How should i feel.

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Steve-Brown

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Since i was adopted at the young age of 1 year and 8 months, there has always been strife between my mother and i. It got pretty serious when i turned 5. She started to put me down all the time and what not and never treated my like her other kids. moving onto age 16, my parents got a divorce last summer, and my mom blamed it all on me. she told me repeatedly that if i wasn't here her marriage would've been saved..she also always has threatened to send me back to russia...and i'm not too bad of a kid...my dad knows it...after they got a divorce and moved out, my mom kicked me out of her house. on october 3 2012. i went over for 15min on christmas eve, and i was there 25 min yesterday. she told me off again yesterday when i was trying to rekindle our relationship. I haven't talked to my mom for years, like really talked to her..and it messes with me...but yesterday she started to call me out on everything i've done wrong and told me she just still doesn't want me to live with her. so i called her the fuck out.

i told her that she should have unconditional love for her child that she claims to love so much. and there should be no reason why she should ever leave. i told her she was a shitty mom who was never there for me when i needed her and went back to my dads.

i'm never going back again.

i'm not hurt at all..i'm numb..i'm kinda used to the shit. should i feel bad...? i honestly don't know..maybe it's just too soon....

inb4

pussy

you're a douche

momma hater

 
Feel bad? Definitely not. You tried to be kind about the situation when she clearly wasn't. People need to be called out sometimes just to show them they're being a shitty human being. If it works, fantastic. If not, don't sweat it. She sounds like a terrible person and you don't deserve that in your life.
 
was born in russiamy birth mom gave like zero info...she was apparently from poland..but she lied about her name and her address

then she told the hospital my dad was from ethiopia...but who fucking knows..she lied about everything
 
I don't like the unspoken rule that you need to love your family because they are family , if they treat you like shit , you are in the right to not give a fuck about them. You're "mother" sounds like the kind of person that will be mean with you until she is dining , then she'll want to make things good.
 
same story for my dad, his parents died and he was adopted at 2, mom never loved him as much as real kids, dad died when he was 11, mom blamed it on him... he left when he was 15. found his real family cousins back in Denmark, moved in with them, went to dental school and is now a dentist, he moved back to America and got married. I don't know what to say for your situation, I have had great parents. I guess it shouldn't bother you. If you get to the depth of it there are plenty of bad people and even if there your parents you shouldnt let it bother you, just be a good person yourself.
 
IMO im sure there is more to the story but as far as i can see you shouldnt feel bad at all. Your mom clearly has problems and needed someone as a scapegoat, its something we all do. Your mom on the other hand has taken it to a new level and it seems to be fucked up for both of you. You are old enough to to say fuck it and just take the high road. Although that seems very difficult and i cant imagine what it would be like to have a mom and know that she is a bitch but thats not something you can put on yourself. She has issues and she has taken them out on you so i think you should just say the fuck with her and live the best life you can without her... Prove to her that the son she claims ruined her life can still live a fantastic life and be successful without the love and support from a mother. I hope this helps a lil.
 
you should feel relieved that that bitch is out of your life. It seems by the way she treated you that you deserved FAR better. Numb is better than pain, and you're a champ for calling her the fuck out.

Keep your head up, some things just don't work out, that was one of those things. All you can do now is live a sucessful life, be happy and prove to her that you aren't a failure.

And send her a christmas card every year, for the lulz.
 
if you're telling the story straight then it sounds like this woman is a total cunt and has some serious problems of her own, probably exhibited by the fact that she drove your dad away

you have every right to put her in her place if she's being that big of a bitch to you
 
ya, my dad said it motivated him. I would just move her completely out of your life, let her realize her mistake, and if she is that much of a bitch then hopefully karma will do its work.
 
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