I don't know what to do about this girl (18 yrs old)

AmateurPilgrim

AmateurPilgrim

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Hey NS I turn to you in my time of need as you tend to be the most knowledgeable regarding these types of things. I will try to condense this story as much as possible but you must understand it is long, detailed, and has consumed the majority of my high school experience. All of the people I mention actually don't go to my high school but go to one nearby EPHS. AT the end of sophomore year I met this girl named Emma , she was friendly, funny, and had a great body. We were both interested in each other and whenever we would be at parties we would gravitate towards each other, however being the person that I am I was too nervous to ever ask her out or even put my arm around her. The summer after sophomore year she began to loose interest and next thing I knew about a month into junior year she was dating one of my closest friends named Blake. We didn't talk much but in January, I had to go over to her house for some reason (i forget) and for 8 hours we just talked, she confessed she had feelings for me over the entire summer and was heartbroken that I never made a move. That day ended on an awkward note but we did begin to talk more like good friends. But I was now in a situation where I had feelings for my good friend's girlfriend. Because we talked more constantly I had to hear her tell me about giving him head and sending him pics, which was very hard for me. They broke up in march of junior year and between then and now (September of senior year) shes's fallen for 4 different guys, hooked up with them, sent them pics, (the works). But throughout the summer she's kept texting me about this new guy, how great their relationship is, all the fucked up stuff they've done, and then it ends with me helping her through her breakup. I met this really nice girl who was perfect for me in July but I had to end it cause I was just so hung up on Emma. So there I've tried to move on but I can't. As of right now she's trying to mend together a relationship with another one of my good friends (Adam) because " he's the only guy that treats her right" when I've fucking been there for her through thick and thin for the past two fucking years, and this guy has literally cheated don her and told her he's no longer interested. I'm burnt out and feel like I just need to come clean to her but it's just such a bold move. I feel like I'm in the friendzone now but I don't know, If any of you older guys have been through something similar I would appreciate input.
 
Come clean. Tell her how you really feel.

And if things don't work out, just keep in mind that youre a senior and in a few short months, you may never see her again.
 
What he said ^

Communicate how you feel towards her and tell her, because sometimes people are incapable of seeing how things really are when their vision is obscured by feelings and hormones and such. If she doesn't appreciate the fact that you had the balls to tell her like its, and doesn't understand what a great person you've been to her, she's not worth it
 
Go for it. Its high school... in less than a year youll probably never see him again. Sounds like he has you deep in the friendzone though
 
For fucks sake, write a love story... it will be a hit with the ladies. How can you put up with this BS drama?
 
send it bro, if it doesn't work out then cut her out of your life when you go to college. Its super easy to disconnect with people after high school unless you put in the effort to stay close.

just straight up tell her man.
 
Tell her how yu feel, and what you've been through. If it doesn't go well, maybe talk to the previous girl and see if she will take you back. Of not, restart to phase one and find someone new, or find a new hobby to get her off your mind.
 
13719386:JAHpow said:
Tbh she sounds like an emotionally unstable hoe
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Tru... what man in his right mind actually puts up with a single ounce of bullshit from girls like that? I would be out the door faster than a father in the hood.
 
Don't give a fuck. Seriously you'll never see her again after high school, call her out on her shit. Life isn't about making friends, if someone uses you call them out on their bullshit and leave them to rot
 
Women logic.

Call her out kindly if she is into it cool if not fuck her she will probably be fat and have chlamydia.
 
Grow a pair and figure out what you want. Once you've gotten it figured out go and act on your feelings. You're only in the position you're in because of the way you have made it. No one should feel bad for you, especially yourself.
 
Part of learning to become an adult is not letting people walk all over you and then turning around and complaining about how they walked all over you. Eventually you'll get fed up and say enough is enough. Hopefully sooner rather than later for your sake.
 
Tbh I'd tell her how you feel and if it doesn't work out, see if that other girl will take you back. If she doesn't out either well fuck, just move on I guess.
 
Tell her how you feel. Last year there was this girl, not super hot or anything but just cute, pretty cool and a nice body. Didnt think she was that attractive beginning of junior year, found out she wanted me just cause she came onto me everyday in class. I kinda ignored it and a few weeks later I got a girlfriend, few weeks after she got a boyfriend. She always asked me how my girlfriend was in class in a sassy-ish way. We breakup after a few months while they stay together and I slowly realized I fucked up, she wanted to go to prom with me super bad before she got a boyfriend and my friends even told me like "she wants you dude" but until this year I never thought of her as super good looking.

Move forward to this past senior year, we snapchatted for a while, kinda talked in school but nothing major. After months of snapchatting and talking a bit we go to prom together mostly because neither of us had dates, shit time as expected, I mean its prom. So it was very boring and when everyone was dancing she would just ignore me and shake her booty (8/10) on her friends while I was like "Im available for grinding" and Id either dance like a fucking idiot or stand awkwardly near my friends.

After prom it was for sure nothing was gonna happen and it kinda sucked because looking back to junior year a little after my breakup I realized I had always found myself crushing on this girl periodically since she was always in a few classes each year of high school. I guess having a girlfriend blocked that realization for a while.

OP its your senior year so fucking send it, worst case scenario shes moved on and maybe youll have an awkward hallway pass but after that you dont have to see her ever again. Make your move buddy, senior year goes by quick.
 
you fucked up, you should've opened up to her when you could tell you were both into each other. Now it's too late, she's obviously put you in the friendzone and doesn't really intend to take you out of it any time soon, so you're shit out of luck.

sorry to break it to you so harsh but it's the truth.

opening up now will only create more awkwardness and possibly push you apart.

learn from your mistakes, you know what to do it'll go better next time.
 
TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL! She might be in the exact same position as you are, and too scared to tell you incase you don't feel the same way (which would be easy to believe since you've been listening to stories of what she's been doing with other dudes all this time). Like she could be playing the longest game of hard to get to. At the end of the day what do you have to lose - you can't go on being her friend if you have feelings for her and she tells you about f*cking other dudes, you'll go insane. Just tell her.
 
Sounds to me like you missed your chance and are way too far in the friend zone to make it out.

That being said, nut up and tell her how you feel and make a move, if it doesn't work oh well there's more Fish in the sea, but take your chance now before she's in another relationship.
 
This also happened to me. Make the move! Today, text her if you have to. If she's really with another dude you you gotta move on, but if she's not serious about it, step in! You know she likes you. If it doesn't work out you'll probably find someone better in college. Best of luck, you remind me of me..sniff*..
 
so you want to be the last dude on a train of your homies to get with this girl

I feel like she might not be the type of girl you try and get with long term lol
 
13720840:flowy said:
TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL! She might be in the exact same position as you are, and too scared to tell you incase you don't feel the same way (which would be easy to believe since you've been listening to stories of what she's been doing with other dudes all this time). Like she could be playing the longest game of hard to get to. At the end of the day what do you have to lose - you can't go on being her friend if you have feelings for her and she tells you about f*cking other dudes, you'll go insane. Just tell her.
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Hey thanks! It means a lot getting the opinion of a girl.
 
13721559:flowy said:
you're most welcome dude! has there been any changes/movements??
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Honestly right now I am waiting for the right moment to man up and talk to her about it. Have you seen the the office? If so I'm thinking the jim halpert approach, what do you think?
 
13721580:AmateurPilgrim said:
Honestly right now I am waiting for the right moment to man up and talk to her about it. Have you seen the the office? If so I'm thinking the jim halpert approach, what do you think?
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jim halpert is mayyyybe my favourite character of all time and the jim and pam story is number 1, so, anything based upon that in my head will go well.

my advice is that if you can, definitely tell her in person. her reflex reaction/facial expression will be a tell tale sign of how she really feels
 
You're either fucked or half fucked. The only way to know is to come clean and tell her how you feel. Its gonna be scary as fuck but you probably won't see her after high school if it goes poorly so might as well send it.

When you tell her don't fuck around with the world love tho. Might scare her off.
 
13721580:AmateurPilgrim said:
Honestly right now I am waiting for the right moment to man up and talk to her about it. Have you seen the the office? If so I'm thinking the jim halpert approach, what do you think?
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The right moment is now. Suck it up and send her a text asking if she wants to hang out tonight...tomorrow night...whenever. Soon though. Go out somewhere casual. Crack some jokes, flirt a little and get her in a good mood then just blurt it out and it will be done. You will know exactly where you stand and can move on with or without her.
 
13723574:supermagician__ said:
you've had a few days, you manned up yet?
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13723702:Chubz. said:
This. Op where the results at
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13723735:Jesse_ said:
Yeah op where you at
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I told her I wanted to talk to her and she said that sounded great, we planned to watch a movie but then she "had to cancel". After school yesterday she asked me to meet her at a gas station to get a freezie and then sit in her car and talk (not unusual). Conversation started normally and I tried to edge it toward the " I don't know if I can be friends with you anymore because I've liked you for a long time and it's getting tough" but before I could she unloaded on me with once again all her problems, issues she was having with current guy, and unnecessary details about hookups and all that jazz. She asked me for advice and once again I told her the same thing" move on, find a guy you deserve" (hint, hint) but once again I know she won't listen. I know I need to be more assertive but once again I'm stuck.
 
13724730:AmateurPilgrim said:
I told her I wanted to talk to her and she said that sounded great, we planned to watch a movie but then she "had to cancel". After school yesterday she asked me to meet her at a gas station to get a freezie and then sit in her car and talk (not unusual). Conversation started normally and I tried to edge it toward the " I don't know if I can be friends with you anymore because I've liked you for a long time and it's getting tough" but before I could she unloaded on me with once again all her problems, issues she was having with current guy, and unnecessary details about hookups and all that jazz. She asked me for advice and once again I told her the same thing" move on, find a guy you deserve" (hint, hint) but once again I know she won't listen. I know I need to be more assertive but once again I'm stuck.
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Welp, rest in pieces. I think, you should just move on bud.
 
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