I know NSG gives great girl advice, anyone got something for me?

TheDude

TheDude

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So recently one of my friends came back from university for summer and was looking for a summer hook up. I was as well, and we were pretty close in highschool, so we started texting and then when she came home we hung out a bunch and hooked up

Fast foreword 3 weeks, a few more hookups, just chilling alone a few times and hanging out, getting the friend together whatever it may be, we hang out alot. Like pretty much every day. We get along really well and our personalities are great together, I haven't had this much fun in a long time.

The problem is I think I'm falling for this girl. Fuck it, I have fallen for her. All my life, I've had a huge heart. I fall in love waaayyy too easily and I can tell its happening. But she's going back to Denver (from Seattle) in the fall and neither of us have interest in a long distance relationship or any relationship at all for that matter.

So what the fuck am I supposed to do? I can't fall in love, she's leaving, but I want to continue what we have right now, a chillin relationship, a cuddle buddy, and a really good if not best friend.

But if things keep going how they are, I'm just gunna fall more and more and eventually go crazy from hiding my real feeling and what not. I'm looking for advice, anyone who's had a similar situation or can offer some perspective on where I can go for here. I just refereed to us as dating for the first time tonight ad that freaked me out so much. If ive ever needed reddit to come through, now is the time. Thanks for your time reading this, and I hope someone out there has something for me

TL:DR (lazy fucks) think I'm falling for a girl who's going back to school in fall and neither of us want a relationship, how can I go on and stay sane?
 
But in all seriousness if this happens often to you (you have a "big heart") then I'd just let her go and move on.
 
presumable yes, at least from the feels im getting. to the move to denver idea, that actually crossed my mind, I go to community college right now but im transferring to UW soon, but UC boulder just bumped up on my list...
 
Yeah seattle is sick but but boulder is too. you could try to to get into university of denver cause it is a better school than cu boulder. but moving to colorado sounds like the best option. plus it dosnt rain as much.
 
If I read correctly, and I'm on mobile, so forgive me .. Are you not planning on hooking up with other people in the fall ? Would it be hard to give that up when she leaves ? And moving to a different university for a chick is like trying to hit a pow line after the temperature rises and falls a few times in the preceding days ... Could be awesome, could be REALLY REALLY shitty. I know it's hard, but there's nothing wrong with sitting her down and tellin her how you feel, that you like her and it's great to have her around but you're scared as fuck about what's going to happen in the fall. If, come fall, you guys can't stop texting, calling and your Skype sessions are creeping into the 3,4 hour range, maybe it'll be time to look at doin' the long distance for a couple of months. If that goes well, transferring for 2nd semester could be a possibility. You don't have to figure it all out now, I guess is what I'm trying to say. And honesty is the best policy and shit.
 
DU hands out large scholarships to just about anybody who applies. Everybody I know who applied there, myself included, got offered $22k per year. It still won't be as cheap as CU even with that money, but the price tag isn't nearly as high as it appears. Granted, if OP is coming from community college he might just be the one kid who is too stupid get scholarship money from DU.
 
I fell for a foreign exchange student this year... It sucked so bad because I knew she would leave eventually and I'd probably never see her again. I guess just have as much fun as possible while she's there, and when she leaves just smile that it happened and try your best to get over it. Idk man it's a shitty situation I know how you feel. I still miss that fine, funny, german chick.
 
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