Introverts Vs. Extroverts - What kind of person are you?

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First, watch this video (you dont have to if you know what an introverts and extroverts are)

So now you should be a little educated on the difference. I have realized pretty recently that im kinda introverted. These family gatherings are great but, I find it nice to escape, for example just before or after meals and be alone for a couple minutes. Its usually just a minute in the bathroom reading twitter or whatever. Its almost like a recharge. Im not sure why im posting this thread, maybe its just informative for people who are like this (or just more introvert then the average). According to online tests and examples i should be about half introvert and half extrovert. why does that matter? Because maybe some of you outgoing people think youre all extrovert (like me) but there could be another side to you.

For you seniors at highschool, this could help with the choice of living in a single or double room at university/college. I live in a single and i like being able to just go home and recharge my batteries so to speak (watch a movie alone or listen to music).

Almost all my friends are extroverted. I am on a student council with a whole bunch of "extroverts" who love to talk and talk and talk and holy fuck do i seem awkward being all quiet. Usually at the end of discussions i have gathered a nice well rounded view from everyone in the meeting. This is when I speak up and help come up with a solution (what I propose almost always passes with a vote).

Are you guys introverts or extroverts?

Thanks guys, I hope at least some of you can relate and learn a bit more about yourself

 
Introvert. I took that personality test with like 16 different personality. I was like INEP or something like that.
 
I'm also an introvert. You change as you get older though, I'm not as much of an introvert as I was growing up.
 
Yeah yeah i remember that test. I think i was an INTP (some sort of thinker/scientist style)

Im studying engineering (just first year) with a 3.8gpa and i dont study nearly as much as the other kids in my program (not to mention they are nowhere close to this gpa).

Is this linked to my personality? do i just know how to study properly?

I think knowing yourself is a pretty clutch way to do things like save time studying or how to deal with relationships.

Check this website out for info on personality types

http://www.personalitypage.com/html/info.html
 
when i took the personality test in school i was ENTP. but my score was extremely close to INTP. I would say i am introverted without doubt. if only people could hear my inner monologue throughout my day..
 
introvert, specifically characterized by myths 1, 2, 4, and 6

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.

This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.

Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.

On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.

Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.

Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.

Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

 
99% of that describes me so I guess I'm introverted. Maybe this is why I have so much fun skiing alone and doing a ton of other activities by myself or just being by myself.
 
Also for those who don't know, here's what the letters mean.

picture_mbti.jpg


I'm ISTP so

Introversion

Sensing

Thinking

Perceiving.

Also I recommend searching the Enneagram typology stuff. Generally more specific than mbti. I'm a 6w5 on the Enneagram
 
Im introverted, but can act extroverted with he best of 'em.

It just sucks when i meet a girl when i am being all extroverted and then when i actually try and hang out with her, being the real me, she is introverted and expecting me to be the life of the convo, or date. I cant keep that level of energy up haha.

All my best friends are extroverted, and in my best relationships the girl has been extroverted. I dont mind being alone with my thoughts, while some of my best friends have anxiety attacks when they are alone.
 
Roomate went through a phase where he was obsessed with personalities. i was an ISTJ i'm pretty sure. very Introverted and i go through phases where it gets even worse. 'im probably kind of bipolar.
 
i'm like, some of both of some of those things.

most definitely an "introvert" though, will post more when its not 2:30am and i need to . also there's definitely been a thread on this before, will try and find it since theres some interesting stuff in there
 
I'm definitely introverted.

I have a problem with being focused at the task at hand unless I get kickstarted. Once kickstarted, I am an extremely hard worker and work at 200% of my capacity.

I work in retail. Normally I have an average time until something fucks up and I make a big error. Once I reach that point, I enter god-mode to sort of redeem myself and work very proficiently.
 
i guess im an IIFP, that video only made me more confused. i dont talk much unless its something im interested it but it said that introverts are slow at making decisions and not adventurous. i do lots of stupidly dangerous stuff, and im very quick to make a decision. i cant really chose one or the other.
 
I took that 70 question test and got INTP the first time and ISTP the second time. Both describe me very well and I would say I am very introverted.
 
Assuming this isn't a rhetorical question, this is a post on Reddit that describes how I feel about this entire topic



Oh shit this circlejerk again.

I love how every time this shit comes up, whoever is presenting it is utterly confident that they are the first person ever to be presenting these radical ideas to their audience. (:55, for example. He's expecting it to "surprise you" and expecting you to be shocked at how many you already know, hiding under your nose.)

Introversion is not a big secret.

Then they like to talk about how mean the "extrovert" world is to them. Valuing traits like confidence, decisiveness, and the ability to socialize and work well within a team is framed as oppressive extrovert dominance, not a social species valuing socially-successful traits.

In this episode, he goes on to claim that introverts are "discounted because of who they are" and draw parallels to sexism. I'm sure feminism would be proud to see their cause trivialized so.

Can't forget the bit where they talk about how the oppressive extrovert society is incredibly cruel to them. In this case, he talks about "psychic pain" which should be an alarm bell to anyone having doubts about the kool-aid.

Then we transition into the "introverts are deep thinkers" bit (cue: inevitable Einstein reference.) and discussion of how introverts and extroverts work differently - carefully making sure to point out that extroverts make "rash" decisions but neglecting to mention any similar hidden failings in the "introvert work style" ... coming to mind from my own failings, "poor communicator" "indecisive" "hesitant" "fearful of conflict" "reluctant to disagree" "poor multitasking" "overwhelmed easily" all come to mind as possible criticisms that might've been included if he wanted to at least try and give a balanced account of the two.

On social skills, more of the same. We sneak a single afterthought-style criticism into the social styles of extroverts, but do not do the same for introverts.

In talking about business meetings, he brings up two participants who are quiet in a business meeting, and how "one is scared" and "the other is overstimulated" and then says that the two appearing the same is somehow bad. Except that it's two people who aren't contributing to the team, and their hidden inner cause doesn't really matter when the end consequence is "not saying shit at meetings."

"Our focus on Alpha Status blinds us to things that are good, smart and wise."

Introverts are by implication "good, smart and wise" because that invisible distinction between two people, both not contributing to the team, apparently means one is an under-appreciated genius while the other is some sort of social coward...

This was a far better and more balanced account than the perennial reddit favorite "Caring For Your Introvert," I was really glad that he took the time to frame introversion/extroversion as a spectrum or continuum, not a binary dichotomy. Equally, that he took the time to point out that anyone at either pole of the spectrum is likely mentally ill, as well. There are clinical extremes of any trait, and intro/extroverion are just the same.

He alluded to it from a distance, but didn't really get in on the fantastic circlejerk that is "introverts are smarter and better and awesomer than extroverts, just unnoticed and unappreciated because they're quiet" ... hopefully that bit isn't coming in a future episode.



http://www.reddit.com/r/psychology/comments/13zlc4/quiet_the_power_of_introverts_youtube_703/c78nfhv
 
No, not rhetorical--curious regarding your point of view on the matter. I've read a few of your posts and noticed you're a smart guy.

I agree with the sentiments expressed in the Reddit post. I remember the NYT magazine did a piece on the intro/extrovert REVELATION some time ago, and after reading it I was sort of miffed. The big deal failed to dawn on me. It felt more like yet another instance of pop-psychology boldly proclaiming a revelation. A revelation, which when you consider it fails to live up to its own purported significance. Bottom line, attempting to awkwardly place yourself on a spectrum won't really help you understand yourself or other people in a deeper way. It might give you some sort of satisfaction of identification but the whole idea of binary division of personality types is just bogus in general.

Sometimes these sorts of articles/posts remind me of the covers of Psychology Today. I laugh at those because they just annoy me.
 
Everyone that tests themself is likely to be an introvert because a lot of the characteristics are more desirable. Everyone wants to be a brooding, mysterious intellectual, not an impulsive, loud, energetic party-goer. Just saying, the way these tests outline it isn't conducive to people turning up as an extrovert. If you test yourself then your results are immediately so biased you can't rely on them.
 
I am definitely an introvert, but why is it so common in this thread?

Is it because extroverts don't bother posting that they're extroverts?

Or because being on an online forum is an introverted trait?
 
does everyone want to be a brood, mysterious intellectual? pretty sure not all extroverts are stupid and impulsive. it seems pretty clear it's not black and white like that...

but you could be right. or maybe its just that the thread is more directed towards introverts so they're the ones that are responding? seems just as likely...
 
I would bet that this is a factor.

And that the video was kinda directed towards introverts so if you're like "hey, that's me!" then you're more likely to post than if it wasn't you.
 
Could be the fact that the introverts are dipping out on their families on christmas day to be alone for a couple mins. They then scroll through NS, see this thread and decide to post because it is 100% relevant. meanwhile all the extroverts are chatting up a storm in the living room.

I posted this thread because i was sort of escaping the pre dinner social so i can easily stand the 20 people at dinner. this is my 4th family/friend christmas party night in a row and im getting tired of it.

This post seems extreme, escaping family and all. but i dont mean it in that way, just exaggerating to get my point across.

jesus i feel like a depressed little teenage twat....
 
haha no I know what you mean, and that's almost definitely also a factor.

Although my Christmas festivities for the day/night have come to an end so that doesn't apply to me.
 
Woooaaaahhh there, not what I meant at all. It's all about how the test presents the archetypes. For example, look at the information category in the diagram above... Introverts are "imaginative, theoretical, conceptual, original" I just think people are more likely to choose certain responses because the world we live in encourages it. Chances are if you're an adolescent male you want to think of yourself as original and creative, not traditional and unimaginative. It's entirely possible that people that post on Internet forums are way more likely to be introverted too. I just think painting such a complicated topic in black and white and then encouraging people to self-diagnose without assuming their own bias is misleading and wrong. Introversion/extroversion is just a model to look at personalities, it's not like these types precluded humanity, we created them to understand ourselves better but by its nature the model is flawed. It's like assuming you can be either happy or sad and nothing in between... "happy" and "sad" are useful concepts but they don't always apply and there are many emotions in between them. Hope that made sense, on mobile. I'm not calling anyone dumb though.
 
Also, if there's a university student reading this that has a JSTOR account or something they should do a little research and find out how bias affects Myers Briggs tests and report back. I'd do it myself but I don't want to use my data to sift through like 50 pages of articles..
 
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