Mom Against Skiing

JTCasper540_MN

JTCasper540_MN

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Hi NS, let me start by introducing my self. I am Jack, I am from minnesota and I am a senior in highschool. The snow and season here are both just starting to fall into place. We have got a decent amount of snow now and I want to make a jib in my backyard. My mom is the only problem, she will not let me build it because of my grades in school (which by the way, are not even that terribly bad, i have all B's and a one or two A's and C's) so she said until i get my first semester report card back in january she will not let me build anything. What should I do?
 
explain to her that it allows you to do what you love, and that if she lets you build it, you will get better grades and do your schoolwork before you go out to use it each day. You can also try telling her that its better than sitting inside all day and/or tell her that it would be a good thing for you to do a project like that. if that doesnt work, just get better grades and be happy when you actually are able to make it in January.

There are a ton of people with a very similar problem to you. Use the searchbar, i know there is at least one thread with tons of good ways to convince your mom. Good luck!
 
13222313:*JP said:
explain to her that it allows you to do what you love, and that if she lets you build it, you will get better grades and do your schoolwork before you go out to use it each day. You can also try telling her that its better than sitting inside all day and/or tell her that it would be a good thing for you to do a project like that. if that doesnt work, just get better grades and be happy when you actually are able to make it in January.

There are a ton of people with a very similar problem to you. Use the searchbar, i know there is at least one thread with tons of good ways to convince your mom. Good luck!
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thanks for the suggestion dude!

and sorry for the repost...

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really? just show her u studying? you need to sort this out on your won terms with your mother, the one who truly loves you most in this god for saken world.
 
Do it anyways while shes gone then hide it with a tarp or robe of invisibility when she gets back.
 
You're 17 or 18... next year you'll be 18 or 19. You have like 60 more years to not do what your mom says. You will make it through this.
 
Build it, make her watch you throw a lip blind two and you'll be sweet.

But seriously, tell her it will give you a goal to work towards. 2 hours of study a night before you can go out and sesh the jib. Make the jib the reward for working hard.
 
13222454:ChubbyBoy said:
Build it, make her watch you throw a lip blind two and you'll be sweet.

But seriously, tell her it will give you a goal to work towards. 2 hours of study a night before you can go out and sesh the jib. Make the jib the reward for working hard.
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2 hours of studying a night in high school? Sounds like a lot of jerking off to me
 
Its your life, i bet if you study hard when shes around and explain that its what you like to do and it will keep you outside and active she'll understand
 
if you are honestly working your hardest in school, then tell your mom that you are. for my parents at least, they are happy if they know i am working my hardest. if your not working your hardest, then make something change because high school isn't that hard
 
tell her you're in high school. No one really has homework. By having a rail you will be skiing, rather than partying... Which does she prefer?
 
I know the number of ski bums on this site, but to be honest skiing is alot more fun when you are loaded. Get good grades, get into a good school and make bank. Then you can spend the rest of your life skiing.
 
Jack.....Fucking murder your mom and then freeze her into a cube of ice, then jib the cube of ice, and THEN do your homework and cry
 
13223046:parkplayground said:
idk about anyone else but anyone who says highschool isn't hard must be taking easy classes...
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Until you go to university and get a real job. Then you realize that high school is the easiest time of your life. Have fun while you have time.
 
13223046:parkplayground said:
idk about anyone else but anyone who says highschool isn't hard must be taking easy classes...
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i felt the same way. wait til college. high school (AP's included) is a joke compared to your average university

also OP, theres NO FUCKING WAY you are a senior in high school.. when I was a senior I would be embarrassed as fuck to post anything about dealing with my mom? like really? you need advice from a bunch of ski kids on how to talk to your mom? you've got to be 13 or 14 years old
 
13223238:Download-My-Apps said:
Until you go to university and get a real job. Then you realize that high school is the easiest time of your life. Have fun while you have time.
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13223301:PapDaddy said:
i felt the same way. wait til college. high school (AP's included) is a joke compared to your average university

also OP, theres NO FUCKING WAY you are a senior in high school.. when I was a senior I would be embarrassed as fuck to post anything about dealing with my mom? like really? you need advice from a bunch of ski kids on how to talk to your mom? you've got to be 13 or 14 years old
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I know about college. My mom is a professor for Seniors teaching law and business management. I have sat through many of her classes and know exactly how hard it is. I also see her with all that grading paper shit too. I am definitely not saying that shit is easy. It is hard as fuck, but to say that HS isn't hard is pretentious. If you have to deal with school, a job, sports (skiing included) personal endeavors, and other shit you have to deal with (cops, drugs, parents like in OP's case) it adds up.

Highschool itself is not the most difficult thing in the world, but it is the first time in a person's life when you have to deal with all that shit. By the time college and a real job rolls around you are used to it so it isnt as stressful.

Just my 02 cents
 
13223321:parkplayground said:
I know about college. My mom is a professor for Seniors teaching law and business management. I have sat through many of her classes and know exactly how hard it is. I also see her with all that grading paper shit too. I am definitely not saying that shit is easy. It is hard as fuck, but to say that HS isn't hard is pretentious. If you have to deal with school, a job, sports (skiing included) personal endeavors, and other shit you have to deal with (cops, drugs, parents like in OP's case) it adds up.

Highschool itself is not the most difficult thing in the world, but it is the first time in a person's life when you have to deal with all that shit. By the time college and a real job rolls around you are used to it so it isnt as stressful.

Just my 02 cents
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No offense man.... but go to college first, then tell me that high school wasn't a million times easier. I did all that stuff with school (definitely didn't take the easiest courses), jobs, and varsity sports and I still stand by the fact that high school was worlds easier.

and OP, doesn't sound like your mom's against skiing, it sounds like she's against you not doing your work and skiing instead. Do your work, then go skiing. She's paying for all your food and shelter/it's her backyard and stuff after all, expect a bit of a "price" with all that freeloading.
 
13223321:parkplayground said:
If you have to deal with school, a job, sports (skiing included) personal endeavors, and other shit you have to deal with (cops, drugs, parents like in OP's case) it adds up.
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If your think your high school problems are stressful, at risk of sounding like a dad, just wait until you get older.

College is more difficult than high school. Once you're no longer living under your parents roof, your job will become even more important because you now have bills to pay. Skiing is still skiing when you're an adult. If you get in trouble with the cops as an adult, it actually matters because it will go on your criminal record. If you do drugs or drink, you're now wondering how you're going to afford to buy any drugs or alcohol after your aforementioned bills are paid and you buy groceries. For the majority of people, the decisions your parents make while you're a kid are in your best interest even if you disagree with them.

I'm not saying growing up sucks, it's fucking awesome. But part of growing up will be realizing how petty and unimportant all the bullshit you worried about in high school was.
 
13223409:caucasian_chad said:
If your think your high school problems are stressful, at risk of sounding like a dad, just wait until you get older.

College is more difficult than high school. Once you're no longer living under your parents roof, your job will become even more important because you now have bills to pay. Skiing is still skiing when you're an adult. If you get in trouble with the cops as an adult, it actually matters because it will go on your criminal record. If you do drugs or drink, you're now wondering how you're going to afford to buy any drugs or alcohol after your aforementioned bills are paid and you buy groceries. For the majority of people, the decisions your parents make while you're a kid are in your best interest even if you disagree with them.

I'm not saying growing up sucks, it's fucking awesome. But part of growing up will be realizing how petty and unimportant all the bullshit you worried about in high school was.
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First off, didnt expect to get this much heat from my comment.

Second: again, I AM NOT SAYING COLLEGE IS EASY. I have seen the workload firsthand. It is unbelievably harder. That is not the issue and I never said that it was easier in the first place. I am just simply saying that highschool is the hardest thing you will do up to that point in your life, which may not be true for special, personal situations, but I think it covers the majority of the people 18 and under. I also know that College is a point in your life where your decisions matter more than ever before because you are relying on yourself at this point for your future, not your parents.

I will use a comparison to better explain what I said earlier in this thread.

You are in Middle school. Once you go into highschool, you realize middle school was nothing, but up until you graduated middle school to experience HS, it seemed hard. This is because it is, up to that point in your life, the hardest thing you have ever done, so you perceive it as such since you have no other life situations to compare its difficulty to. HS brought so many things you were not used to, which, because it was new to you (not just schoolwork, but as I talked about earlier, other things you inevitably have to deal with), you had no "tolerance" for it so it was on a whole new level of difficulty. You gradually became more comfortable with the increased difficulty, eventually seeing it as more normal than difficult, and then by the time you are a senior in HS and go to college, the cycle starts all over again, but again at a higher level. When you enter college however, HS gave you a taste of adulthood and it is less of a challenge to adapt, unlike how it was from Middle school to HS. THIS IS MY POINT. College is insanely harder, but the "tolerance" I am talking about takes much less time to develop going from HS to college.

In Highschool all of this new stuff is foreign, and creates a lot of stress. College also creates a lot of stress, but it comes a lot from increased work loads. By the time you reach college, alot of those stressful things that come with adulthood (aside from taxes and paying for yourself and such) are not completely new to you, and don't give you as much stress.

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If it is confusing, I am sorry. It makes sense in my head.
 
Either tell her you wont do any homework until the jib is built or, if you don't want to be a little bitch, just do your work first
 
13223458:parkplayground said:
First off, didnt expect to get this much heat from my comment.

Second: again, I AM NOT SAYING COLLEGE IS EASY. I have seen the workload firsthand. It is unbelievably harder. That is not the issue and I never said that it was easier in the first place. I am just simply saying that highschool is the hardest thing you will do up to that point in your life, which may not be true for special, personal situations, but I think it covers the majority of the people 18 and under. I also know that College is a point in your life where your decisions matter more than ever before because you are relying on yourself at this point for your future, not your parents.

I will use a comparison to better explain what I said earlier in this thread.

You are in Middle school. Once you go into highschool, you realize middle school was nothing, but up until you graduated middle school to experience HS, it seemed hard. This is because it is, up to that point in your life, the hardest thing you have ever done, so you perceive it as such since you have no other life situations to compare its difficulty to. HS brought so many things you were not used to, which, because it was new to you (not just schoolwork, but as I talked about earlier, other things you inevitably have to deal with), you had no "tolerance" for it so it was on a whole new level of difficulty. You gradually became more comfortable with the increased difficulty, eventually seeing it as more normal than difficult, and then by the time you are a senior in HS and go to college, the cycle starts all over again, but again at a higher level. When you enter college however, HS gave you a taste of adulthood and it is less of a challenge to adapt, unlike how it was from Middle school to HS. THIS IS MY POINT. College is insanely harder, but the "tolerance" I am talking about takes much less time to develop going from HS to college.

In Highschool all of this new stuff is foreign, and creates a lot of stress. College also creates a lot of stress, but it comes a lot from increased work loads. By the time you reach college, alot of those stressful things that come with adulthood (aside from taxes and paying for yourself and such) are not completely new to you, and don't give you as much stress.

/explanation

If it is confusing, I am sorry. It makes sense in my head.
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Middle School to high school is much less of a stressful transition then high school to the adult world. Most stressful situations once you graduate stem from figuring out how to support yourself while maintaining happiness. And until you have graduated grade school you will not understand this. I understand that you may feel stress to a certain level transitioning to high school, but after that it really is a whole new set of foreign situations without the financial/emotional support of mom and dad.
 
I'm a mom. We love our kids to death. But we worry. It's in our DNA & it's kind of our job. Is my kid gonna be safe? Is my kid gonna get good grades, graduate, get into a decent college, get a good job, stay out of trouble, etc? But mostly we just want our kids to be happy. We sometimes think WE know what's gonna make our kids happy (and what's gonna make them miserable).

Your mom may be worried that you will regret not putting more effort into school because she thinks your grades might limit your options later. She might be right. She may be worried that you'll get hurt. She's definitely right. Shredding rail jibs is sketchy & you're going to eat it more than once.

That said, if you want it bad enough, start negotiating. Let her know how much you want it & what you are willing to do to get it. Figure out what she wants most & what worries her most. Give and take.

My kid wanted t build a jib setup & we were skeptical. My husband thought it would wreck our yard & I thought my son & his friends would get hurt. My husband was also worried about liability (if friends got hurt). Same with our tramp. But my son let us know how much he wanted it, negotiated & eventually even convinced my husband to help him build it. It actually turned into a pretty cool father-son project. We informed friends & parents about the inherent dangers & had parents sign liability releases. My elderly neighbor saw the kids shredding in the dark & bought them some sweet lights at an auction. Everyone got into it. We enjoyed watching the kids have fun. My kid got into a good college & is having a blast. Good luck!
 
13223761:SamSandmire said:
I'm a mom. We love our kids to death. But we worry. It's in our DNA & it's kind of our job. Is my kid gonna be safe? Is my kid gonna get good grades, graduate, get into a decent college, get a good job, stay out of trouble, etc? But mostly we just want our kids to be happy. We sometimes think WE know what's gonna make our kids happy (and what's gonna make them miserable).
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Will you be my mommy?

Actually that's pretty cool. My mother was against the setup at first, because it would take up lot of space and look stupid (which it does), but I got all the materials and built it anyways. Luckily we dont have to sign liability releases here to get friends shredding, If you get rekt it's your own fault.
 
I would explain to my mother the educational value behind such a project would be (such as stress on structures and materials) and how skiing is something you love doing.

Of course school is your number one priority but skiing is your reward for working hard in school. Im in my first year of university, and I wont be the only one to tell you that its fucking hard, it's easy to get your priorities mixed up and put other things before school. If you show your mom that you are really pushing it in school (and I mean really pushing it) then there's no doubt in my mind that she wouldn't reward you for it. Get your mother to tell you something she is passionate about, something that she loves to do, and ask her if all she ever did was work and there was nothing else in her life to look forward to if she would be as motivated or as happy with her life. Tell her that skiing is your passion and that you escape the stresses of school and life through your love of skiing. And that you would gladly work harder in school if you had your own private ski setup to cool off on. Get your mom to realize that one cannot solely work and study with out burning themselves out. Go really hard in school and show your mother how much skiing motivates you. Any parent just wants the best for their child, and there is no doubt that having something to reward you for your studious behaviour would have a positive effect on your grades.
 
I mean if she doesn't want you to then you shouldn't. That's just life. Get a friend to do it or something and chill at their house a lot.
 
I think a parental emphasis on education is paramount. I'm a dad, we just have a flat bar now, but will be expanding the set up as my kids grow up and get better. I also plan on building miniramps in the garage in the winter and moving them out to the yard in the summer. My wife and I quit our careers and moved the family to a resort town, skiing and having fun is very very important to us.

However, the kid's grades start slippin' and that's priority #1.
 
build a setup in the woods than run away and live at it. THAT'LL TEACH YOU TO LET ME SKI WHERE I WANT AND WHEN I WANT MOM!

also i never asked. i just made one. better to ask for forgiveness than for permission
 
Smoke a J in front of school, get kicked out, move to Park City, Change your name to Tanner, become a great skier that everyone looks at and thinks "why is there a homeless man walking through the ski village" and oh I almost forgot, since you dropped out of school, type everything in full caps. ALWAYS.
 
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