When do/did you grow up?

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This one day I sat down and wondered when I was to become an adult. Not that I'm in a hurry, but I would like to know when I am.

I do not consider myself an adult, not by far but I wonder what you guys put into the term "adult".

I am 17 years old, I hold a good job at a national airport, my girlfriend and I have been together for almost one and a half year now and I live by myself 3 hours away from my parents where I go to school and get good grades.

I've went through the religious ceremony confirmation at age 14, so according to the holy spirit I've been an adult for three years...

I being an adult or state of mind or do you/they still feel like they did when they were "young adults"(if there is such a thing)?

Please enlighten me

 
In my opinion, becoming an adult does not happen at a set time (i.e. 13, 14, 16, 18, 21). It is more of a continuum - you are more likely to act like an adult as you get older, but not necessarily.

For instance, I think my 12-year-old sister is more of an adult than this guy (http://boston.barstoolsports.com/random-thoughts/does-this-look-like-the-face-of-a-dude-who-let-his-2-year-old-step-daughter-get-shithoused-on-gin-and-iced-teas/)

To me, becoming an adult means you consider others before yourself. You make decisions based on how they will affect your family before you.

When you're a teenager, you don't consider these things - you just want to have fun. However, if you really want to go to college and you know your parents can't afford it, you give up time with friends and weekends to work. To me, that is when you know you've reached adulthood.
 
when you realize that 'being an adult' is a myth that young people believe and that old people still don't know what the hell they are doing.
 
why the fuck would anyone ever want to grow up? even when im living on my own i fully plan to act just as immaturely and childish as i do now. im gonna throw temper tantrums and eat candy and shit all day. fuck the haters.
 
oo nice ten cent word..I'll admit I did have to google it to know what it meant
But your snap judgement was way off..i agree with you that we are all insignificant specks in the timeline and size of the universe
...doesnt mean you shouldnt mature
 
define mature. conform the illusions some self conscious ape came up with a blink of an eye, relatively wise, ago? there is no truth in our presently flawed system, just a bunch of bullshit to make you go cross eyed.
 
I like this response....

I mean seriously the thing is that when you start hanging out with "adults" in real social situations, you realize they're no different than kids. Really deep down inside we're all just people.

I'd say that somewhere in the last couple of years I became an adult... but its more of a vibe thing than an epiphany. I still like to do all kinds of wild stuff, but I also enjoy being responsible in certain things.

I find myself talking mortgage rates with friends, enjoying working 9-5, liking gardening... so those things make me feel like an adult.

However, I still love to have fun, hate doing dishes, hate cleaning, love to party... and those things are often thought of as "non-adult".

But really the whole concept of adult is more about you vs. your parents. You consider adults different people because of your relationship with your parents.

But when you're all of a sudden thinking about the fact that you're going to be a parent eventually, you realize that you have to play a certain role to have your kids grow up properly. YOu're not necessarily and adult... but your kids sure are kids.

So its kind of a made up social thing... because our parents need to have authority over us when we're young, or we grow up to be terrible people.

Am I an adult? Well sure I fit the criteria... 31, married, own a condo, lease a car, two dogs, full time career....

However, by law I was an adult at 18. Could have starred in a porno, gone to war, voted on our government, smoked cigarettes, sign my life away... you name it.

Also, there's nothing wrong with being an adult. I mean we all get older ever day. Personally I would NEVER want to go back to being a teenager... I mean asking your mom to stay over at a girls house? Fuck that.

I love getting older. Who cares if you're grown up or not... just be a good person and live life to its fullest while not being a complete douchebag.

 
I thought i was really grown up, but then i spent a year in college and did a ton of shit on my own. I wasn't very grown up haha. I personally think your gonna feel enlightened after every phase of your life (i sure do) and just stay wild and your not gonna get lame.
 
I like to say im never going to grow up and become an adult. IM just going to have more money and age.
 
pretty much this.

im 23 as well and my younger brothers have their shit together better than i do. it just depends on the person i guess.
 
Yea dude do you get a book that spells it out for you? Everyone fucks up. No one knows everything. In the long run, "grown ups" are just as clueless as everyone else, maybe confused about different things.
 
you dont decide when you come an adult in my opinion, its more of a coming of age sink or swim thing. Like a situation thrown at you and how well you handle yourself
things like coming out of experiencing the death of someone close and instead of sinking into depression, rising above and performing better because of it
thats just an example, hasnt happened to me yet
 
"Adult" is a socially fabricated concept to keep young'uns feeling inferior, and therefore, more manageable as students and children.I cook my own meals, wash my own clothes, have bought outright about 3/4ths of my shit, have plans for the future, etc. I don't drink, I don't party, none of that garbage. I think when you begin actively questioning the nature of your life and how you live it, your on the path to spiritual maturity, or "adulthood".
 
i think this year/summer ive started to mature. ive got a full time job, at 19, that is pretty damn good if i dont say so myself. have kinda stopped being on the internet as much, dont really watch tv, idk maybe its just me wanting to be more grown up, but its little things that have changed that make me feel like im older, and have outgrown the things i did as a kid.
 
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you don't really I think ... im 30, yet still don't feel it, or look it... (party trick is always asking young friends in Breck how old they think i am, and it's always like 23-25 max..... )

Seriously though, you're 17, stop worrying, and just enjoy and make the most of things - BUT make sure you have no regrets, EVER - and that includes regretting not staying in School, or working hard at school etc - that sh*t your grandparents and parents say is the truth.... im glad I was convinced to go to Uni/college etc now... it's afforded me a VERY sick life.... But, i did it by having a lot of fun along the way, travelling the world and making great friends.

Always strive for new challeneges, I was getting bored in 2008 in London, at the age of 28, so just thought fuck it - upp'ed sticks and moved to America, now loving life.... remember, a good job is a free airline ticket to anywhere in the world. Use a job to pay you to go to sick places and live in awesome locations.

Never stop dreaming, or believing...

Other then that - it's when you start to get hangovers.... fuck when i was 21, i could drink a shit load and get up at 7am and go for a 10k run, now... well im dieing on my arse the next day.

Stop worrying about it. It is a myth.....
 
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