Highschool Girlfriends

El.Guapo

El.Guapo

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Just looking for stories/advice about highschool relationships. it's senior year, been dating mah lady for about a year and a half and all this college stuff is making her upset. Right now my plan is to head off to college and break up with her and I think she understands why. What are your guys experiences? Did you regret them? whats the deal
 
girlfriend knows were breaking up when i go to college, she wants to stay in new england and i plan on going out west for school/life. i bring it up occasionally so she doesnt get her hopes up that im staying on the east, but she also respects my decision to move and understands why im doing it. im a junior now and im sure when the time comes its gonna fucking blow.
 
break up with her. there are always hot bitties at your future college and they will be single and redy to fuk by 2nd semester. Long distance relationships are dumb and dont last
 
13319695:UrbanYeti said:
break up with her. there are always hot bitties at your future college and they will be single and redy to fuk by 2nd semester. Long distance relationships are dumb and dont last
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Yeah I'm not even thinking about that, the only way we'd stay together is if we went to the same school and lived together. But I wanna try and live on my own which she doesnt get
 
I have yet to see a relationship last where someone decided on a school so that they could be with a significant other. And it really sucks when someone realizes they compromised a huge part of college for a person they're not even with anymore. I am sure there is anecdotal evidence otherwise, but most of them crash and burn.

Its mindblowing how fast people change, I graduated in 2012 and have very little to do with anyone from hs except a select few of my close friends. Thinking your priorities will stay the same when you change so much about your day to day is shortsighted imo
 
trust me dump her before you go. you will anyways once you get there so just get it over with and enjoy slaying poon the first month of school rather than dealing with that bull shit
 
My good friend started dating his girl junior year in high school. 2 years out of college they are still dating. If your doing good and don't want to break up why would you? If your going to school relatively close give it a shot
 
I'm still with my high school girlfriend 4 years later and it's great. We're 6 hours apart and we see eachother basically once a month and it's super hard but totally worth it since we're both fully committed to making it work. Freshman year was definitely a tough adjustment but you figure out how much you need to talk to make it work. Yeah I can't go out and bang random sluts but it hasn't really been a temptation. I'm very happy with my girlfriend and I have just as good a time getting super drunk with my friends. So not all long distance relationships fail, just as long as you're both completely invested in having things work out. I wouldn't advise going to the same school just to be together though, since that often seems to end poorly.

If you are gonna break up with her then definitely let her know sooner rather than later since it's not fair to her to lead her on especially if she's nervous about the impending decision you will have to make
 
My high school girlfriend and I broke up when I went to college. Then I went to college and found my future wife end of sophomore year. Don't go to college in a relationship.
 
Stayed with my highschool girlfriend until i was a junior in college. WORST DECISION OF MY ENTIRE LIFE!
 
13319923:savvy_ski said:
break up with her before summer so you both have time to get over each other
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The shitty part is I know I should do this.. But it's so much easier said then done
 
topic:TheFap said:
Just looking for stories/advice about highschool relationships. it's senior year, been dating mah lady for about a year and a half and all this college stuff is making her upset. Right now my plan is to head off to college and break up with her and I think she understands why. What are your guys experiences? Did you regret them? whats the deal
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I'm not sure if this is the plot of one of those straight to dvd American Pie movies.
 
13320035:TheFap said:
The shitty part is I know I should do this.. But it's so much easier said then done
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The longer you wait the harder it will be for both of you. You can also lay it out that you're not gonna stay with her in college and you guys can still continue your relationship until the end of school. I know plenty of people who did that in high school, it's just really important that she knows what's going on
 
I'm in my junior year of college and have been dating my high school lady friend since senior year. We didn't start off going to the same school, she went to Gonzaga I went to Montana State. My lady friend now goes to MSU with me after two years, mainly for financial reasons, but for other ones too. We made it work, like no_Steeze said as long as you're both committed it'll work fine.

Breaking up with someone just because you're going to college and want to raw dog some randos is stupid because if that is really your motive why do you have a girlfriend now? At least give the relationship a shot and then if it doesn't work it doesn't work, but at least you gave it a try. That's what I told myself when I was in your situation and I'm glad I tried it, I probably would've regretted not trying more than if I did.

Don't change schools for her, or make her go to your school because that will make your relationship crash and burn. Go where you want to go and give it a shot. Long distance isn't that bad.
 
13320035:TheFap said:
The shitty part is I know I should do this.. But it's so much easier said then done
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it's hard but at least you will still have the summer to talk to each other before really leaving
 
13319866:no_steeze said:
I'm still with my high school girlfriend 4 years later and it's great. We're 6 hours apart and we see eachother basically once a month and it's super hard but totally worth it since we're both fully committed to making it work. Freshman year was definitely a tough adjustment but you figure out how much you need to talk to make it work. Yeah I can't go out and bang random sluts but it hasn't really been a temptation. I'm very happy with my girlfriend and I have just as good a time getting super drunk with my friends. So not all long distance relationships fail, just as long as you're both completely invested in having things work out. I wouldn't advise going to the same school just to be together though, since that often seems to end poorly.

If you are gonna break up with her then definitely let her know sooner rather than later since it's not fair to her to lead her on especially if she's nervous about the impending decision you will have to make
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I'm not saying your girls fucking other dudes..............

but she's fucking other dudes.
 
I dated a girl for junior year and senior year of high school and the first three semesters of college (~3.5 years). We broke up about a month ago and it sucks but I have no regrets, I think that it is much better to give things a try and know that you both wanted to make it work and couldn't then to give up on something and always have the thought in the back of your head that she could be the one and you gave up on her. Just my opinion, it is really a decision you and her need to make together.
 
I started dating my current gf when I was a sophomore in high school. I am now a sophomore in college. She is a year younger, so last year during my freshman year she was still at home (5 hours away). It sucked at first, but we got used to it. You really have to love the person to go through with the long distance thing. If you both truly want to make it work, its super easy to do. And as an added bonus you will a) get better grades without a significant other to hang out with all the time, and b) have more time to ski in the winter.

If you are both not truly invested in the relationship and cannot see being with the other for a long time, then break it off. However, do not break up just because you are going to have to be apart--only do it if you don't feel that the relationship is worth it to you or you don't truly love her.
 
Thats a tough road man but you need to realize that you are only 18 and you are about to meet an entirely new group of friends, if you're good with the ladies you will crush any girl you want in college, i dunno man. I had a gf for a long time (4 years) and it was basically my last two years of college and the first 2 years out of college and we did long distance for 2 years. I felt what you're feeling and its tough but I can't even imagine being in a long distance relationship when you're a freshman in college. Id say take a break from the relationship, go your separate ways for awhile and if in say 2 years you guys want to be together still, get back together and go from there.
 
13320260:SAiYAN.PRINCE said:
I'm not saying your girls fucking other dudes..............

but she's fucking other dudes.
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I'm probably more likely to fuck other dudes than she is
 
13319866:no_steeze said:
I'm still with my high school girlfriend 4 years later and it's great. We're 6 hours apart and we see eachother basically once a month and it's super hard but totally worth it since we're both fully committed to making it work. Freshman year was definitely a tough adjustment but you figure out how much you need to talk to make it work. Yeah I can't go out and bang random sluts but it hasn't really been a temptation. I'm very happy with my girlfriend and I have just as good a time getting super drunk with my friends. So not all long distance relationships fail, just as long as you're both completely invested in having things work out. I wouldn't advise going to the same school just to be together though, since that often seems to end poorly.

If you are gonna break up with her then definitely let her know sooner rather than later since it's not fair to her to lead her on especially if she's nervous about the impending decision you will have to make
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So you bang once a month? Dam bro that's some commitment. I'm guessing it makes the sex super worth it though like pure magical shit. You guys must be mad well with each other if you've managed to keep it straight that way for 4 years, real props to you.
 
I was just in the same situation, we started dating at the end of sophomore year and had a great relationship. We were pretty optimistic that we would go off to the same college and everything would work out perfectly but as college actually became a reality this year I started to have second thoughts. Yes we had an awesome relationship but we were both going to start a huge new chapter in our lives, and we both realized that we had both changed so much from sophomore to senior year. We both decided it was for the best to break up and we did so on good terms and are still somewhat of friends. It can work as in no_steeze's situation, but your life is about to become completely different and you will meet so many new people. It's hard as shit and it will suck, but its worth it in the long run.

Good luck man!
 
13320305:McLS said:
So you bang once a month? Dam bro that's some commitment. I'm guessing it makes the sex super worth it though like pure magical shit. You guys must be mad well with each other if you've managed to keep it straight that way for 4 years, real props to you.
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Yeah we have alway had pretty mind blowing sex even in the clumsy high school days and we still do when we get to spend extended periods of time together. It's mostly really good because we talk in detail about what makes it better for one another which it seems like a lot of couples are awkward about.

It's worked out so well because neither of us has ever questioned our devotion to the other one, and as soon as we do we will reassess, but I don't really see that happening any time soon especially because she graduates this year and we will finally get to see eachother regularly. I love being with her even when we're not physically together, and talking to her at any point in the day is always a treat eventhough we do it constantly. Sure we get in arguments here and there but we always solve them immediately as opposed to giving eachother the silent treatment for a few days which avoids them spiraling into unnecessarily larger issues. We have enough similar and enough differing views on things that it keeps our conversations interesting and plentiful, and it's a kind of compatibility I've never experienced with anyone else, so despite the distance the relationship is really quite easy.

That's why I always advise people with long distance to go for it if they have no doubts in their mind, because you shouldn't shy away from it on principle since you could be giving up something really special. People would always question us in the beginning and talk about how young we were and how we needed those college years to fuck around but we never thought that was worth giving up our relationship since we would be much less happy if we weren't together, regardless of what we could do instead. I can still go out and get drunk with my friends and fuck around and meet lots of new people and do everything you do in college, and if the fact that I didn't slut around for 4 years comes back to bite me in the ass later, I'm willing to accept the consequences since no matter how this relationship turns out I will most likely always view it as being worth it
 
Dated a girl from the end of grade 10 to about 6 months after graduating. She wanted to stay in our home town. I moved to Germany for a year. We definitely should have broken up a long time before I left. Things started going downhill pretty much as soon as I told her I was planning on taking off for a year. Instead of breaking up, we tried to hang on for a while and ended up breaking up right around Christmas. I was stoked it was over and went to Serbia for a couple of weeks.
 
tell her you don't wanna stay together in college and if she freaks out, break up with her right then. gunna be the shittiest next 6 months if you don't. you'll second guess your decision constantly. but if she's cool with it to a certain point, then no need to ruin something good. but yeah good luck brethren this shit is tough
 
13319779:yungmoney said:
Turn it into a college break booty call, maybe tell her to come visit you a weekend or two. That's what I did and it's prime.
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I always assumed you were the same age as the kid in your icon
 
I greatly regret going into college with a girlfriend back at home. It made the first two years of my college experience miserable. It crashed and burned, but I made up for it my senior year.

It did not work for me.
 
My cousin made her boyfriend go to UW-Milwaukee with her (dude is whipped). Boring school, boring relationship, won't last long.
 
13319866:no_steeze said:
I'm still with my high school girlfriend 4 years later and it's great. We're 6 hours apart and we see eachother basically once a month and it's super hard but totally worth it since we're both fully committed to making it work. Freshman year was definitely a tough adjustment but you figure out how much you need to talk to make it work. Yeah I can't go out and bang random sluts but it hasn't really been a temptation. I'm very happy with my girlfriend and I have just as good a time getting super drunk with my friends. So not all long distance relationships fail, just as long as you're both completely invested in having things work out. I wouldn't advise going to the same school just to be together though, since that often seems to end poorly.

If you are gonna break up with her then definitely let her know sooner rather than later since it's not fair to her to lead her on especially if she's nervous about the impending decision you will have to make
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Now I understand how you have so many posts.
 
13320738:~~~~~~~~ said:
Now I understand how you have so many posts.
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Ironically most of my posts are from before 2011l when I started dating my girlfriend when i didn't have any friends and just chilled at home playing call of duty. I've been pretty busy in college
 
Long distance isnt bad at all.. I live in whistler and my girlfriend lives in ottawa.. I havent seen her for a few months and wont see her until may. If you love her then stay with her and commit to that shit, its seriously not that bad especially if its gonna be worth it in the long run
 
My moms best friend has been with her husband since highschool. Then they had a kid and now he plays in the NHL. Pretty damn sweet.
 
Just got engaged to a girl i went to high school with. we didnt get together until the summer after graduation and then we went to different schools five hours apart. It can be done if you want to.

But getting to meet new people is a big part of college. Lots of people go through it both ways.
 
13320994:Tinga said:
Just got engaged to a girl i went to high school with. we didnt get together until the summer after graduation and then we went to different schools five hours apart. It can be done if you want to.

But getting to meet new people is a big part of college. Lots of people go through it both ways.
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Damn dude, congrats! Thats pretty cool!
 
Im a junior in high school. I met this one chick in preschool and we started dating. After preschool, we went to different elementary schools. That was tough. I feel you. Fortunately we were in the same soccer team. In the 3rd grade I started getting better in soccer and she went into dance. I moved to a better team and she totally quit to follow her dreams. I totally forgot about her after a couple years and some skiing with the homies. I went to middle school and she did not go to the same middle school. Not that I remembered her anyway. I met some lovely women in that middle school, it was really nice to expand my horizons. Then I went to high school. Then I saw her, I remembered her from my childhood. We started talking and we remembered each other. We're really good friends now and I have the chance to take it back to relationship mode and have her be my gf. But it's the middle of winter, and I can't ski, have work, do school work, and have a gf all while being happy. So for now I'm just talking to her. Maybe in the spring I'll make my move, if she isn't in a relationship by then.

That was a true story

Tl;dr expand your horizons and ski
 
I ended up staying with my highschool girlfriend going into college. Shit went south so fast once I started living the college life, got new friends, and matured. Wish I would have ended it sooner, since she was a stage 5 clinger and thought she was going to fucking marry me. Do yourself a favor, be single going into college, meet some girls with more similar interests to you (no matter how similar you think you are in highschool you only have a few hundred people to pick from, there will be better ones in college). Good luck bro
 
My best advice would be to avoid letting your relationship impact your decision about where you go to college. If it works out for you two that is awesome, but if you end up breaking up with her early in college you will probably regret giving up a better school or location just to stay with her.

Last year I knew a girl who was having a difficult time deciding where she wanted to go to school. She was stuck between Duke, U of MN, and Madison. She ended up choosing the U of MN which happened to be where her boyfriend was going. Less than a week later he dumped her, and almost immediately she changed to decision to Madison. Luckily for her she didn't have to wait until part way through this year for that to happen.
 
13322627:TheWingmen said:
I ended up staying with my highschool girlfriend going into college. Shit went south so fast once I started living the college life, got new friends, and matured. Wish I would have ended it sooner, since she was a stage 5 clinger and thought she was going to fucking marry me. Do yourself a favor, be single going into college, meet some girls with more similar interests to you (no matter how similar you think you are in highschool you only have a few hundred people to pick from, there will be better ones in college). Good luck bro
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Yeah dude let this one loose. Mine dug her talons deep into my brain for almost a year.. Don't go through the guilt and bullshit of long distance. And that's tough dude^ stage 5 is pretty fucked up, just makes it harder
 
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