Would you be happier if he said "Fuck yeah we came here to kick ass and chew bubblegum- and we're fresh out of fucking gum, brah"
Look- did you watch it at all? The plane was emitting a signal identical to a military aircraft, and on a military craft frequency. Whether or not a conclusion was jumped to is a matter of opinion, but I doubt you'd wait around to visually see if it was indeed an F-14 if you were in charge of the safety of everyone on board and were in open conflict- if it was, you'd be too late.
I think that you're also forgetting this is the 80s and there's more technology in your phone than there was on that entire ship- also warships are generally there to dissuade conflict rather than perpetuate it. Who knew there were going to be idiots on rafts shooting at them??
Look, nobody is happy this happened- but the video shows eyewitness accounts of exactly what happened, why it happened, and what went wrong was identified and fixed. What exactly do you want to happen???