Time to go home

aussieskier

aussieskier

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so been living in sydney for the last 8 years, went to uni here, live on the beach and what not, but i just go my citizen ship , about to head to the ski resort to work for our winter, then took a job back home in malawi, but have not signed anything yet
not to sure what to think about it really, i grew up there and in sth africa and there is something really special about africa, malawi is pretty poor however the family's i grew up in were always wealthy, we all worked for tobacco companies and all that.
so im tossing it up and want some help deciding:
pros or going back:live like a king, i will have a whole staff, talking cook, gardner, house maid all that sort of stufflots of money to savethere is pretty much no law there, drink, weed, everything is cheap and easy to get a hold of, i mean at 15 i had a fairly heavy cocaine habit.good job that is only going to last two years then i can come back to aus,family is therehell of a lot of out doors, with zebras and all that shit, like our property looks like a game reserve
Cons:have to leave the surf and culture of aus.my fiance is not stoked on going back,its uber racist, there is a fair amount of blacks running around kicking whites off their farms and violence.there is obviously alot of white against black racism also.i will be at least 2 days travel from skiing.no mountains to ride bikes, ski, hike, anything.loss of friends here in aus.living with my parents again
so any advice?
 
yea man, i move down wed in two weeks, got some training thing for the first couple of days, then start work like the 23rd or something, working at thredbo land which im stoked on, i teach little kids now so im pretty set with it.
you in snow sports as well yea?
sth africa, where i lived was fairly sketch, lived in j burg, driving through the black parts of the city, you dont stop at red lights or you will get jacked, lived in a gated community with guards so pretty safe until you go to the city, teaches you well though, people say stuff about the sketchy parts of sydney like kings cross and stuff, and its really safe there, like cops and shit everywhere, nothings as bad as tryng to club underage in j burg.
 
i have a friend who is turning 26 today. he makes 8'000/month, has a lotus and rescently bought himself a new correct craft (awesome wakeboard boat, not cheap). he seems to be happy, but still lives with his parents. he gets a lot of shit for that. but on the other hand he has so much extra cash that when he does move out, he's probably gonna hook himself up with an awesome place. but if i were you, i would not move back to aussi. you lose all your autonomie, your new friends, sports and your gonna piss of your soon to be wife, probably not the best way to start off a marriage. but if you do go back, i think you'll definetly enjoy the financial ups
 
yea the money is great, ill be working in tobacco farming running about 6 farms, but employed by phillip morris so paid through the nose in british pounds, so the money is awesome and i guess living back with my fam is not a big con, i havnt seen them for about 4 years, so that would be sweet just to hang with them.
my ladies problem i think is that its not so much she doesnt want to be in malawi, she is from there as well and has gone back to work once, its more she doesnt want to give up australian schools (she is a teacher) and the life style we have, we already make fairly good money and have a mortgage, so it makes financial sense for us to go, put a renter in our place and have that pay the intrest and money i earn will pay off the house pretty quick.
talking to her now about it, and i think im trying to convince myself more then her, she seems pretty open just not stoked.
 
i'm studying abroad in the gold coast right now, pretty tough to leave the aus culture man. Sounds to me know you should. Just got ur citizenship.. If you can't stop the waves learn to surf
 
If the money is good enough, I'd follow it. I don't know what your plans are, but I'd like to kick it as a stay at home dad the first couple of years of my kids' lives. Studies have shown that spending the formative years (0-5) with your children, rather than handing them off to other people to watch and raise, is the most effective thing you can do to increase their future success and happiness.

As you have a fiance, I assume that the prospect of children isn't too far off for you. So I'd suggest that a few years down the road, you'll be much happier to have a padded bank account to serve as the foundation of your future life rather than some surfing and shrimp on the barbie (/ignorant american that assumes "shrimp on the barbie" is a significant aspect of Australian culture).

Of course, even more important to your future happiness is the happiness of your future wife. You're farther along in the relationship game than me, so I don't need to tell you this, but you need to know that your girlfriend supports the move.

If you haven't already, grab a piece of paper and write out the pros and cons and maybe a paragraph about why you want to choose each option. Getting a visual representation like that can really help with decisions. A lot of times i'll be confused about a choice and then i'll list out the pros and cons of each and then it's not even a contest.
 
I'm an American, have never been to Australia, and have only spent a little time in South Africa. Still, I feel like I know both of those countries better than you do. The way in which you describe their laws and culture is either extremely naive, very uninformed, or pure speculation. You have painted a very odd picture of South Africa, one that sounds far more in line with the Hollywood version than reality.
 
ok, so i live here in aus, i know it pretty well living here in sydney for 8 years and traveled around a bit, its pretty simple really here, economy is good, weather is prime, there is some skiing a live in a area where its all beach so lots of healthy people running around surfing and stuff.
i dont know what i said about sth africa that pissed you off, yes its dangourus in some places, cities like j burg and durban are renowned for being a sketchy place to be, im going to guess the time you spent in africa was in places like cape town and in the safari parks? thats like saying i went to LA so i understand what america is like. i love sth africa, its a graet place to party and a awesome place to raise a family and really beautiful, i hope you enjoyed your trip, but dont pretend to understand the whole place
and on top of that malawi is exactly like i said, rich tobacco families, poor black families working for them, things are cheap a things are easy to get, africa is different, not better or worse, but i remember growing up there and wanting to get out. i do love it, spending the day on the lake stopping in at island bars with friends.
sorry to sound Naive to you mate, but look in the mirrior, you have never been here in aus, never been to Malawi, therefore dont judge others view on the place that they grew up.

 
sorry for the double post but thanks bro,
me nd my fiance sat down and hashed stuff out today,
we are going back to malawi for the two years, talking about kids and thing she wants to get that going pretty soon and i agree, want to be a young dad, she can line up a job pretty easy and money will be flowing, so all in all good choice.
oh and we call them prawns not shrimp :) thanks bro +K
 
epic facepalm...

@aussieskier, yea im in snow sports too, not thredboland specifically but they tend to put me there a lot, im heading down next sunday to get some skiing in before work starts, see you down there mate!
 
Sounds promising either way. Good luck bro. I would love to move to Australia. Just curious, what would be some good mountain towns? I have a ski resort management degree wondering if I could get placed at a sweet spot.
 
I'm kind of in the same boat right now. Not quite as in complicated as your situation, but I've got my flights booked home from Australia next month. Been living here 18 months for uni. I don't think I want to stay here, but there's a good chance I won't really have a home in Canada to go to.

But I mean, it's an opportunity that you should take, You can always leave and go back to Australia (I think?). Take all the opportunities you can, man. I did, and I've had one of the best times of my life.
 
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Id say Australia, ive never been but a bunch of my cousins live there and love it. Also Africa seems kind of sketchy, (not basing my knowledge off blood diamond either)
 
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