I need some mature advice fast

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c-wayne

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well to start im 19 y/o and come from a very strong annoyingly catholic family. my dad has basically had it planned out that since birth i will automatically be as strongly into the catholic lifestyle as he is and there will be no deviation from it. Me myself, now 19 do basically not give 2 shits about there ridiculously strong beliefs, but i do respect them and go to church with them when they ask (which is a whole other topic because i shouldn't be forced to do something religiously that i don't believe in) part of there beliefs as many of you know is they are very anti- sex which hasn't been much of a conflict for me and them until now. For the most part they haven't had any idea about my girlfriends and the people ive slept with.

so my parents are away for most of this week to go to a cabin they rented. i think cool one night ill have my fwb come spend the night. So as my parents were leaving yesterday i told my brother mike (he is 16 and the lamest kid ever. hes a huge pothead who sits home all day every day has no job, friends, future, ect) that i was having a girl over to hang for awhile and maybe spend the night and that she wont bother him and he will probably not even see her. he flips shit for some reason because he doesn't like it when i have people over and deffinitly doesn't want them to sleep over. I tell him this girl id going to come over for 5 mins then were going to go on a hike and then well come back to my room and sleep. like he will never even hardly see her so it doesn't affect him in any way. He continues to flip shit and tell my dad who is in a bad cocksuckin mood for some reason and calls me and tells me no girls better be in my room and that its against our faith and catholic bs excuses. I change my story to a few guys are coming over to hangout and have a fire to defuse his shit and he lets it go.

so as originally planned girl comes over we go on hike, we come back to my house hide outside from my brother around the fire have a few brews (he doesn't know about this) then we go inside slip into my room without bothering my brother and fuck for like an hour and then go to sleep. We didn't bother him all night. This morning the girl left early for work and then i go back to sleep. i wake up an hour ago to my brother telling me he called dad to tell him i had a girl over for the night and that dad said im in huge trouble. and hes going to try and take my car away and shit that will highly affect me like that.

As of now when they come home to bitch at me i plan on saying there was another guy with me and the girl and that we didn't have sex or anything and just went to sleep to try and diffuse this a little bit because they are so anti sex this should help. I was also thinking of just packing my bags and taking the my car that i pay insurance, gas, and payed for in whole so its 95% mine except when something breaks and it needs expensive repair and going away to a friends house or to a place to camp for the next few days to show im fucking serious about not dealing with them for something that shouldn't even be a big deal and that i shouldn't have even be ratted out for. I need my car to work and to go surfing and do the things i love and im not letting my first college summer get ruined over something that shouldn't even be a big deal.

What do you think i should do to fix or diffuse this? im so mad i cant even think right now and i need an idea fast.

Also idk what to do with my brother. he is a piece of shit snitch for no reason and i cant believe he would get me in this much trouble for something that's not even bad and doesn't affect him. im like in rage right now
 
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Sounds like your whole family, with the exception of you, is a bunch of cocks.

Beat your brothers ass. Teach him not to be a bitch and smoke/vape weed in moderation.

And if you want to rail that girl so badly, give your brother twenty bucks and your car keys and tell him to get lost. Option B, take said car to girls house. Fuck girl at her house. Option C, (super horny last resort) give her the D in your backseat.

Your welcome.
 
just deny, your dad probably ask why your brother would lie say you dont know probably because i didnt want to drive him somewhere
 
my bad.

then....invite two girls over...one that is willing to give your brother a blowie while you get yours.
 
Pour gasoline over all of them, then hang em withfire covered barbed wire. Then shove a shotgun as far up your ass as possible and pull the trigger.

Or you could put this in LM. Your choice.
 
"accidentally" leave your collection of home made sex videos on his computer. And then smoke meth in font of him.
 
1. Beat your brother.

2. What's wrong with having girl 'friends' (If he's uptight about that as well, then have a mature conversation)
 
that's actually a pretty solid way to go. take his credibility, he's a 16 year old stoner anyway
 
First of all, your brother sounds like a little bitch and needs to be put in his place. You are the older brother, if you want to have friends over, you're going to have friends over, that's it. If he doesn't like it, you need to beat his ass. I don't understand how having one person over would bother him so much like wtf, but you need to stop caring about what bothers him man because he's obviously a douche. Stop being like "oh im having someone over we won't bother you bla bla bla." you shouldn't have to try and not bother him, that's it. Now I shouldn't have started off by saying "first of all" because there isn't a "second of all", that's all there is to it. Brothers are supposed to have each others backs, not be little pussy bitches. As far as the whole parent thing goes, I dunno man you're in their house so I guess you gotta play by their rules, which is why I am reccomending you just move out, then you'll truly be able to do what you want and they won't be able to do shit about it if you're paying it with your own money and all that.
 
first leave your brother be. sibling understanding of this stuff doesnt quite take old for a few more years. thats taken care of.

next. the parents. you are your own person. being 19, you are starting to figure out who you are and your parents should understand that. if your dad asks, don't lie. that will make things worse, especially if you're trying to hide stuff from him. really the best thing to do is sit your parents down and explain to them your ideals. that you are not trying to step out of line and that you respect everything you have been taught.

religion is a tricky subject, especially when parents kind of force the ideals down your throat. the best way is to talk it out, and when your parents get loud and start screaming, don't yell back, just say to calm down and talk like adults. eventually, though not initially, your parents might understand and respect you for who you are, and who you are turning out to be. but remember, respect goes both ways. so you have to understand their point and calmly explain why you feel the opposite. thats the only way that works.

 
Rat your brother out for smoking? Seems like your parents would be pissed about that too.
 
When I was 19 I had my own place in California, i'm from idaho. Move out of the house and grow up
 
Yup. Whose name is the car titled in? Cause that 95% yours bullshit doesnt fly its either yours or its not.

Unfortunately, some people have worse situations and others dont. You got stuck with a strict and undeviating family. Think of all the kids that were raised in Amish families and didn't like their situations, and eventually left. It was a million times worse for them than you. They had to leave behind everything and experience extreme culture shock akin to going to a new country alone. All I'm saying is don't do anything rash and unforgivable. They will always be your blood. You don't have to like them for it but they will always be your kin.

I say you smooth it over and plot an responsible escape, without burning any bridges. Get a job and start saving as you will save SO much freaking money at home not paying rent. Figure out a budget and learn how to live within that, then boom, move to Utah or Montana or something.
 
Tell them your brother had a girl over too, xcept she was ugly. You two will argue over whose telling the truth for a while then your parents will just be like shut up and drop it.
 
Move out. If your parents are the type to not give any leeway then you don't really have any other choice.

Treating you like that when you're 19 is fucking retarded. Oh and punch your brother in the face.
 
Oh man, I'm in a pretty similar situation. My dad won't get off my back about turning me Catholic (I'm 18 y/o btw). I'm totally cool with religion and I think it's fine that people have faith, but there are things about Catholicism that I don't agree with, most of which are the same things you don't like about it such as premarital sex. Since this is my last summer before college, my dad was trying hard to get me to convert since he doesn't want to me going to college with my 'corrupt ideals', but he's recently sort of given up. You seem like a pretty mature, level headed guy because you didn't lie to your parents and you were nice to your brother, so the way I see it there are two options for you.

A. Live up to your actions and try to patch things up with your parents. This is the more mature option, but would probably involve you pretending to be Catholic around your parents (like I have to do sometimes). It would be the high road, and wouldn't be as fun as option B, but is most likely to save your relationship with your parents.

B. My personal favorite, get revenge on that lil twat of a brother. Leave a dirty pipe or a little baggy of weed where your parents will find it, and if you smoke weed take a week to detox before doing this. When your parents find it, insist it's not yours and when they ask for proof tell them to drug test you and your brother. You'll come up clean since you detoxed, and your brother will fail miserably because he's a massive stoner who probably smoked a few hours before being tested. You come away clean and your brother gets his shit rocked. If your brothers such a lazy stoner you'd really be doing him a favor.
 
Well I would definitely just leave for a couple of days and turn off your phone, also i would break all of your brothers glass for being a fucking cock sucker, and beat the shit out of him. Come home after a couple of days and if your parents even bring it up just don't say anything and leave again.
 
Fuck that, don't run away for a few days, that's running away from the problem instead of owning up to it. You want them to treat you as a mature adult; doing that will just show them that they are right and you are not mature. You need to talk to them about it. First, you need to apologize to them. As much as you disagree with their opinions and beliefs, it was wrong of you to lie to them and go behind their back and do something like that. Again, that is not demonstrating a high level of maturity. After that, you explain to them that you don't agree with their beliefs and you would like them to accept that. If they still treat you the same and keep trying to force you to live according to their rules you have one option really: endure it until you are ready to move out and live on your own.
 
seriously i moved out when i was 19 and its awesome. i live with my parents for part of the summer but they are also super chill about everything so it doesnt matter, but it sounds like you need to get out of there.
 
three options 1. tell them you slept with a dude 2. have a nice respectful chat about your beliefs/lack thereof 3. move out. his house, his rulees
 
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