My life is shambles

[JmckR]

I hate my life. My Dad passed away from cancer back in June, and I'm living at home with my Mum. Not cool when you're nearly 30. The state of the UK is fucked at the moment, house prices and energy bills are astronomical so it makes no financial sense to move out for the foreseeable. Would literally be throwing money down the drain.

I don't see any of my friends anymore, I can't drive due to medical reasons and have no hope of getting a girlfriend again - basically impossible when you live with your parents and can't drive.

I have a great job. I somehow scored a role in mechanical engineering a couple of years ago which I'm hugely under-qualified for, but for some reason they seem to love me... fake it until you make it i guess.

I'm earning really good money, have a great laugh with the lads and the days are challenging & rewarding... generally really enjoy being there (as far as a job goes - it's still work, I wouldn't do it for free of course).

I really don't want to leave my job. I genuinely don't think I'll ever get a job as good as this, as mentioned before I'm so under-qualified it's ridiculous.

On the other hand. Something drastic needs to change. I've been granted a year's working holiday visa in NZ. I want to work in the bike parks in Queenstown. Only issue is it is fucking thousands of miles away and costs a fortune to get there with a bike.

If I get there and decide i'm not enjoying it. I'm totally fucked as i'll be around $5000 down and given up the best job I'll likely ever have.

Age old question of risk vs reward?

Basically just needed to rant / get this off my chest...

 

[STEEZUS_CHRI5T]

Don’t stress over the things you can’t control. You do have control over relationships, work, and where you live though.

First thing I’d do is move out and find your own apartment. You’ve got a good job and have likely been saving since you’re living with a family member. I’m sure you could afford it.

Keep your great job and build your life around your hobbies. No matter what you’re interested in, there’s always someone else interested in it too. Creating relationships becomes natural if you are passionate about something outside work. Also, there’s no such thing as too late to be dating or to make new friends.

 

[theabortionator]

Working holiday is pretty sweet honestly. If you're not sure you're gonna like it maybe dont, but it's kind of a send or don't thing. I don't know of anyone that's had a bad time. What do airlines charge for bikes? Maybe buy something down there and sell it before you head back.

As far as the job and stuff Idk. Maybe save up a bit while making decent money and then figure out your next step. Always a tough choice. Sometimes having a decent paying job isn't a bad thing to save a bit up. But if you aren't doing well in your situation any time can be a time to move on though.

 

[*ninja*]

I think making change is almost always good if your hearts in it.

 

[C.R.E.A.M]

Maybe instead of moving you can take a vacation? I feel like staying in what seems to be a good job vs leaving everything to move to NZ to do bike park things are two very different extremes there has to be something in the middle.

 

[JmckR]

Don’t stress over the things you can’t control. You do have control over relationships, work, and where you live though.

First thing I’d do is move out and find your own apartment. You’ve got a good job and have likely been saving since you’re living with a family member. I’m sure you could afford it.

Keep your great job and build your life around your hobbies. No matter what you’re interested in, there’s always someone else interested in it too. Creating relationships becomes natural if you are passionate about something outside work. Also, there’s no such thing as too late to be dating or to make new friends.

That’s good advice, thanks man. I am looking for apartments on a daily basis. as mentioned it will cost me a small fortune to move out, furnish a place and pay all bills etc. money that could be better spent elsewhere in the long run. But lots of good opportunities will arise if I do so. Can get back into the tinder game lmao. It’s on my mind though.

Working holiday is pretty sweet honestly. If you're not sure you're gonna like it maybe dont, but it's kind of a send or don't thing. I don't know of anyone that's had a bad time. What do airlines charge for bikes? Maybe buy something down there and sell it before you head back.

As far as the job and stuff Idk. Maybe save up a bit while making decent money and then figure out your next step. Always a tough choice. Sometimes having a decent paying job isn't a bad thing to save a bit up. But if you aren't doing well in your situation any time can be a time to move on though.

Agreed, it’s a gamble and I can’t be 100% sure if I’ll like it. It’s a different vibe out there and getting accommodation in queenstown is notoriously difficult, so maybe I’ll get tired of sleeping in shitty places and want to leave eventually. I’ve got the money to do whatever I want really, I saved a bunch over the last couple of years, but I’d still be gutted to throw it away like that! Buying a bike out there will make a lot more sense tbh.

I think making change is almost always good if your hearts in it.

Agreed. Im honestly in such a dark place at the moment, can’t continue living like this so there does need to be change.

Maybe instead of moving you can take a vacation? I feel like staying in what seems to be a good job vs leaving everything to move to NZ to do bike park things are two very different extremes there has to be something in the middle.

also good advice. A compromise would be ideal. But A bit of backstory. I lived in Canada for two years on a working holiday and had the best two years of my life. Would move there in a heartbeat if I had the visa (hopefully will get one in the near future - different story). So ive done the whole travelling abroad thing before and it was 100% the right thing for me. I hate England. The only difference is when I moved to Canada I didn’t have anything to lose. Now I do!

 

[STEEZUS_CHRI5T]

Also don’t rely on tinder, that’s for college hookups. Try bumble or some of the other apps, more serious mature crowd

 

[Jems]

start playing guitar and join a band

 

[theabortionator]

[tag=253186]@TheMailMan[/tag]

If it's a change of pace and a good fit it's not throwing it away. You're talking about wanting a break from things and to change it up. Moght be a good fit. Yeah housing is tough a lot of places. Maybe see if you can find anything for work in advance, maybe you can find something with housing or a place that knows of some housing.

Idk. Def tough to do, but could be a good trip to get away, meet some new people do something different for a bit. Let yourself breathe a bit. Lot's of unknowns and stuff which can be stressful but def seems like when it's something people want to do, it generally works out and you figure it out. CN always go weekly/monthly at a hostel until you figure it out.

Also as far as the year, you don't have to go for a full year. I think I only did like 5 months on both my NZ and Australian working holidays because I went for the ski season and had to be back north for ours. Still had a great time. Idk sometimes things get stressful and shit but overall good experiences. But you know yourself better than anyone so it really depends on what you want/need right now.

 

[Canis_lupus]

Idk, but the worse thing you could do about it is nothing

 

[TOAST.]

Is the job you currently have constantly hiring? If so give them plenty of notice that you are leaving and don't burn any bridges, good chance they may want to rehire you in the future if they need someone. I work with a ton of people that left for a few years and then came back.

Have you tried volunteering or joining any groups that do activities that you enjoy. Don't use them solely for the purpose of finding a relationship, but you might connect with people, even if it just new friends. Gives people time to get to know you before judging you for not being able to drive and living with your mom.

 

[theabortionator]

Is the job you currently have constantly hiring? If so give them plenty of notice that you are leaving and don't burn any bridges, good chance they may want to rehire you in the future if they need someone. I work with a ton of people that left for a few years and then came back.

This is real shit. Some industries it matters less but burning bridges is never good. Sometimes you gotta leave, do something else, take a better job whatever. But always nice if you know places wouod hire you again if you came back in the future.

I've known people who will burn bridges with every business in a town and then struggle to get work. Shit happens but damn, not a great strategy.

 

[partyandBS]

My dog I’ll save you my sob story but I too have been having a rough fuckin year filled with deaths, divorce and depression. Then after a 2:30a drunk decision to drive someone else’s car as fast as I could to either get arrested and get help through the system or crash and die I ended up crashing, not dying, avoiding legal trouble and just hittin rock fuckin bottom. So after a sick pysch eval i was going to therapy 2 times a week and was for a bit there sober. That shit saved my fuckin life. I wish I had gone sooner. Recognize when your in too deep and ask for help. Its surprising how many people would actually love to help out.

also i didnt read any of the responses to OP ?

 

[oldmanski]

Talk to your company/HR. You may be able to take a leave of absence for a year without pay and come back to your job. My company offers this and maybe something your company will offer too. As I read earlier, looks like you have already done the Canada thing and you loved it, Im sure you will feel the same in NZ. Life experiences as you know it are worth it, I look back on my life with a wee bit of regret because of I things I didnt do earlier in my life. Things here in the UK are fucked, Im in Scotland and have friends living and feeling very similar to you. It is rough but hang in there, get some counseling, talk to people, things will fall into place. Best of luck homie.

 

[JmckR]

Also don’t rely on tinder, that’s for college hookups. Try bumble or some of the other apps, more serious mature crowd

I know haha. Been there done that, got a few buddies who loved it didn't work out for me. Don't really like them in general, but needs be!

start playing guitar and join a band

Here in lines one of my main problems! Played guitar my whole life and like to think I'm pretty decent. But the not driving thing makes doing anything like that impossible. I can promise each and everyone of you, you don't know what you've got until it's gone. Will hopefully get my license back soon which will make a huge difference to my outlook, but who knows.

[tag=253186]@TheMailMan[/tag]

If it's a change of pace and a good fit it's not throwing it away. You're talking about wanting a break from things and to change it up. Moght be a good fit. Yeah housing is tough a lot of places. Maybe see if you can find anything for work in advance, maybe you can find something with housing or a place that knows of some housing.

Idk. Def tough to do, but could be a good trip to get away, meet some new people do something different for a bit. Let yourself breathe a bit. Lot's of unknowns and stuff which can be stressful but def seems like when it's something people want to do, it generally works out and you figure it out. CN always go weekly/monthly at a hostel until you figure it out.

Also as far as the year, you don't have to go for a full year. I think I only did like 5 months on both my NZ and Australian working holidays because I went for the ski season and had to be back north for ours. Still had a great time. Idk sometimes things get stressful and shit but overall good experiences. But you know yourself better than anyone so it really depends on what you want/need right now.

Yeah, maybe i am stressing too much about the difficulties of moving there. On the other hand, crazy how it's 2022 and it still takes 28 hours and $5000 to fly to New Zealand. We had supersonic flight over 50 years ago..

Idk, but the worse thing you could do about it is nothing

10000000%

Is the job you currently have constantly hiring? If so give them plenty of notice that you are leaving and don't burn any bridges, good chance they may want to rehire you in the future if they need someone. I work with a ton of people that left for a few years and then came back.

Have you tried volunteering or joining any groups that do activities that you enjoy. Don't use them solely for the purpose of finding a relationship, but you might connect with people, even if it just new friends. Gives people time to get to know you before judging you for not being able to drive and living with your mom.

Nope unfortunately, it's a company of only 20 people or so. And they'll fill my position pretty quickly with someone a lot more knowledgeable than me, got to be a realist about that one I'm afraid.

As mentioned above, doing literally anything without a driving license takes a lot more effort to put in than you can get out. It just stresses me.

My dog I’ll save you my sob story but I too have been having a rough fuckin year filled with deaths, divorce and depression. Then after a 2:30a drunk decision to drive someone else’s car as fast as I could to either get arrested and get help through the system or crash and die I ended up crashing, not dying, avoiding legal trouble and just hittin rock fuckin bottom. So after a sick pysch eval i was going to therapy 2 times a week and was for a bit there sober. That shit saved my fuckin life. I wish I had gone sooner. Recognize when your in too deep and ask for help. Its surprising how many people would actually love to help out.

also i didnt read any of the responses to OP ?

That's rough mate! I'm in a shit place rn so sometimes I fail to consider that other people are also going through it too. Social media is good at making me feel like shit, should really delete it... but I also find myself coming back for mtb/skiing videos.

Talk to your company/HR. You may be able to take a leave of absence for a year without pay and come back to your job. My company offers this and maybe something your company will offer too. As I read earlier, looks like you have already done the Canada thing and you loved it, Im sure you will feel the same in NZ. Life experiences as you know it are worth it, I look back on my life with a wee bit of regret because of I things I didnt do earlier in my life. Things here in the UK are fucked, Im in Scotland and have friends living and feeling very similar to you. It is rough but hang in there, get some counseling, talk to people, things will fall into place. Best of luck homie.

As mentioned above, it's too small a company that they'd allow anything like that. It's a fair point though!

Completely see where you're coming from. I'm only 30 and I have so many regrets about my life choices when I look back to my late teens/early 20s. Wonder where I'd be right now if I'd made the right choices.

So maybe I do need to bite the bullet and jump ship.

 

[JmckR]

Thanks for all the comments guys. Helps to talk about this.

 

[theabortionator]

Thanks for all the comments guys. Helps to talk about this.

For sure dude. Helps both talking about shit and also regarding plans and trips just saying stuff helps you process shit sometimes and figure out what makes sense and doesn't.

As far as flights you can go way cheaper than 5k. Idk what your local is but I did some looking. Flights are 14-1,700 from may on. You could fly out of Heathrow and into Christchurch from mid may- mid november for 1,400. It's not cheap by any means, but it's not as bad as $5k.

Sometimes just fucking around with some dates on google flights and seeing what's around you can find some deals. That was pretty much the going rate though. Seemed most everything fell in that range. I didn't try different airports and dates to see how that impacted things but it should be something like that.

 

[JmckR]

For sure dude. Helps both talking about shit and also regarding plans and trips just saying stuff helps you process shit sometimes and figure out what makes sense and doesn't.

As far as flights you can go way cheaper than 5k. Idk what your local is but I did some looking. Flights are 14-1,700 from may on. You could fly out of Heathrow and into Christchurch from mid may- mid november for 1,400. It's not cheap by any means, but it's not as bad as $5k.

Sometimes just fucking around with some dates on google flights and seeing what's around you can find some deals. That was pretty much the going rate though. Seemed most everything fell in that range. I didn't try different airports and dates to see how that impacted things but it should be something like that.

You're absolutely right about the flights, they are between £1500-1800 each way alone. cheers for checking.

The issue is when you need to take a 2nd bag (my bike) as luggage - you have to pay by the kg for some crazy reason. I think it's tax related flying in and out of the middle east (Qatar or UAE). So a 25kg bike box quickly becomes like £1000 extra. Each way! I've got some unfinished business on my DH bike and would love to fly it out there, hence the reason for wanting to take it with me.

Also bearing in mind I need to fly to Queenstown which is a 3rd leg from Auckland, depending which airline you fly with!

 

[theabortionator]

You're absolutely right about the flights, they are between £1500-1800 each way alone. cheers for checking.

The issue is when you need to take a 2nd bag (my bike) as luggage - you have to pay by the kg for some crazy reason. I think it's tax related flying in and out of the middle east (Qatar or UAE). So a 25kg bike box quickly becomes like £1000 extra. Each way! I've got some unfinished business on my DH bike and would love to fly it out there, hence the reason for wanting to take it with me.

Also bearing in mind I need to fly to Queenstown which is a 3rd leg from Auckland, depending which airline you fly with!

Yeah maybe see who has the best policies. I was seeing flights for that price round trip USD.

I've flown with my snowboard gear a bunch which is easier than a bike for sure but even then it varies. I flew from Auckland to Sydney, flight was $160, and Emirates wanted to charge me 600 for my snowboard bag for like a 2 hour flight or whatever it is. Ended up sending it back to NY to my parents house for $400.

Maybe see what airlines charge, if anyone has a deal. As far as the bags, can you fit enough stuff in the bag with your bike, and a carry on? The times where I've gotten everything into just my snowboard bag have been the easiest, but yeah, def tough dealing with the max weight.

There's a few NSer's in that area that ski and mountain bike. Maybe they could give you some tips on getting a bike down there if there's no way to travel with one for a reasonable price. I know switching bikes is weird and you want to ride what your used to , but if it saves you a bunch of $$$ could be worth it.

As far as the legs of the flight, generally if you book the flight, you pay whatever and check your luggage and that stays checked till your final destination. Depends on airline and flight though. I've had to cross through customs before and get my next flight but not that often.
https://www.airnewzealand.com/oversized-items

Not sure the weight and dimensions but seems like it might go almost standard baggage if you can fit it in that box size.

The middle eastern airlines seem to charge more for the stuff at least that I've run into. So even if a flight with air new zealand is slightly more $$ or less convenient might be your best bet.

 

[theabortionator]

Just looked on some random dates again May- November, 1,800 RT for Air Canada and Air NZ. Probably could find it closer to 1500 but was just seeing if you could do it without any middle eastern or asian airlines. Those have people traveling with sporting gear now and generally have pretty good allowances. Obviously check everything out. Make sure you can fit the bike in the dimensions of their box or if you have a travel bag. But they're pretty used to it and generally are as good as anyone. Versus some airlines that will beat you over the head for anything different shape or weight than a standard suitcase.

Idk it's worth looking into. If you've already applied and gotten the visa, might be worth seeing what's around for jobs. Even if you can't find anything, at least the working holiday allows you to pick up something random. Idk what the rules are around something like bartending and if they're strict if any places are open to people that don't have the proper stuff(if it's too hard to get) but that can always be an option.

Can work at a hostel for a place to stay while you figure stuff out. If you don't have a job locked down, you're also not necessarily bound to any spot. There's trails all over. Even Rotorua has a bunch of dirt stuff up on the North Island.

Idk, you got options and like anything else you'll figure it out when you get the I bet. The logistics of getting there, not getting fucked on plane tickets and baggage fees is stressful. But if you need to get out and change it up, could be good for ya.

Good luck with everything in general regardless of what you end up doing. Life is weird sometimes man. Hopefully things turn around for ya!

 

[JmckR]

Just looked on some random dates again May- November, 1,800 RT for Air Canada and Air NZ. Probably could find it closer to 1500 but was just seeing if you could do it without any middle eastern or asian airlines. Those have people traveling with sporting gear now and generally have pretty good allowances. Obviously check everything out. Make sure you can fit the bike in the dimensions of their box or if you have a travel bag. But they're pretty used to it and generally are as good as anyone. Versus some airlines that will beat you over the head for anything different shape or weight than a standard suitcase.

Idk it's worth looking into. If you've already applied and gotten the visa, might be worth seeing what's around for jobs. Even if you can't find anything, at least the working holiday allows you to pick up something random. Idk what the rules are around something like bartending and if they're strict if any places are open to people that don't have the proper stuff(if it's too hard to get) but that can always be an option.

Can work at a hostel for a place to stay while you figure stuff out. If you don't have a job locked down, you're also not necessarily bound to any spot. There's trails all over. Even Rotorua has a bunch of dirt stuff up on the North Island.

Idk, you got options and like anything else you'll figure it out when you get the I bet. The logistics of getting there, not getting fucked on plane tickets and baggage fees is stressful. But if you need to get out and change it up, could be good for ya.

Good luck with everything in general regardless of what you end up doing. Life is weird sometimes man. Hopefully things turn around for ya!

Thanks for the info dude and taking the time to write it all out!! Appreciate it. Whatever happens I'm sure i can make it work at the time, it's just whether I'll look back in 10 years and maybe say to myself, I really fucked that one up? who knows, life is weird, that's very true.

 

[GrandThings]

Companies dont hire people if they dont think they can do the job! Sounds like your co-workers love you and seems like you're being way too hard on yourself!

Also you mentioned that it's 'too small' of a company for you to take a sabbatical, but I know the UK and EU countries are typically wayy more flexible about leaves and you should definitely qualify for bereavement. Even if it's not a full year a month or two off to clear your head can be super rejuvenating.

 

[iH8pow]

Buy bitcoin and ethereum. Stretch your paychecks, in a few years you may be singing a completely different tune

 

[iced]

try putting things in your ass

 

[partyandBS]

try putting things in your ass

 

[Twinjibber77]

I just came here to say that not driving nor living with your mom are limiting factors for getting a girlfriend. As much as I want to suggest keeping a good job, living in the UK sounds like it blows (across the board) so go to NZ.

 

[BradFiAusNzCoCa]

I was in a situation where I was super unhappy living in western Colorado making good money. Every thing, in theory, was good but I was miserable. I picked up and moved to Queenstown on a WHV at age 27 to basically do a hard reset on my life. Happy to field any questions you have.

**This post was edited on Jan 3rd 2023 at 9:33:58pm

 

[JmckR]

Companies dont hire people if they dont think they can do the job! Sounds like your co-workers love you and seems like you're being way too hard on yourself!

Also you mentioned that it's 'too small' of a company for you to take a sabbatical, but I know the UK and EU countries are typically wayy more flexible about leaves and you should definitely qualify for bereavement. Even if it's not a full year a month or two off to clear your head can be super rejuvenating.

You might be right there mate. Thanks.

Buy bitcoin and ethereum. Stretch your paychecks, in a few years you may be singing a completely different tune

Bought eutherum few years ago. Lost around $200, cashed out and gave up. Won't bother again! Trading isn't for everyone!

try putting things in your ass

Hadn't thought of this yet, cheers for the idea

I just came here to say that not driving nor living with your mom are limiting factors for getting a girlfriend. As much as I want to suggest keeping a good job, living in the UK sounds like it blows (across the board) so go to NZ.

It does blow indeed.

I was in a situation where I was super unhappy living in western Colorado making good money. Every thing, in theory, was good but I was miserable. I picked up and moved to Queenstown on a WHV at age 27 to basically do a hard reset on my life. Happy to field any questions you have.

**This post was edited on Jan 3rd 2023 at 9:33:58pm

Sounds familiar! Do you still live out there now? Wondering why you chose NZ when you could've simply moved state!

Don't understand why the US doesn't offer general working holiday visa's, would snap one up instantly if they did. Love it out there.

 

[BradFiAusNzCoCa]

no, I left awhile ago and went to Australia after. I was gone for 2 years all said and done. Didn’t visit home either. I had already moved states and was a little jaded. I always wanted to live abroad, I had a European girlfriend, and I wasn’t happy. NZ visas were free so it was like “why not”. Queenstown felt like little Britain. So many Brits there. Like a lot lot.

I think the USA used to have something similar but now they are largely dependent on the J-1 and H1B visas for resort workers. Canada has a WHV though. I’ve heard their mountain towns are full of Aussies.

Sounds familiar! Do you still live out there now? Wondering why you chose NZ when you could've simply moved state!

Don't understand why the US doesn't offer general working holiday visa's, would snap one up instantly if they did. Love it out there.

 

[JmckR]

no, I left awhile ago and went to Australia after. I was gone for 2 years all said and done. Didn’t visit home either. I had already moved states and was a little jaded. I always wanted to live abroad, I had a European girlfriend, and I wasn’t happy. NZ visas were free so it was like “why not”. Queenstown felt like little Britain. So many Brits there. Like a lot lot.

I think the USA used to have something similar but now they are largely dependent on the J-1 and H1B visas for resort workers. Canada has a WHV though. I’ve heard their mountain towns are full of Aussies.

Ah, i get ya. I had no idea that there were so many Brits in Queenstown though!

You're right about the Canadian Ski towns, I've been to a few resorts and the one that stood out was Big White, I'd honestly say at least a 40% of the staff were Australian. Makes sense as the actual owners are Aussies.

I've tried looking down most avenues, the visa I would require is a H2B however you need a resort to sponser you. Ain't a chance that's happening. Shame

 

[BradFiAusNzCoCa]

Yeah man. Brits outnumbered Americans like 20 to 1. Pretty much everyone I knew was a Brit haha

I know Aussies who work at Big White so that checks out.

I know people who were sponsored by resorts (maybe it was h2b and not h1b) but they did it by first being a J-1 and making the connections. Can’t you do Japan too as a Brit?

PS a lot of places sponsor workers in Queenstown but make sure it’s an accredited company (I forget the word) so you can have a 3 year visa vs having to renew every year

Ah, i get ya. I had no idea that there were so many Brits in Queenstown though!

You're right about the Canadian Ski towns, I've been to a few resorts and the one that stood out was Big White, I'd honestly say at least a 40% of the staff were Australian. Makes sense as the actual owners are Aussies.

I've tried looking down most avenues, the visa I would require is a H2B however you need a resort to sponser you. Ain't a chance that's happening. Shame

 

[skiP.E.I.]

I know a few people with really great jobs like yours, who have similar feelings of being trapped in a rut, needing a change but not knowing how to go about it. I'd say the working holiday is the way to go, even if it's not as good a time as you hope (I don;t see how this is possible), you'll still be in the best place to bike, ski, surf, climb or whatever you want to do. Since you now have this engineering job on your resume, the likelihood of finding another one is for sure higher.

 

[JmckR]

Yeah man. Brits outnumbered Americans like 20 to 1. Pretty much everyone I knew was a Brit haha

I know Aussies who work at Big White so that checks out.

I know people who were sponsored by resorts (maybe it was h2b and not h1b) but they did it by first being a J-1 and making the connections. Can’t you do Japan too as a Brit?

PS a lot of places sponsor workers in Queenstown but make sure it’s an accredited company (I forget the word) so you can have a 3 year visa vs having to renew every year

Got a couple of friends who loved it but not fussed on Japan tbh! By the time I'd worked my notice, sorted shit out and flown out there, it'd be a bit late in the season.

I know a few people with really great jobs like yours, who have similar feelings of being trapped in a rut, needing a change but not knowing how to go about it. I'd say the working holiday is the way to go, even if it's not as good a time as you hope (I don;t see how this is possible), you'll still be in the best place to bike, ski, surf, climb or whatever you want to do. Since you now have this engineering job on your resume, the likelihood of finding another one is for sure higher.

Yes, very true about finding a new job again indeed.

Still makes me anxious about throwing everything away to move abroad again though!

 

[.Roockley.]

UK'er here but living in Canada, the UK is an absolute gongshow but only needs an election for it to look up. If you dont wanna risk that, sounds like you have a few options.

Can you claim Irish citizenship through any family up to grand parents? Moving to Europe could be another option to make the move somewhat cheaper.

New Zealand is amazing, if you want to go you will not regret it. If you need any help, reach out!

 

[JmckR]

Update on this,

I swung a 2nd Canadian WHV through a little-known loophole and quit my job in December 2023, now living in Calgary.







I also got my license back almost a year ago today, so I treated myself once I landed here,



Jury is out whether it was 100% the right decision, as I've found it a little harder to find work that I first expected so I'm eating away at my savings, but that's life I guess.

This will be my last chance, so I've got to give it everything!!

 

[BradFiAusNzCoCa]

Hell yeah dude! That’s awesome

Update on this,

I swung a 2nd Canadian WHV through a little-known loophole and quit my job in December 2023, now living in Calgary.

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I also got my license back almost a year ago today, so I treated myself once I landed here,

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Jury is out whether it was 100% the right decision, as I've found it a little harder to find work that I first expected so I'm eating away at my savings, but that's life I guess.

This will be my last chance, so I've got to give it everything!!

 

[JmckR]

Hell yeah dude! That’s awesome

Thanks man! Been a long time coming

 

[luke11]

just go skiing

skiing clears the mind everytime

 

[VTshredder69]

If you're 30 and living at home but make "great money" I don't see how this isn't a fixable problem. Living at home at 30 sounds horrific. I lived at home between jobs for 4 months at 28 and it was fucking terrible.

Move out dude even if it's with a roomate.

 

[oldmanski]

Thanks for the update and Hell Yeah! Good on you and keep at it!

 

[arnie_grape]

have u tried kratom

 

[VTshredder69]

If you're 30 and living at home but make "great money" I don't see how this isn't a fixable problem. Living at home at 30 sounds horrific. I lived at home between jobs for 4 months at 28 and it was fucking terrible.

Move out dude even if it's with a roomate.

Sorry didn't read the update. Glad you made a change

 

[JmckR]

Sorry didn't read the update. Glad you made a change

Lol all good bro.