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snowmosexual

snowmosexual

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Ever since I blew my knee I can't stop thinking about things like finding a suitable life partner, figuring out my career, and settling down. Am I just going crazy cause I can't feed my adventure habit? Is this a wake up call I'd get regardless of injury? Will I get fat? Im 23 btw
 
Not sure if I can speak on this cuz I’m only 17 but maybe it’s like that feeling you get late at night when you’re lying in bed and all the deep stuff that life distracts you from kicks in.

Am I really happy? Why did I spend half the day on my phone? I should appreciate my family more, they’re gonna die some day. I’m gonna be productive tomorrow. Am I gonna die alone? That kind of stuff.

Idk when your day is full of stimulation it’s kinda hard to reflect on the big picture. Maybe blowing your knee has chilled everything out a bit and now you gotta consider what to do with your life other than skiing.
 
Dude I feel this every day I just forget about the feeling go to work and let my life take care of itself.Gods got a plan let him lead. I have to remember that alot cuz I always feel like I need to get a wife tomorrow or something. But I'm just a kid and I need to calm down
 
Having the extra downtime is letting your mind think of things like this...its okay. As you do get older, other things become of interest and you spend more time on those things. With the injury, you havent had the fix you would normally have of the adventurous life you know. Just remember and know, you will be out chasing it again. Take the time to ponder what is on your mind. Come up with a plan that YOU want to do, go see the world, jump into a career, swipe left on Tinder all day to find that special person, just do what you want. Im not the greatest on life advice but from my experience, chase what you want to chase but also take the time to reflect on what you have done and want to do. You are on a path now which will have many intersections, stick with what you know and feel good about, you got this.
 
I'd say @oldmanski got it about right.

All I can add is, nobody's got all the answers because each life path is so different, however remember...

It's a hell of a ride, just hold on until the end, no quitting early.
 
The last thing you need to worry about when you're 23 is your future life partner, career goals are good but you're like 1 year out of college? you're just getting stressed about stuff because you don't have anything to distract you from it, you're gonna be fine my dude.
 
14440733:eheath said:
The last thing you need to worry about when you're 23 is your future life partner, career goals are good but you're like 1 year out of college? you're just getting stressed about stuff because you don't have anything to distract you from it, you're gonna be fine my dude.
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This is good advice, as a man you don’t want to exit the freeway before you’ve hit your prime, which in terms of maturity, confidence, career development, and general competence is probably not for at least another 10 years.

If I were OP and/or I had my life to do over I would make an effort at 23 to find things to contribute that are of benefit to others and not just being selfish. 20s are for being selfish but try on some responsibilities where you can and see what type of things bring you fulfillment. The thing no one tells young people about jobs, life, love etc is that if you don’t choose for yourself, life will choose for you.
 
14440638:asparagus said:
Not sure if I can speak on this cuz I’m only 17 but maybe it’s like that feeling you get late at night when you’re lying in bed and all the deep stuff that life distracts you from kicks in.

Am I really happy? Why did I spend half the day on my phone? I should appreciate my family more, they’re gonna die some day. I’m gonna be productive tomorrow. Am I gonna die alone? That kind of stuff.

Idk when your day is full of stimulation it’s kinda hard to reflect on the big picture. Maybe blowing your knee has chilled everything out a bit and now you gotta consider what to do with your life other than skiing.
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the late night toughts things is so real, i often just get so sad at that point i start crying.
 
14440733:eheath said:
The last thing you need to worry about when you're 23 is your future life partner, career goals are good but you're like 1 year out of college? you're just getting stressed about stuff because you don't have anything to distract you from it, you're gonna be fine my dude.
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what the first thing i should worry about ✍?
 
14440814:Casey said:
The thing no one tells young people about jobs, life, love etc is that if you don’t choose for yourself, life will choose for you.
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yeup.

do what you need to do in order to be happy. after a few years that will likely include a balance of everything you have described. an honest person can only go down a uni-faceted direction (i.e. ski-bumming with no money) for so long unless it brings them insane levels of satisfaction and they are willing to sacrifice everything else to continue that life. otherwise, you will naturally see that you either need more money to save for a down payment on a home, or are missing the companionship of a life partner, want to try out other activities in your free time, want to travel, etc. but you can't know these things before you have felt the lack of them and made some sort of decision to pursue them moving forward.

you can't just know everything that you will want in the future, you have to learn what you will want by going through different situations and experiences. which is dope. that is how we grow as people. just stay honest with yourself, be willing to change things you might have thought were permanent personality traits, and you will have an interesting an fulfilling life
 
Bro just do a cycle of steroids and forget about your fuckin knee. Doc is full of shit anyways. Percocet will solve the pain in the short term but don’t settle down dawg. Why worry about this shit?

you blew your knee now don’t blow your chance at being a badass slayin ass until you’re 40 while ridin on a pair of sticks.
 
14440957:ChadThundercock said:
Bro just do a cycle of steroids and forget about your fuckin knee. Doc is full of shit anyways. Percocet will solve the pain in the short term but don’t settle down dawg. Why worry about this shit?

you blew your knee now don’t blow your chance at being a badass slayin ass until you’re 40 while ridin on a pair of sticks.
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Facts. A test deca cycle never hurt anyone.
 
Pretty normal in general, especially after an injury. It's very common for injuries to leave yiu in your thoughts. Sometimes thinking about the future, worrying about future injuries, is it worth it, all those vibes.

Not bad to think about the future but don't dwell on it too hard. Goals are good, but dwelling on things in injury mode can get dark. Stay positive and you'll be back out there strong this fall hopefully. Good luck on the rehab!
 
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