Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren’t working out the way you planned.

    The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you’ll go wrong. The

    world changes constantly. However carefully you analyzed the situation

    when you made the plan, if it’s more than a few days old, things will

    already be different. After a month, they’ll be very different. After a

    year, virtually nothing will be the same as it was when you started.

    Planning is only useful as a discipline to force people to think

    carefully about what they know and what they don’t. Once you start,

    throw the plan away and keep your eyes on reality.
  9. Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own decisions.

    To hold yourself responsible for someone else’s success and happiness

    demeans them and proves you’ve lost the plot. It’s their life. They

    have to live it. You can’t do it for them; nor can you stop them from

    messing it up if they’re determined to do so. The job of a supervisor

    is to help and supervise. Only control-freaks and some others with a

    less serious mental disability fail to understand this.
  10. Don’t worry about about your personality. You don’t really have one.

    Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t

    exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general

    impression that you give through your words and actions. If your

    personality isn’t likeable today, don’t worry. You can always change

    it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone’s

    personality in one place is a determined effort on their part—usually

    through continually telling themselves they’re this or that kind of

    person and acting on what they say. If you don’t like the way you are,

    make yourself different. You’re the only person who’s standing in your

    way.

 
Don’t worry about about your personality. You don’t really have one. Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t exist in the real world.

thats the best part
 
yeah that is all good advice. but there is something about it that i just don't like....i can't put my finger on what it is though..hmm
 
great thread. about a year ago i've tried to stop worrying as much, and holy shit i had no idea that it would feel as good as it does.
 
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